4 razones por las que desenamorarse da más miedo que enamorarse

Crees que enamorarse da miedo. You’re letting yourself be led by something you can’t control – your emotions. 

Also, you’re opening up to a completely new person. You’re letting them in your life without holding yourself back; you’re putting yourself out there. 

You risk being hurt and having your heart broken. And that is something that we’re all afraid of, whether we’d like to admit it or not. 

Por otro lado, piensas que desenamorarse siempre es un alivio. Que esa sensación de pasar una nueva página de tu vida equivale a una liberación emocional, física y mental.

Well, think again. The process of falling out of love is everything but that. In fact, in most cases, it’s scarier than falling in love. Here is why. 

1. Es algo que nadie quiere

Let’s face it. No matter where you stand in life right now, we all want to fall in love at one point.

Puede que actualmente huya de ese pensamiento debido a una experiencia dolorosa anterior, pero lo cierto es que uno de los objetivos últimos de toda persona viva es, entre otros, encontrar el amor romántico.

Cuando eso ocurre, nadie piensa en el final. En cambio, a todos nos gusta suponer y esperar que cada relación que entablamos durará toda la vida. Que cada vez que nos enamoramos, será para siempre. 

You’re not expecting your romance to end when you’re starting it. You don’t put an expiration date on your relationship and your feelings. 

However, sadly, things don’t always end up the way we want and imagine them to. Sometimes, you fall out of love, despite that being the last thing you planned. 

And that makes all of it even scarier – the fact that it hits us, contrary to our desires. The way it is something we can’t control and something we never wish for. 

2. You’re hurting yourself and the other person

Desamor nunca es pan comido y es todo menos fácil. Por el contrario, es doloroso tanto para la persona que lo experimenta como para la que se queda atrás. 

When you’re falling in love, you never expect things to fall apart. You are not doing it, consciously knowing that you’re soon to hurt both yourself and the person you loved so dearly until now.

Sin embargo, cuando se trata del proceso inverso, todo es diferente. Se trata de un proceso desgarrador que no puede evitarse. 

Maybe your relationship is theoretically perfect, but you simply don’t feel anything for your significant other. If this is the case, then you feel guilty for allowing yourself to fall out of love with someone who didn’t deserve it. 

Te sientes culpable por no poder controlar el hecho de tener que romper su corazón en pedazos. Y saber que también destroza el tuyo. 

When you’re forcing yourself to fall out of love with someone you know 

doesn’t deserve your heart, it also hurts. It hurts knowing that you need to let go, that you must walk away, that you have to kill all of your emotions. 

3. Cuestionas todo lo que sabías

When you’re falling out of love, you start questioning yourself, your romantic partner, your entire relationship, and everything you once knew about love. 

Are you doing the right thing? Or you’re making the mistake of your life?

Is this just a phase? Or is everything you’ve felt for your partner really forever gone?

All of these questions are making you anxious, depressed and nervous. Most importantly, they’re making you doubt your own sanity and decision-making skills. 

4. You’re leaving your comfort zone

It doesn’t matter if you were happy in love or not, throughout the years, this feeling has become familiar to you. It has become a part of who you are and now you have to leave it behind. 

It doesn’t matter if you’re falling out love after a long term relationship or with someone who’s nunca te correspondíEl punto es más o menos el mismo.

Ese sentimiento que te ha abrumado durante años y que se ha convertido en tu consuelo ahora ha desaparecido y tienes que seguir adelante sin él. 

Tienes que reinventarte y descubrir la vida sin esas emociones que tantas veces te guiaron.