7 consejos para dejar de obsesionarte con un chico al que le importas un bledo

The first thing you need to understand is that there are plenty of fish in the sea, so stop obsessing over that particular one, especially if that fish just doesn’t want to bite your hook bait.

Simplemente no tiene sentido porque el único resultado de esta situación es que salgas herido.

And another thing is that while you’re fishing for the wrong one, the right one may just slip through your fingers because you’ve put all your energy in a person who doesn’t deserve it.

Being hooked on the wrong guy has become a Hollywood cliché. Almost every romantic Hollywood plot begins with a young and beautiful woman who aches for a guy who is completely uninterested or he is just a friend.

But, she doesn’t give up. If he is a friend, she will continue to hurt in silence, misreading all the signals he is sending her in the hope he’ll come around.

Probablemente incluso tenga novia y, como hacen todos los buenos amigos, ella se sienta pacientemente a escuchar sus problemas amorosos, esperando que las cosas entre ellos se desmoronen y él abra los ojos de repente y se dé cuenta de que su verdadero amor ha estado justo delante de él todo el tiempo.

Or, she will ache for the guy who doesn’t even know she exists. Sufrirá en silencio y ella hará las paces con el hecho de que nunca va a estar con él, pero su corazón se negará a seguir adelante.

She will watch him from a distance and she will continue breaking her own heart because she is hooked on him and doesn’t want to let go.

Pero a diferencia de la vida real, estas historias siempre tienen un final feliz.

Ese chico que era su amigo de repente se da cuenta de que ha estado enamorado de ella todo este tiempo y viven felices.

Or that guy who has never noticed her suddenly opens his eyes and has an epiphany—he falls in love with her immediately.

Well, in real life, things usually don’t go that way. Usually, you waste your life and time on someone who is just not right for you and he could never be because you don’t have the right one.

It’s just that you didn’t find him yet because you’ve wasted time trying to impress someone else. And that leads to a broken heart and pain.

Spare yourself the pain and try to cut the problem at its root. Stop breaking your own heart by hoping he’ll come around.

Stop living in a romantic movie. You’ll have your moment and it won’t be a cheesy cliché.

It will be the most romantic moment of your life and it will be your happily ever after. But first, learn how to stop obsessing over a guy who’s not into you.

1. Recuerda que no es perfecto

Él no es esa perfección que tú crees que es. Es un ser humano como tú y tiene sus manías, como todos.

No es impecable ni todopoderoso, así que deja de mirarle con gafas de color de rosa y deja de ver sólo las cosas buenas que ha hecho y que te han arrasado.

Stop for a second and try to look at the whole picture. Try to act like this situation doesn’t concern you, like you are observing him and his behavior for a friend.

Sé objetivo y haz una lista de contras y pros y luego lee tus contras y míralos bien.

Once again, remember that no one is perfect. Maybe that should help you take him off of the pedestal you’ve put him on.

2. Forzarlo no le ayudará

Aunque lo vuelvas loco y le ruegues que te dé una oportunidad y él se doblegue, te estás preparando para un futuro desengaño amoroso. No hay manera algo bueno saldrá de esa relación.

If he wasn’t into you from the moment he saw you, if there is no connection between the two of you, it will never be.

3. Habla con tus amigos

Si la persona a la que acudes en busca de ayuda es realmente tu amigo de verdad, te dirá la verdad. Te dirá que lo dejes estar y que sigas adelante.

También, when you’re blinded by obsession, emotions and a possible past you had with him, you can’t look at the whole picture, so your obsession grows even more.

Puede que incluso empieces a imaginar cosas, o a dar más significado a cosas que son triviales.

That’s when a good friend is more than welcome. Try to present the problem that is bothering you with as many facts as possible and try to exclude your emotions from it.

Tu verdadero amigo te dirá lo que debes hacer o quizá lleguéis juntos a una solución, porque dos cabezas piensan mejor que una.

Anyhow, it’s always nice to hear selfless and sincere advice from a person who cares for you deeply.

4. You’ll miss out on your best years

If you continue obsessing over someone who doesn’t know you exist or who sees you just as a friend or a friend with benefits, there’s a high chance that you’ll miss out on someone who truly wants to be with you.

If you continue to think about him, you’ll waste your youth and your best years.

Don’t allow yourself to spend the time of your life when you are supposed to have the most fun in tears and sorrow.

Mereces tener a alguien que te quiera por lo que eres. Te mereces a alguien que se alegre de despertarse a tu lado cada mañana.

Te mereces a alguien que quiera pasar el resto de su vida contigo.

5. Detener el acoso social

Looking at his Facebook profile won’t get you anywhere except to heartbreak.

You’ll stalk him, look at his amazing photos, see where he is going and with who he is with and it will only make you sad and maybe even jealous.

You’ll get sucked into an infinite hole of previous information and girlfriends.

Your obsession will just keep growing as you reveal new things about him. It will be like you’re addicted. You will just keep wanting more.

6. Recupera tu autoestima

Siéntate y charla contigo mismo. Recuérdate lo increíble que eres.

Remind yourself that you don’t need anyone to be happy, especially not someone who doesn’t want to be with you.

¿Por qué te niegas la oportunidad de conocer a alguien que nunca te perderá de vista y que te protegerá de todo y de todos?

You need to realize that if you go on a date with someone and they don’t call you back, it’s not your fault. You are not the one to blame if he didn’t like you but you liked him.

You need to be patient because if you stick to the one who doesn’t want to be with you, you’ll miss out on the one who does.

7. Don’t let him take advantage of you

By liking him and getting nothing in return, you’re just going to stay in his shadow.

Sabe que puede contar contigo pase lo que pase y te utilizará para conseguir lo que quiere.

Don’t allow yourself to be someone’s causality, someone’s convenient tool for the time he needs it.

También puede atraerte, prestándote la suficiente atención como para mantenerte enganchado.

He’ll say something or he’ll ‘open up’ and give you a reason to think he is into you when he’s not. Don’t fall for that and mantén tu autoestima.

Remember that you are one special person. Don’t undermine and disrespect yourself.

Tienes que estar orgulloso de quién eres porque un día llamará a tu puerta alguien que te ha estado esperando.

So, make sure you are there when he does instead of chasing someone who couldn’t care less.