3 razones por las que no debes salir para casarte

It is perfectly okay if you’re feeling inseguro sobre el matrimonio or even know that you don’t want to share your life with another person.

Also, there’s nothing wrong with you if you dream of waking up next to the same man for the rest of your days.

Sin embargo, una cosa es que quieras casarte y encuentres a la persona adecuada.

It’s completely different if it becomes your obsession and the only thing you think about whenever you date someone new.

Times have changed and today, there are hundreds of reasons why you actually shouldn’t date to marry. Here are the most important ones.

1. La práctica hace al maestro

When you think about your dream man, you have an exact picture of how this guy should behave, how he should treat you, how he should look – you have every little detail about him all planned out.

Sin embargo, ¿cómo puedes estar segura de que ese hombre imaginario es el indicado para ti, a menos que pruebes algo y a otra persona primero?

Aunque las citas pueden ser dolorosas y agotadoras, en realidad son una experiencia valiosa que puede enseñarte algunas lecciones importantes de la vida, especialmente las relacionadas con las relaciones románticas.

Cuando sales con más de una tipo equivocado, it helps you see what you don’t want from a man and  realize what qualities you are looking for.

Sí, las rupturas y las relaciones condenadas al fracaso son duras.

Que te dejen o quedes atrapado en una relación tóxica es algo que todos queremos evitar, pero sigues olvidando que incluso las peores experiencias pueden enseñarnos mucho.

All of it builds you as a person and helps you become the woman you’re destined to be. It helps you see how much you can take and learn a lot about yourself.

However, if you don’t date the men you know you wouldn’t marry from the start, you miss out on all of this.

You deprive yourself of the opportunity to fail – and it’s a well known fact that you can’t expect to succeed unless you fail a few times first.

2. You’ll appear as too desperate

Despite your final goal being finding husband material, you probably don’t go around telling your plans to every man you run into.

I suppose you don’t surprise a guy on your first date with the marriage talk.

However, that doesn’t mean that you’re not giving some subconscious signals that this is the only thing on your mind.

Además, el hecho es que los hombres tienen una forma de darse cuenta cuando una mujer tiene el objetivo de atarlos, lo que en la mayoría de los casos, los hace correr por sus vidas.

Don’t get me wrong – I’m not telling you to allow any guy to guiarte for ages just because you don’t want to appear as overly desperate to get married.

However, if a man senses your vibe and sees that you’re obsessed with entering a serious relationship that would eventually end up in marriage, he’ll feel like you’re trying to trap him and run away before you have the chance to limit his freedom.

Whether you like to hear it or not, most men love spontaneous girls who don’t give out the impression that they have every second of the rest of their lives all planned out.

And if you’re obsessed with tying the knot, in his eyes, you’ll be everything but that.

In fact, he’ll immediately perceive you as a woman too weak to go through life on her own and ready to settle for everything he has to offer – even if it’s less than she deserves – just to finally have a husband.

3. Te produce demasiado estrés

Another reason why you shouldn’t only date to marry is your mental health.

If this is the only thing on your mind, every date you go on and every potential relationship you get yourself involved in is a source of stress, instead of it being something you’ll enjoy.

¿Fracasará? ¿O funcionará esta vez?

¿Cómo sería mi vida al lado de este hombre? ¿Es alguien a quien pueda imaginar como posible padre de mis hijos?

Estas y otras muchas preguntas te rondan por la cabeza cada vez que conoces a un chico que te gusta.

Así que, en lugar de estar relajado, tu ansiedad entra en acción y te arruina la experiencia de conocer a alguien nuevo.

En lugar de vivir el presente pensar demasiado tu futuro potencial, que es lo último que deberías hacer.