7 consejos para no sentir celos de su pasado

Las mujeres tienen tendencia a sentirse inseguras hasta el punto de que se convierte en celos y eso arruina las relaciones y empeora las cosas más de lo que realmente son.

Taking into consideration that our partner does have a past and did date other people before us, we tend to go crazy and obsess over those women. I mean, his dick was inside her (sorry for the language), but that’s reason enough to feel jealousy, right?

There was a woman before me who he loved and cared for and that thought has the ability to make my days with him harder, because I can’t stop focusing on her and what they had.

But, if we all just took a step back and took a deep breath in, we could see that things aren’t so bad as we make them seem. We all want to stop our jealous thought process and continue our relationship in a happy manner, so here are some tips on how to do so:

Realize that the past doesn’t matter

Easier said than done, right? The past has a huge impact on us, but the deal here is that we can’t change it as much as we wanted. We can cry and scream but none of that can influence our past, because it’s already gone.

The important thing here is that he broke up his past relationship for whatever reason, but it’s over and it’s your time to shine now. You don’t want to spend your valuable days with him worrying about something you can’t change.

Todo lo que tienes es este momento ahora mismo para cambiar tu mañana. Así que aprovecha este momento para demostrarle que estás agradecida por tenerle y te apreciará y querrá más que nunca.

Don’t punish him

You can’t really blame him for whatever he’s done in his past relationships, because at those moments it seemed right. How many mistakes have you made in relationships before him?

Don’t punish him with bad behavior, screaming at him or throwing a sarcastic comment about his ex when you shouldn’t. This can just make you both mad and it won’t lead you anywhere.

Trabaja en ti mismo

Debido a tu preocupación por él y su ex, podrías empezar a perder el sentido de ti misma. Déjalo. Céntrate en ti y en tu propia salud y desarrollo.

There are so many great books to read that can teach you about self-love and there are so many beautiful things to see in this world, so don’t bother spending your life thinking about his ex. It’s not worth it.

 

Trabaje su comunicación

Communication is the best way to solve any problem, EVER! Sit down with your partner and tell him that you feel insecure because of his past and that it doesn’t let you have a peaceful moment.

Si te quiere, te escuchará e intentará comprender tus emociones. ¿Qué puedes sacar de todo esto? Tranquilidad.

He will tell you that there’s no need for you to worry because you are all that matters to him right now and that he will do anything possible to make you forget that she ever existed.

Sustituya la autoconversación negativa por el realismo

You might feel jealous because you think that she’s prettier or hotter than you are. But wait a minute! Look at yourself in the mirror and see the beauty that is yourself.

See yourself in the right light. If you really think that YOU find something about yourself to be unattractive, that doesn’t mean that your boyfriend ever recognizes it and that’s the beauty of it.

Te sientes tan insegura, pero él ama cada centímetro de ti.

Anótelo

You don’t have to run to your partner every time you feel inseguro y celoso, because it’ll take more than one chat to fix it. So, keep a journal. Write down how you feel, why you feel like this and how you can change it.

Most of the time you will find the solution yourself and you won’t need to freak out every time you feel these negative feelings.

Además, un día podrás volver atrás y reírte de lo insegura que eras, porque un día en el futuro, vosotros dos seguiréis juntos y su ex seguirá siendo su ex.

Llevar una goma elástica

Si nada más funciona, haz esto. Ponte una goma elástica en la muñeca y hazla chasquear contra ti cada vez que sientas que los celos te acechan.

This will make your body remember that jealousy isn’t healthy and that it’s combined with pain. Your body and brain don’t want to feel pain and you will snap out of it before you even start thinking about her.