No es el indicado si hace estas 6 cosas cuando no estás cerca

Cuando te preocupas por alguien, normalmente sólo prestas atención a la forma en que actúa ante ti y contigo.

Supones que realmente es la persona que finge ser cuando estáis los dos solos y rara vez investigas su comportamiento más a fondo. 

However, there is one huge difference between your forever person and the guy who is not the one for you; the latter will do his best to convince you he is your Mr. Perfect but will show his true colors when you’re not around. 

Por lo tanto, si tu pareja romántica tiene la mala costumbre de hacer todas o la mayoría de estas cosas a tus espaldas, son claros indicadores de que no es tu alma gemela. 

Habla mal de ti

A hombre que te quiere será completamente honesto contigo.

Of course, he won’t put you down but he will point out your flaws and will use every opportunity to inspire you to become the best possible version of yourself. 

Sin embargo, todo esto debe ocurrir cara a cara, en privado, cuando no haya nadie más alrededor. 

In fact, this guy should have your back, stand by you and defend you in front of the entire world, even when he sees that you’re mistaken.

Luego, cuando os quedéis a solas, te dirá lo que has hecho mal. 

Nevertheless, your partner is different. He compliments and praises you all the time but changes his story whenever you’re not around. 

You’re not perfect but talking trash about you behind your back is, without a doubt, a huge sign of disrespect.

It doesn’t matter whether you two are in the middle of a fight or if he is angry at you at a given moment; he should never allow himself to criticize you or to gossip about you to others. 

Coquetea con otras chicas

In today’s world, having a faithful partner is a real blessing.

However, it is not enough for your boyfriend to give you all of his undivided attention only when you’re around and to completely change his behavior as soon as you walk out of the door. 

After all, if he’s in a relationship, his status is defined in all possible situations and it has nothing to do with your presence or absence.

It is not acceptable for him to take on the role of a bachelor every time you’re not around and to start hitting on other girls, as if he were single. 

Si este es el caso de tu relación, te garantizo que lo único que impide que este chico te engañe es la posibilidad de que tú atrapándolo.

He is not faithful because he loves you—he is scared that he’ll get caught. 

He is actually calculating things and he just doesn’t want to risk everything you two built for some temporary passion.

So, instead of putting up with his behavior any further, it’s time to give him exactly what he wants—a chance to really become single and a clear path to seguir persiguiendo a otras mujeres. 

Habla de los detalles de su relación

Everything that happens between you and your boyfriend shouldn’t concern anyone besides you two. This especially applies to your fights and bedroom activities. 

Naturalmente, ambos tenéis amigos y, a veces, queréis compartir con ellos las cosas que os molestan.

Quieres escuchar sus opiniones, seguir sus consejos o simplemente tener a alguien que te escuche. 

Sin embargo, incluso en este caso, tienes que tener mucho cuidado con los detalles que mencionas. Y tu novio también. 

Sin embargo, si sus amigos saben todo lo que ha pasado entre vosotros, no es el hombre para ti.

Es evidente que no es lo suficientemente maduro y necesita a alguien que le tutele y le diga qué hacer en determinadas situaciones. 

Knowing all of this, it is more than apparent that you’re not in a relationship with just him but with his entire entourage as well. 

Sigue siendo amigo de su ex

En amigos con un ex no es un delito; de hecho, puede ser un signo de indiferencia real entre dos personas que solían estar enamoradas.

Mientras ahora puedan ser amigos sin rencores ni resentimientos, todas las emociones que antes existían habrán desaparecido. 

Lo importante en este caso es que tu nueva pareja sea plenamente consciente de esta amistad, de su naturaleza y de su historia.

And that is exactly the issue with your relationship; it is not a problem that your boyfriend stayed on friendly terms with his ex—it is the fact that he is trying to keep it a secret from you.

Bueno, esto puede ser una bandera roja de que todavía hay algo entre los dos.

O quizás es él quien todavía siente algo por esa chica, sabe que está haciendo algo mal y por eso tiene la necesidad de escabullirse a tus espaldas.

Lo último que necesitas es un hombre que tenga asuntos sin resolver del pasado, un chico que te esté utilizando como chica de rebote o que tenga mucha carga emocional que esté intentando aportar a vuestra relación. 

Hace planes sin ti

Just because you and your boyfriend are a couple, it doesn’t mean you’re tied to one another.

You’re both allowed to have a life outside of your relationship as well as to hang out with other people. 

Sin embargo, si tenéis una relación seria y comprometida, no está bien que haga planes importantes sobre su futuro sin contar contigo.

I’m not talking about things such as moving away or changing career here only—I’m also talking about, for example, planning his next holiday without even talking about it with you first. 

Of course, he is an individual and you can’t tell him what to do but if you guys are a team, him not taking your opinion into consideration is definitely sending you a message. 

Doesn’t keep his promises

There is nothing worse than dealing with a sweet talker whose actions don’t match his words.

Y esta es la mejor descripción posible de tu novio; sigue haciendo promesas vacías he doesn’t keep. 

It doesn’t matter what we’re talking about here; if he promises you one thing but continues doing something completely the opposite, he’s not the one for you.

It is not okay if he plays by the book and acts like he agrees with everything you say just while you’re physically present and then suddenly changes his behavior as soon as he sees your back.