7 rasgos comunes de las personas manipuladoras
Manipulative people are all around us. By mastering the art of deception, we aren’t even able to spot them in a crowd, nor are we able to actually shield ourself from their mind games and the facade they put on their face for us to never know their true colors.
Su naturaleza manipuladora y egoísta siempre acaba pasando desapercibida. Nos damos cuenta demasiado tarde de que no hemos sido más que una marioneta para que el manipulador de nuestra vida nos controle y haga lo que quiera.
To help you out and to make sure that everyone understands how important it is to run away from these kinds of people, I’m giving you a few extremely common traits of manipulative people:
1. Muestran un comportamiento pasivo-agresivo
La mayoría de las veces, personas manipuladoras are passive-aggressive. You won’t even know what went wrong and what happened and why they aren’t talking to you, they are just trying to get things their way.
Ser pasivo-agresivo sólo tiene dos resultados posibles: el primero es que te enfades con ellos por su comportamiento o, en segundo lugar, su comportamiento les convertirá en una víctima en la que correrás a hacer lo que haga falta para que la situación vuelva a ser la correcta.
En ambos casos, el manipulador está consiguiendo lo que quería de ti.
2. Te presionarán
A manipulative person will pressure you into thinking or doing things that you are not ready for. The things they are pressuring you into doing probably don’t have any benefits for them rather than a good time.
Cada vez es más frecuente que los hombres presionen a las mujeres para que mantengan relaciones sexuales o tengan una determinada mentalidad que les atraiga.
This also applies to your group of friends; if your ‘friend’ tries to pressure you into doing something you’re not a huge fan of, then tienes un manipulador delante de ti.
3. Te insultan a ti y a los demás
It’s not the same as when you’re in a group of friends and you’re all joking around and making fun of each other in a joking way but a manipulative person takes it all to another level where you won’t even know what’s happening.
They’re rude and aggressive by nature and it doesn’t matter how emotional and fragile you might be, they won’t stop because of it.
A manipulator apparently thinks that it’s very cool to bring others down and make them feel miserable.
4. Nunca asumen la culpa
Algo muy especial en el país de los manipuladores es la forma en que proyectan sus propios defectos en otra persona sin ni siquiera sentirse un poco culpables por ello.
It’s just like all those times you did a project together with someone and if something failed they put the blame on you, even though you didn’t have anything to do with it.
They simply don’t know how to take the blame and deal with the consequences, they would rather fight all day and put the blame on someone else, even if the problem is really small.
5. Nunca han oído hablar de los límites
Las personas manipuladoras tienen el impulso de traspasar constantemente los límites de los demás para sentirse superiores. Para ellos, el éxito y la satisfacción son mucho más importantes que el bienestar de los demás.
That’s why they simply don’t care if they are going to hurt someone while getting to their goal, as all they can see is the goal itself.
6. Inducen a la culpa
Algo que ocurre muy a menudo en las relaciones con manipuladores es que hacen que la otra persona se sienta culpable por tomarse un tiempo a solas o simplemente alejarse durante un tiempo, porque resulta agotador.
If your boyfriend is a manipulator, he will make you feel guilty for going out with your girlfriends and he’ll tell you that you love them more than him or that you don’t care about him at all or maybe even that you are never even there for him.
7. Moldean la verdad a su conveniencia
Well, a manipulator will tell you the truth, but… is it all the complete truth? No. Manipulators tend to tell you a half-truth that benefits them better for whatever reason.
The weirdest thing about it is that they don’t even think of their behavior as bad so they continue.
In their world, it’s better to mold the truth than to tell a straight-up lie—but let’s be honest, it’s kind of the same thing in the end.
