7 segni che non ti sta lasciando (è tutto nella tua testa)

Di solito è il contrario. Di solito, tutti scrivono dei segni che lui vuole davvero rompere con te.

You’re reading through it, hoping that what you read is wrong.

E se portassimo le cose al livello successivo per sbarazzarci della vostra paranoia una volta per tutte?

What if I manage to prove it to you that it’s all in your head, and he is perfectly happy with you?

So che ogni volta che avete una relazione avete paura che lui vi lasci. Sapete perché vi sentite così?

Because you’re not confident, and you believe you’re not good enough.

Perciò, invece di spaventarvi e di immaginare la peggiore delle ipotesi, calmatevi un po' e credete che, per una volta, non vi abbandonerà.

Usually, when you start panicking, your panic reflects on your body language, and in that way, you’re scaring the poor guy off.

Your body is showing what your mind thinks which gets him thinking you want out. And the end result of that is – he dumps you!

Make it different this time around. Don’t work up the worst case scenario in your head when things get a bit bumpy.

No relationship is perfect, and sooner or later, you are going to go through some stuff which won’t go away overnight.

So, instead of thinking he will break up with you, think about what you could do to make things better and solve whatever it is that’s bothering you.

In the meantime, check out the signs that will calm you down a bit – signs he is not going to break up with you nor ever intended to.

1. He’s open about his feelings

It’s another thing that you don’t believe him. It’s so normal to have doubts and to question your own decisions.

It’s like you’ve been put to a test, and you have to pass it. But with you, it’s different.

You’re questioning yourself because you don’t believe in yourself.

Even after you’ve asked your boyfriend upfront whether he wants to break up with you and he’s told you upfront he doesn’t, you still don’t believe him.

Sometimes it’s better to get out of your head and trust someone for a change. Try not to think that the whole world is against you.

Perché se continuate a vivere con questa mentalità, le persone cominceranno davvero ad abbandonarvi.

2. Vi ascolta quando parlate

A man who doesn’t give a damn about you doesn’t give a damn about what you’ve got to say either.

He, on the other hand, remembers everything you say. He remembers you’ve said what your favorite food is; he knows your favorite song.

Ricorda le storie di quando eravate piccoli. Ti ascolta davvero quando parli.

How can it cross your mind that a man who has a genuine interest in everything about you would leave you? It doesn’t make any sense.

3. He doesn’t walk away from problems

Ogni coppia che ha a cuore la sopravvivenza della propria relazione farà tutto ciò che è in suo potere per mantenerla in vita.

If you are experiencing problems and your partner doesn’t want to do anything about them and even avoids talking about your problems in general, then you can be sure he doesn’t care about your relationship.

Se, invece, è interessato a scoprire qual è il problema e come potreste risolverlo, allora anche solo pensare al fatto che voglia rompere è una follia.

It’s definitely all in your head.

4. Il sesso è ancora bello

E, cosa più importante, fate ancora sesso, il che significa che la chimica è ancora viva.

For as long as you attract each other and feel the sexual connection between you, you don’t have to worry.

Sex is like half of the relationship. If something’s wrong in the bedroom department, your relationship might be questionable.

If you don’t want a relationship, the last thing you want is to have sex with that person. Actually, you don’t want to have anything to do with them.

If anything, you’ll try to spend as little time as you can with them. You’ll try to avoid them.

5. Cambia grazie a voi

Abbandona le cattive abitudini che aveva un tempo solo perché glielo chiedete voi.

If you’re dealing with a man who doesn’t give a damn about you, he won’t move a finger for you.

Le vostre buone intenzioni verrebbero interpretate come assillo.

But a man who loves you and wants your relationship to succeed will listen to you because he knows you want only what’s good for him. He will try to change.

6. Fa le cose per voi

Instead of watching the game with his friends, he is taking you to the movies. And of course, you’re picking what you’re going to watch.

A guy who doesn’t care about you also doesn’t care about where you want to go and what you want to do.

A guy who wants to break up won’t think twice between choosing to watch the game or go somewhere with you.

He won’t do these things that make you happy. He would distance himself from you little by little, and in the end, he would leave for good.

7. He’s not cold

Quando qualcuno perde interesse per voi, inizia a comportarsi in modo freddo e diventa sempre più distante.

But, your boyfriend doesn’t do that. He is not excluding you from his life.

È ancora caldo e affettuoso. Ti abbraccia e ti bacia ogni volta che ne ha la possibilità.

Do you see? It’s all in your head. Start believing in yourself for a change. You are good enough. You deserve love.

E no, non ti lascerà.