7 razones por las que tu ex vuelve a por ti

When you break up a relationship that didn’t bring you anything other than pain and misery, you kind of want that person to disappear out of your life forever, right? But for some reason, they sigo arrastrándome hacia ti.

At first, it might seem like it’s all about love and appreciation, because they keep telling you how much they’re missing you. But the possibilities for that are quite impossible.

Of course it’s possible that you might go back to your ex, you might realize that the relationship you had was everything you wanted.

Pero si tu ex era un manipulador tóxico and he comes back to you asking for forgiveness, you need to know the possible reasons why he’s coming back to you.

Celos

He might have seen you hanging around with another man and that triggered his jealousy. A man can’t stand it if you start seeing another man because that hits him right in the guts and he finds it to be disrespectful.

You’re happy before he finds another woman? For him, there’s nothing happy about it.

Also if you’re happy without him, if you’ve dedicated yourself to make your future better, he will get jealous and come crawling back to make it miserable again.

Sexo

Puede ser que los dos tuvierais sexo de forma regular y ahora, sin él, se sienta sexualmente frustrado. Además, si tiene una nueva pareja, puede que ella no sea tan buena en las sábanas como tú.

El sexo suele ser una gran motivación para que un hombre vuelva arrastrándose con su ex. Es decir, estuvisteis juntos un tiempo y trabajáis bien juntos.

You know what he likes and he simply doesn’t want to waste time teaching someone else the things that you do perfectly.

Tiene miedo a la soledad

This is especially true if you’ve been together for a long period of time. He simply isn’t used to estar solo y pensar en ello le asusta.

He also may have tried other relationships but he got dumped or it didn’t work out and he wants you because it feels familiar.

This won’t work out, because you probably know that you can’t love someone unless you love yourself.

Arrepentirse

Aunque no lo creas, tu ex, incluso ese gilipollas, puede aprender la lección y volver a pedirte una segunda oportunidad porque se arrepiente de haberte dejado y de haberte tratado como lo hizo.

Regret doesn’t really mean that he has changed though, just that he wants to see what’s going to happen if you start again.

Also, he simply didn’t want to deal with difficulties in your relationship but he realized that those things weren’t that bad and that you could’ve gotten over them.

Controlar

¿Es él quien se fue? Si es así, hay muchas posibilidades de que le encante controlar lo que hace y lo que hacen las personas que le rodean.

If he left you, it represents an act of power and also he thinks that he can come back at any given time, knowing that you’ll be there to welcome him with widespread arms.

Recuerdos

You know that you get emotional flashbacks because of old memories too, so you can’t actually blame him. Te echa de menos and he’s aware of the mistakes he made.

Te quería de verdad y lo pasasteis muy bien juntos. Así que, ¿por qué no escuchar lo que tiene que decir?

Rechazo

La escena de las citas de hoy en día es bastante aterradora para alguien que acaba de salir de una relación. Puede que le asuste el rechazo.

He knows that he can always come back to you and be happy in your arms but putting himself out there and getting his pride hurt isn’t an option for him.

Also, he might have low self-esteem that doesn’t allow him to find someone else. This isn’t really a good motivator to restart a relationship and you know that.