7 señales de que no está rompiendo contigo (todo está en tu cabeza)

Normalmente, es al revés. Por lo general, todo el mundo está escribiendo acerca de los signos que realmente quiere romper con usted.

You’re reading through it, hoping that what you read is wrong.

¿Y si pasamos al siguiente nivel para deshacernos de tu paranoia de una vez por todas?

What if I manage to prove it to you that it’s all in your head, and he is perfectly happy with you?

Sé que cada vez que estás en una relación, temes que él vaya a romper contigo. ¿Sabes por qué te sientes así?

Because you’re not confident, and you believe you’re not good enough.

Así que en lugar de acobardarte e imaginarte el peor de los escenarios, tranquilízate un poco y cree que, por una vez, no te va a abandonar.

Usually, when you start panicking, your panic reflects on your body language, and in that way, you’re scaring the poor guy off.

Your body is showing what your mind thinks which gets him thinking you want out. And the end result of that is – he dumps you!

Make it different this time around. Don’t work up the worst case scenario in your head when things get a bit bumpy.

No relationship is perfect, and sooner or later, you are going to go through some stuff which won’t go away overnight.

So, instead of thinking he will break up with you, think about what you could do to make things better and solve whatever it is that’s bothering you.

In the meantime, check out the signs that will calm you down a bit – signs he is not going to break up with you nor ever intended to.

1. He’s open about his feelings

It’s another thing that you don’t believe him. It’s so normal to have doubts and to question your own decisions.

It’s like you’ve been put to a test, and you have to pass it. But with you, it’s different.

You’re questioning yourself because you don’t believe in yourself.

Even after you’ve asked your boyfriend upfront whether he wants to break up with you and he’s told you upfront he doesn’t, you still don’t believe him.

Sometimes it’s better to get out of your head and trust someone for a change. Try not to think that the whole world is against you.

Porque si sigues viviendo con esa mentalidad, la gente va a empezar a abandonarte.

2. Te escucha cuando hablas

A man who doesn’t give a damn about you doesn’t give a damn about what you’ve got to say either.

He, on the other hand, remembers everything you say. He remembers you’ve said what your favorite food is; he knows your favorite song.

Recuerda las historias de cuando eras pequeño. Te escucha de verdad cuando hablas.

How can it cross your mind that a man who has a genuine interest in everything about you would leave you? It doesn’t make any sense.

3. He doesn’t walk away from problems

Toda pareja que se preocupe por la supervivencia de su relación hará todo lo que esté en su mano para mantenerla viva.

If you are experiencing problems and your partner doesn’t want to do anything about them and even avoids talking about your problems in general, then you can be sure he doesn’t care about your relationship.

Si, por el contrario, está interesado en averiguar cuál es el problema y cómo podrías solucionarlo, entonces incluso pensar en el hecho de que quiere romper es una locura.

It’s definitely all in your head.

4. El sexo sigue siendo bueno

Y lo que es más importante, seguís teniendo relaciones sexuales, lo que significa que la química sigue viva.

For as long as you attract each other and feel the sexual connection between you, you don’t have to worry.

Sex is like half of the relationship. If something’s wrong in the bedroom department, your relationship might be questionable.

If you don’t want a relationship, the last thing you want is to have sex with that person. Actually, you don’t want to have anything to do with them.

If anything, you’ll try to spend as little time as you can with them. You’ll try to avoid them.

5. Cambia por ti

Abandona los malos hábitos que tenía sólo porque tú se lo pides.

If you’re dealing with a man who doesn’t give a damn about you, he won’t move a finger for you.

Tus buenas intenciones se interpretarían como un regaño.

But a man who loves you and wants your relationship to succeed will listen to you because he knows you want only what’s good for him. He will try to change.

6. Hace cosas por ti

Instead of watching the game with his friends, he is taking you to the movies. And of course, you’re picking what you’re going to watch.

A guy who doesn’t care about you also doesn’t care about where you want to go and what you want to do.

A guy who wants to break up won’t think twice between choosing to watch the game or go somewhere with you.

He won’t do these things that make you happy. He would distance himself from you little by little, and in the end, he would leave for good.

7. He’s not cold

Cuando alguien pierde interés en ti, empieza a actuar con frialdad y se vuelve cada vez más distante.

But, your boyfriend doesn’t do that. He is not excluding you from his life.

Sigue siendo cariñoso y afectuoso. Te abraza y te besa cada vez que puede.

Do you see? It’s all in your head. Start believing in yourself for a change. You are good enough. You deserve love.

Y no, no va a romper contigo.