5 cosas que toda chica que ha sido herida hace para protegerse

Toda chica que ha sido herida en el pasado de alguna manera lleva consigo su dolor y su quebranto, no importa cuánto tiempo haya pasado desde que le rompieron el corazón.

Ella es asustada de volver a amar and she is scared that she’ll be hurt again. That is why she does some things to protect herself from potential emotional pain, even though she is not often aware of doing them.

1. Tiene cuidado con quién le gusta

When you’ve been hurt in the past, you won’t give your heart away to just anyone who walks into your life.

Therefore, a girl who has been through a lot will never fall for someone that easily. Instead, she will always question her feelings and she won’t give some guy a chance just like that. This girl won’t go out on dates often because she knows better than to give her heart and attention to some random fuckboy who’ll hurt her the same way her ex did.

Esta chica tendrá cuidado con todo y prestará especial atención a la primera impresión que deja cada chico que se acerca a ella.

You might think this is funny but she knows she can’t control herself when she loves someone, so she’ll do everything in her power to prevent that from happening.

2. She doesn’t let her heart guide her

Se trata de una chica que siempre ha seguido a su corazón. Y, lamentablemente, esto le ha traído más problemas que cosas buenas.

So she decided not to allow her heart to guide her anymore. Even if she feels butterflies for a guy, she will always let her reason decide what’s best for her. She will think her every move through carefully before she acts on her feelings.

This doesn’t mean she is heartless. It’s just that this girl simply doesn’t believe her heart anymore and she’ll rarely put it in front of her reason, even when it comes to love matters, because she believes following her emotions is what got her heart broken in the first place.

3. She doesn’t show her feelings

When a girl who has been hurt in the past grows to love you or even if she starts falling in love with you, she won’t show you this easily.
De hecho, es probable que también intente ocultarse a sí misma sus verdaderas emociones. Se trata de una chica que decidió renunciar por completo al amor y no está dispuesta a perder el control sobre sí misma una vez más.

So even when she starts noticing she has some feelings for a man, she’ll try to run away from them or ignore them, thinking they’ll go away.

And if she finally accepts that she cares for a man again, she’ll do everything in her power for the object of her affection not to notice it.

Tienes que entender que ella ha sido herida cada vez que bajaba la guardia y cada vez que mostraba sus verdaderas emociones y esto no es algo por lo que quiera volver a pasar.

4. She doesn’t believe just anyone

When someone has been betrayed and disappointed by the person they’ve shared their life with, it is natural for them to have serious abandonment and problemas de confianza.

Therefore, even when this girl meets a man who is worthy of her love and trust, she won’t believe him at first. It will take a lot of time and patience from this man to convince her that he is not like her ex.

Simplemente piensa que todos los hombres son iguales y que este tipo sólo le miente para poder meterse en sus bragas o para poder hacerle daño más fácilmente.

5. Se pone a sí misma en primer lugar

When you meet a girl who has been through a lot in the past, at first glance she might appear to be too selfish. But trust me—that is not the case.

La verdad es que ella ha dado su corazón y a sí misma a muchas personas equivocadas en el pasado. Y ninguna de esas personas apreció nada de lo que hizo por ellas.
Y ninguno de ellos le daba prioridad, a pesar de que ella siempre anteponía sus necesidades a las suyas.

Así que decidió que tenía que anteponerse a sí misma si quería ser feliz. Se dio cuenta de que tenía que empezar a respetarse y quererse a sí misma antes de esperar lo mismo de los demás.