3 cosas que debes recordar cuando tu ex se muda antes que tú

Lamentablemente, después de terminar una relación duradera, muchas parejas empiezan a actuar como si seguir adelante fuera una competición.

Who will be the first one to find a new partner? Who will post more selfies which show that they’re doing great and that they don’t miss a thing from their previous life? Sounds familiar, right?

Te guste admitirlo o no, de alguna manera te has visto arrastrada a la misma situación. Y lo que es peor, parece que tu ex novio ha pasado página antes que tú.

You’re still lamenting your love and you’re still grieving your relationship while he’s out there, living his life like you were never a part of it. Naturally, you feel like the weaker one and like the one who loved more.

Si esto es algo con lo que te sientes identificado, aquí tienes algunas cosas que debes recordar.

1. La curación es un proceso

First and foremost, you need to remember that healthy healing never happens overnight. Yes, it is possible for you to deceive yourself and others, lying that you’ve continuó por completo y olvidarte de tu pasado en sólo unos días.

Sin embargo, eso está muy lejos de la realidad. De hecho, reprimir tus emociones y fingir que eres mejor de lo que realmente eres solo empeorará las cosas.

Tu dolor te afectará tarde o temprano, así que es mucho mejor procesar las cosas a tiempo que esconderlas bajo la alfombra, esperando que desaparezcan por arte de magia.

Just because it looks like your ex has continued with his life and just because it appears he’s forgotten all about you, doesn’t make it true.

Puede que esté haciendo todo esto a propósito y para hacerte daño. O puede que piense que no es de hombres sufrir, así que se hace el duro y deja atrás su pasado.

Either way, this shouldn’t concern you. Even if he really did manage to move on so quickly, the last thing you should do is compare yourself to him.

We all recover at a different pace. Just because your process is taking a bit longer, it doesn’t make you any weaker and it doesn’t mean that you won’t move on eventually.

2. This doesn’t annul your history

Lo primero que probablemente se te pase por la cabeza en cuanto veas que tu ex ha pasado página es el hecho de que nunca te quiso de verdad.

You start to think that you were irrelevant, that you were just one girl in a row for him and that you didn’t leave any impact on his life whatsoever.

Let’s face it—these thoughts can hurt even more than the ruptura itself. After all, it seems he’s gotten over you so fast that you start doubting your entire relationship and everything that you two went through.

Pues déjame decirte que pensar así es un gran error.

First of all, your relationship is a part of your past and nobody can change that. You shouldn’t allow this man’s present actions to destroy your memory of everything beautiful you two went through.

No matter what he is doing right now, he can’t erase the fact that he was your boyfriend and that you guys shared some intense feelings.

3. Moving on isn’t just jumping into a new relationship

The last but definitely not the least important thing you mustn’t forget when your ex moves on before you is that a relación de rebote doesn’t equal healing. Moving forward is much more than finding a new romantic partner.

Just because you saw him with another girl, it doesn’t mean that he’s gotten over you completely.

This is especially the case if your ex has been jumping from one relationship to the next because that is living proof that he can’t cope with the fact that he’s lost you.

So, please, don’t even think of looking for comfort in other guys because you’ll just hurt yourself even more. Don’t do anything you’re not ready for just to get even with your ex or to meet the world’s expectations.

Instead, wait until you’re ready to make some changes in your life. Take all the time you need and let it do its magic.