5 señales de que te pisotea (y cómo hacer que deje de hacerlo)

¿Sientes que siempre te llevas la peor parte en lo que se refiere al amor y las relaciones? Si es así, ha llegado el momento de cambiar las cosas.

‘Love is blind’ literally which is why most of us allow things to get too far. We allow our significant others to treat us like doormats, like we are there to be at their convenience.

Because our feelings are so strong, we allow people we love to exploit our good natures, and sometimes we are not even aware of what’s happening.

You Say “Yes” Even If You don’t really want to

No importa cómo te sientas, si has trabajado toda la semana y quieres relajarte los fines de semana, si te duele la cabeza o simplemente no te apetece hacer algo o ir a algún sitio, lo harás porque él te lo ha pedido.

Deep down, you feel like you are going to lose him if you don’t do something he wants. You are being too compliant.

Cómo hacer que pare:

1TP5Lo primero que debes dejar de hacer es ser demasiado complaciente.

You don’t have to say ‘yes’ to everything your partner says. It just puts you in a subordinate position, when in fact, you should be equals in every aspect of your relationship.

#Stop doing things you don’t like just to please him.

Compromise is OK, but it should go both ways. If he never makes an effort to do things that interest you, it’s high time to learn to say ‘NO’.

#Stop actuando como si no tuvieras vida

It sends the message that you have nothing better to do but wait for him. So, next time he calls you out of the blue at 10pm and asks if you can grab a drink, say, “Sorry, I am busy. You should have called sooner”. Respect your time. And make him respect it too.

Te da por sentado

Cancela los planes más de lo que aparece. Tarda horas o días en responderte o ponerse en contacto contigo.

Tiene la costumbre de ser grosero. Siempre tiene razón y tú eres la culpable. Te menosprecia. Y tú se lo permites. Pase lo que pase, estarás allí, sin hacer preguntas.

#Don’t be afraid to lose him; make him miedo a perderte.

Él puede ver tu miedo, y eso le da poder sobre ti. Cree que puede hacer lo que quiera, y tú te quedarás ahí.

Si le demuestras que eres más que capaz de vivir sin él y no tienes miedo a perderle, lo más probable es que se esfuerce, dé lo mejor de sí mismo y se quede.

If he doesn’t, then you are better off, and don’t you doubt it for a second.

Le estás dando beneficios de novio aunque no sea tu novio

You still haven’t had “the talk”, so you have no clue if you are exclusive or not. But you are ready for anything and everything for him. He is giving you crumbs while you are all in.

He says that labels don’t matter and that you should let it be. But chances are he is just stringing you along.

Cómo hacer que pare:

#Nothing will change if you don’t change your ways

It’s time to stand up for yourself, and stop being a doormat in your relationships. You shouldn’t be selfish either, but you should expect the goodness, love, and respect you give to be reciprocated.

Tienes que exigir el respeto que mereces. Tienes que quererte para que te quieran.

You don’t speak up

If you are letting things pass just to avoid fighting, you will just make things worse. You care so much for him, and you don’t want conflict.

He belittles you, calls you names, doesn’t do what he said he would or anything else that’s making you feel bad, and you keep silent because you think it’s a one-time thing. You think it will pass, but it doesn’t. It only repeats itself, and it gets worse.

Cómo hacer que pare:

#Don’t be afraid of confrontation

Sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself. Fighting is a normal part of every relationship, and it’s good for getting him to see your viewpoint and changing things that bother either of you.

1TP5Habla abiertamente de tus sentimientos

Don’t keep them bottled up inside. It just hurts you both physically and mentally. Speak your mind; he can’t read your thoughts. You will get that freeing sensation when you put it all out in the open.

Permites la falta de respeto

If you allow everything to happen without your guidance, he will take advantage. Even if he doesn’t want to, it’s incorporated deep down in human nature, and most of the time, it prevails.

He disrespects you, and it doesn’t always have to be with words. In most cases. it’s done with actions. He says he can’t go out with you, but you see he went out with his friends instead. He says he’ll call but he doesn’t. He forgets your birthday, etc.

Cómo hacer que pare:

#oma las cosas en tus manos

Haz lo tuyo, céntrate en tus objetivos y siéntate a observar cómo de repente organiza su tiempo para adaptarse a tu horario. Cómo se compromete y encuentra formas de hacerte feliz.

La forma en que te tratará será la forma en que tú le enseñes a tratarte.

Recuerda: si los sentimientos, los esfuerzos y las inversiones que pones en una relación no son recíprocos, estás en la relación equivocada.