4 tácticas destructivas de ruptura que utilizan los narcisistas abusivos

Ruptura is always heavy stuff. Even when the guy you’re breaking things off with is the most normal dude you’ve ever dated, it still sucks big time.

You’re ending a big chunk of tu vida, and especially if you’re the one being dumped, it can be hard to come to terms with it.

Como cualquier otro cambio importante en tu vida, te costará acostumbrarte.

Pero cuando el tipo que rompe contigo es un narcisista abusivo, las cosas se complican más y son más destructivas.

Un narcisista nunca pone nada fácil. Él es el que necesita tener todo el control, así que pase lo que pase, vas a acabar siendo el receptor de sus despiadadas intenciones.

As I’ve mentioned above, narcissists can’t cope with not being in control.

Y en cuanto sientan que están perdiendo la más mínima ventaja sobre ti, recurrirán a medidas drásticas.

If he senses that you’re trying para acabar con las cosas or that you’ve started defying him, he’s going to make sure to be the one to end it first.

Y no de una manera amistosa. Va a ser de acuerdo a sus planes tortuosos y picará AF.

Si sientes que tu narcisista podría estar preparándose para dejarte, prepárate para cualquiera de los 4 escenarios siguientes.

These are his most common choices of letting you know he’s done with you. Consider yourself warned!

1. Él ya tiene un interés romántico de respaldo y te dejará abruptamente, sin ninguna explicación.

Cuando un narcisista está seguro de que va a terminar contigo, se asegura de tener ya otro compañero de cama.

Siempre tiene que tener opciones por si las cosas se tuercen. Y en este caso, tendrá cero avisos y cero explicaciones.

Su humor se volverá imprevisible de repente, estará muy irritable y tendrá una actitud desagradable contigo.

Remember, narcissists don’t possess the ability to feel shame and regret, so it really won’t make a difference to him if you cause a scene.

He will leave you with no apologies and he will make sure you know that he’s already got another chick to fill in for you.

Y ese será el final de tu narcisista y de ti. Terminará tan abruptamente como empezó.

2. Te hará quedar como el malo de la película abusando verbalmente de ti y echándote toda la culpa.

His plan is going to be so devious and sneaky that you won’t know what hit you. Firstly, he’s going to cause minor inconveniences to make you appear really shitty.

He is going to make sure to let you know just how bad he thinks you are and he won’t mince his words.

Then, he’s going to push your buttons by doing stuff he knows you don’t like and that way, he’s going to make you go at least a little bit mad and he will use it against you.

Te tenderá una trampa para que parezcas loca, inestable y como una mala novia y fingirá ser un pobre tipo que cayó en tu red de mentiras y engaños.

You won’t even understand how he’s doing it and he’ll already be gone, having achieved his goal.

You’ll be feeling like you did something wrong but all that really happened was he manipulated the shit out of you and left with his head held high.

Como siempre había planeado.

3. Va a dar y negar su afecto hasta el punto de alejarte

Sus emociones (las que finge tener) estarán por todas partes.

One day he will adore you and shower you with love and the next day he’ll be mad about the crumbs you left on the kitchen floor.

You won’t know what to do about it, as his behavior is going to drastically escalate and the smallest things will push him over the edge.

And that’s exactly what he wants you to think. He is going to make you do all the work for him by appearing like a raging lunatic and making you end things as if it was all your idea.

This is going to be an extremely toxic atmosphere and you won’t be able to handle it for long.

While he thrives in it, you’ll simply have to put an end to it and there you go.

Just like that, it’s over and he didn’t have to pull the trigger. You did it for him.

4. Va a utilizar el sexo como arma para desmoralizarte

El sexo se convertirá en un arma poderosa en su arsenal. Lo usará contra ti de cualquier manera que pueda.

Y si tienes un buen vida sexual, it’s going to be especially difficult.

He will deny you sex when he sees you really want it. And when he notices you’re too tired to function, he’ll ask you if you’re in the mood (knowing that you’re NOT).

He is going to make you beg him to have sex with you, which is something you never thought you’d do.

Pero su comportamiento no te dejará otra opción. Puede que sea un desperdicio tóxico de aliento, pero seguro que puede dártelo en la cama.

And damn it, you want it one last time. And that’s how he’s going to get you. Your ego is going to suffer a big blow every time he says, “No,” and he will enjoy every second of it.

And once he’s done having his fun, he’ll end it with you, leaving you struggling to cope with the aftermath of his actions. And it will suck. Profoundly.