6 motivos de ruptura que toda chica está harta de oír (y lo que significan)

Aunque una ruptura siempre duele, a veces lo que nos deja el corazón más roto es la forma en que un chico nos deja.

It’s the fact that we are left puzzled, sin cierre y preguntándose dónde fueron mal las cosas.

However, for generations, men have been using the same clichéd break-up excuses and these are the most common ones.

1. “It’s not you, it’s me”

Be honest: how many times have you heard the infamous phrase, “You are too good for me,”?

How many times have you been dumped by the sentence “It’s not you, it’s me,”?

A pesar de que a menudo son utilizados por chicos que quieren evitar herir tus sentimientos, a menudo te dejan dudando de la verdad.

Is there something he didn’t like about you but he doesn’t want to tell you? Why is he really breaking up with you?

Cuando tu futuro novio utiliza esta frase, probablemente está intentando hacerte sentir mejor y quiere asumir toda la responsabilidad de la ruptura.

However, it will probably just make you feel worse—it leaves you wondering what the thing is that bothers him so much that he can’t even get himself to verbalize it?

2. “I have been hurt in the past”

Cuando a un hombre le rompen el corazón una vez, es el fin del mundo.

Of course something like this leaves consequences on your entire being but come on—don’t get yourself involved in a new relationship until you sort things out with your past.

Sin embargo, esto es exactamente lo que hacen muchos hombres.

Van por ahí cargando con su bagaje emocional a cada relación que inician y acaban haciendo daño a otra persona sólo because they’ve been hurt.

Por supuesto, cuando alguien rompe contigo de esta manera, te hace sentir furioso.

Why couldn’t he have realized that he has some past related traumas before leading you on?

Why do you have to pay for someone else’s mistakes?

Why can’t you get a chance to prove your own worth without being judged based on some other girl’s actions?

3. “I don’t know what I want”

¿De verdad? Pero sabía lo que quería cuando hacía todo lo posible por meterse en tus pantalones.

He knew what he wanted when he pretended to be someone he’s not just to make you fall for him.

However, now that he’s noticed that things are getting more and more serious, he has chickened out.

Of course, this is something he won’t confess so he’ll use this excuse and tell you that he can’t make up his mind and that he doesn’t want to string you along any further.

4. “I can’t commit”

OK, let’s get one thing straight—everybody CAN commit, they just DON’T WANT TO DO SO.

Y lo mismo va para cada tipo que usó esta frase contigo.

However, he doesn’t have what it takes to tell you how things really are.

He can’t be honest by saying that he wants to spend a few more years banging everyone he gets the chance to and that he prefers the life of a bachelor to being monogamous.

He can’t tell you that he is an immature guy who chooses short-term lust over long-term love so he chooses to blame everything on his fobia al compromiso.

5. “I don’t have time for a relationship right now”

Remember one thing—whoever wants you in his life will make the time and a place for you in it.

Todo lo demás son tonterías y excusas vacías.

So when a man tells you he’s too busy for a relationship right now, it is just a nice way of saying that you aren’t important enough for him to make some rearrangements in his life.

A way of telling you that he doesn’t want to make time for you right now.

6. “It’s the wrong timing”

¿Cuántas veces has salido con un chico que te ha dicho que eres la persona adecuada en el momento equivocado?

That the two of you would have been perfect together if you’d met a little sooner or a little later?

If a guy tells you that you are the one he hopes to end up with but that he isn’t ready to give you what you need at this moment—run as fast as you can.

Ya ves, esto no es más que su manera de mantenerte como su plan de respaldo.

Su manera de hacerte esperar para vivir su vida hasta el momento en que he’ll come crawling back to youdiciéndote que siempre supo que eras especial y recordándote que hace tiempo te dijo que eras la indicada para él.