5 recordatorios para una chica que no vio venir la angustia
¿Alguna vez te has involucrado con un tipo que ni siquiera podías soñar que te hiciera daño?
¿Con alguien que creías que era tu persona para siempre y que te hizo creer que prefería morir antes que romperte el corazón?
However, after a while, that was exactly what he did—shattered it to pieces without thinking twice.
Well, the worst part about this case scenario is the fact that you didn’t see your heartbreak coming. You didn’t expect it and it just hit you out of nowhere.
So now, you’re not only devastated by the pain of your ex leaving you, you’re also in a state of shock. What actually happened and when did things start going downhill?
If this is something you can relate to, please don’t forget these 5 things.
1. It’s not your fault
When we get betrayed by someone we trusted the most, the first thing that goes through our mind is that we’re guilty of allowing this to happen in the first place. And you’re no different.
You can’t believe that you picked the wrong guy, that you let him into your life and heart and that you gave him the opportunity to hurt you.
You can’t believe how you could have fallen for his lies and wonder whether there was something you could have done to prevent all of this from happening.
¿Cómo pudiste ser tan tonta de planear un futuro con alguien que obviamente nunca te quiso lo suficiente?
¿Cómo pudiste tragarte sus promesas vacías y esperar un resultado completamente distinto?
Well, let me tell you that you’re not to blame. He is the only one responsible for breaking your heart and you’re nothing but his victim.
No, you’re not stupid and there was no way for you to predict this outcome.
You were (and probably still are) just in love and the intensity of your feelings didn’t let you see things clearly.
2. Todo esto forma parte de la vida
This might not be comforting but you’re not alone in this pain. You’re not the only person in the world who is going through something like this.
Yes, I know that the fact that other people are suffering as well won’t ease your pain but it will definitely make you feel like less of a fool, if nothing else.
Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that all of this is a part of dating and that there probably doesn’t exist a single human being who hasn’t experienced something similar at some point.
After all, you can’t expect your life to be all sunshine and roses. You have to go through a few failures and a few break-ups before finding the real deal.
Por lo tanto, deja de ver el desengaño amoroso como el fin del mundo. En lugar de eso, considéralo una oportunidad para un nuevo comienzo.
3. It won’t break you…
Another thing you must have in mind at all times is that luckily, this man hasn’t succeeded in romperte sólo porque encontró la manera de romperte el corazón.
Even if you don’t see this now, you’re much stronger than you appear and than you might think.
Despite all the pain you’re feeling at this moment, he didn’t break you beyond repair.
Te dañó hasta cierto punto, pero tus heridas acabarán convirtiéndose en cicatrices y sanarás.
Superarás a tu ex y resurgirás de esta experiencia como el ave fénix de sus cenizas.
And when that happens, you’ll be more powerful than ever.
Te prometo una cosa: seguirás adelante con tu vida. Lo harás sin él y sobrevivirás.
4. …but it will teach you a lot
I’ll be honest here; I’m not saying that your heartbreak didn’t change you.
Yes, you still remain the same person you’ve always been in the essence of your soul but something like this would leave a mark on anyone.
Sin embargo, en lugar de permitir que la oscuridad te trague y que todo esto te vuelva negativo, amargado y emocionalmente no disponibleEntendemos este cambio como una oportunidad para ser y hacer mejor las cosas.
See all of this as a valuable experience that will shape you into the woman you’re destined to become.
Obsérvalo como una prueba de tu fuerza y tu fe, como una oportunidad para aprender a no repetir tus errores.
Mira las cosas desde un punto de vista más luminoso; lo cierto es que esta vez, el desamor te ha pillado desprevenido.
Te sorprendió y te dejó en shock, además de destrozarte.
Sin embargo, le aseguro que la próxima vez todo será muy diferente.
Now, you’re richer for one experience more and you have the ability to see the signs that something is off before you get backstabbed.
You’re wiser and smarter now and you’ll be able to spot all the red flags you should run away from. And that was never possible before.
Otra cosa que aprenderás es a elegir mejor y a tener más cuidado con aquellos a los que das acceso.
You will understand that you don’t need anyone to give your life meaning and that you can keep on going without all those you thought you needed.
Not only that—you will also master the art of healing.
Harás mucha introspección y encontrarás las mejores maneras de ayudarte a ti mismo cuando pases por una mala racha, independientemente de si está relacionada con el amor o no.
5. You’re not unlovable
Just because one guy ditched you, it doesn’t mean that your personal history will repeat itself.
Just because he failed to see your worth, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be enough for some other man who will know how to appreciate you.
Just because your ex didn’t treat you the way you deserved, it doesn’t mean that all the men you meet will be like him.
Just because he turned out to be a manipulative jerk and a liar, it doesn’t mean that you won’t run into an honest, nice guy who will conquer your heart all over again.
Most importantly—just because one douchebag didn’t care for you, it doesn’t make you unlovable o infeliz.
This guy doesn’t represent all the men out there and you shouldn’t allow your past traumas to prevent you from having a bright future and a happy love life.
Please, don’t let him diminish your worth and kill you spiritually. Don’t let him destroy your optimism and faith in love.
Don’t let him convince you that you’ll never find someone who will love you wholeheartedly. Because you will.
Y hasta entonces, hasta que llegue el hombre adecuado, quererte a ti misma lo mejor que puedas será más que suficiente.
