5 cosas que debes recordar cuando él no te corresponde
Loving someone who doesn’t love you back is, without a doubt, one of the worst things you’ll ever feel.
Te sientes miserable y hay una batalla constante entre tu orgullo y el deseo de perseguir a esta persona y darle otra oportunidad para conquistarla.
Experiencing unrequited love is never easy. Besides being heartbroken by the realization that the man you love so deeply doesn’t care for you, this also brings about many insecurities and self-doubts.
If you’ve ever been in this kind of situation, you know exactly what I’m talking about.
You see all of this as the end of the world and you can’t help but wonder why can’t you be enough for this guy.
Well, we’re here to give you these 5 reminders which will help you get out of this as unharmed as possible.
1. It’s his right
Por mucho que duela este hecho, la cruda verdad es que la gente tiene derecho a no quererte o a que no le gustes. Y este tipo no es una excepción.
On the other hand, you are the one who doesn’t have the right to hate him because of this.
Don’t blame him, don’t look for his flaws and have enough decency to accept the reality, even though it is painful.
All of this doesn’t make him a douchebag or a jerk—it just makes him a human being with a heart that doesn’t take orders from anyone.
What you have to understand is that you can’t force anyone to have feelings for you, just because you would want it that way.
The same way you can’t control your emotions and make yourself stop this person just like that, the same goes vice versa: he can’t make himself love you back.
Después de todo, ¿realmente querrías que este hombre estuviera contigo por lástima?
Would you be happy knowing that he agreed to give you a chance even though he doesn’t see you as girlfriend material?
Besides, this is probably not the last time you’ll be in this situation.
There will be some other men in your future who won’t give you back the love you expect to receive from them and that is all part of life.
2. Lo superarás
Even though things probably don’t seem this way now, the fact is that you will forget all about this man sooner or later.
Yes, at this point, you see him as the love of your life and you’re convinced that you’ll spend an entire eternity crying over him.
Well, guess what? You won’t. In fact, in a few months, you’ll forget that he ever existed, you’ll move on with your life and you’ll be sorry for wasting so much energy on him.
Remember how they say that if something won’t matter in five years from now, it doesn’t deserve five minutes of your time.
And you and I both know that this guy won’t even be on your radar in the future.
El amor es como una flor: hay que regarla y alimentarla para que crezca.
However, when you’re not getting any feedback, the love you’re feeling toward someone is slowly dying with each day that passes until it completely fades away.
Don’t get me wrong—I’m not trying to devalue your current emotions. Instead, this is just a reminder that you will supéralo y que estarás mejor.
3. It doesn’t make you unlovable
When someone you deeply care for doesn’t give a damn about you, the first thing that goes through your mind is that you’re apparently unlovable.
After all, this is the man who saw the best of you and someone you gave your entire self to, so if he can’t love you, who else could?
Well, let me tell you something: this couldn’t be further from the truth.
No, you won’t end up alone and you won’t spend the rest of your life chasing men who can’t give you what you need just because one guy couldn’t love you back.
Sí, puede que ahora estés dañado, pero te prometo que tus cicatrices desaparecerán y que tu corazón sanará.
Te prometo que un día (y ese día está más cerca de lo que crees), aparecerá en tu vida un chico que te dará su amor verdadero e incondicional.
Cuando llegue el momento, conocerás a un chico que verá toda tu belleza exterior e interior, un chico que te querrá por lo que eres y que nunca se le ocurrirá hacerte sentir así.
You will run into a man who will see how much love and attention you deserve and who won’t go anywhere.
Most importantly—just because one man doesn’t love you, it doesn’t give you permission to stop loving yourself and it certainly shouldn’t be a reason for you to start seeing yourself through his eyes.
Remember: your relationship with yourself always comes first and it doesn’t depend on the way others perceive you, treat you or how they feel about you.
4. Sus sentimientos no son un reflejo de tu valía
Another thing that you must never forget is that one person’s perception of you is in no way a reflection of your value as a person, as a woman or as a potential girlfriend.
El hecho de que este hombre en particular no haya visto todo lo que tienes que ofrecer, no es una señal de que debas empezar a cuestionar tu valor.
So, don’t take his rejection so personally. It doesn’t mean that you’re not beautiful, attractive, smart or interesting enough, just because his heart didn’t grow fond of yours.
It just means he doesn’t see you that way.
Besides, there is always the possibility that objectively, this guy considers you to be an awesome girl but he simply can’t get himself to see you as his forever person.
In fact, even if he considers you not to be enough for him at the moment, that doesn’t devalue you in any way.
It doesn’t mean that all other men from your future will see you as unworthy or especially that you should see yourself this way.
5. Deberías estar agradecido
En lugar de pensar que es lo peor que te podía pasar, agradece que las cosas hayan salido como han salido. En lugar de maldecir el día en que nació este hombre, agradece su honestidad.
Most importantly—instead of feeling sorry for yourself, consider yourself lucky.
Al fin y al cabo, es mejor que sepa a qué atenerse.
The guy we’re talking about was sincere; he didn’t try guiándote, he didn’t give you false promises and he didn’t swear his eternal love for you one day just to backstab you the very next.
No obstante, aunque todo esto haya sucedido y aunque haya mentido al decir que te quería, es estupendo que hayas descubierto la verdad a tiempo.
En realidad has esquivado una bala aquí; podrías haber pasado años al lado de este hombre, estando segura de sus emociones sólo para darte cuenta de que no era más que un engaño.
Also, don’t forget to be thankful for all the lessons this experience taught you.
Si nunca hubieras experimentado un amor no correspondido, nunca habrías sabido que algunas personas no están destinadas a serlo, que todo ocurre por una razón y que nunca se pueden forzar las emociones.
Also, you wouldn’t have learned how to recognize the signs that a guy doesn’t love you back and that is something that might come in handy in the future.
