5 Comportamientos Tóxicos Que Él Hace Y Que Destruirán Su Relación

At the beginning everything is easy. You are blinded by infatuation and the sexual chemistry is too strong to see what is really going on or what your partner is truly like. We all give the best of ourselves to impress whoever we are dating. Most of us hide our imperfections, but that is completely understandable if you don’t have anything serious to hide.

El verdadero problema surge cuando tropiezas con alguien que es tóxico. Por supuesto, ocultará esa faceta suya porque quiere atraerte. Se presentará como perfecto e intachable hasta que te sueltes un poco y empieces a confiar en él.

When the honeymoon phase is over, the masks drop and you are finally able to see the true face of your loved one. The problem is that most of us get comfortable and we put down our guards. That’s when the toxic behaviors start emerging.

There doesn’t have to be anything big at first. Actually, there never is. Toxic behaviors are disclosed bit by bit until they cause a great explosion of emotions and finally a catastrophe.

To prevent becoming a victim of toxic behavior, it’s best not to give in to the passion completely at the beginning. Try to look at things with a different pair of eyes, like it’s happening to someone else.

Intenta ser objetivo y cauto. Quizá entonces veas todas las alertas rojas que te gritan que salgas de ese entorno tóxico.

Estos son los comportamientos tóxicos que presenta y que harán que vuestra relación se vaya al garete:

1. He can’t stand criticism

Siempre que hay un problema en tu relación que te hace infeliz y cuando te enfrentas a él por ello, se vuelve loco. Digas lo que digas, le critiques lo que le critiques, reacciona de forma exagerada.

You think that after some time you’ve been together, he will realize that you don’t want to put him down but help him become better by showing him his mistakes and things he did that hurt you. But, he doesn’t get it that way.

He thinks you are out to get him and humiliate him. Therefore, any overreaction by him as feedback on something you’ve got to say is clearly showing disrespect to you.

By doing this, he is telling you he doesn’t want to hear what you’ve got to say. He doesn’t respect you.

Don’t let this happen to you. No one has the right to control your life or to see you submissive to him. If you are feeling unhappy, you have the right to talk about it.

If he denies you this, then it’s better to leave than to deal with much greater consequences that will follow.

Your self-respect is highly important and if he doesn’t respect you, it’s only a matter of time when you will stop respetándote a ti mismo. Y entonces, tienes un problema.

2. Te está ocultando cosas

Trust is the most important ingredient of a successful relationship. It’s the ground on which you build your future life with the one you love. If you are not honest with each other, your relationship will fail sooner or later.

You won’t know if he is lying to you at the beginning, but he won’t be able to withhold the truth for so long. It will eventually come out in the open.

You don’t deserve to be treated like this. Just remember that there are plenty of guys out there who would treat you like their princess, who would never lie to you because they simply trust you.

Saben que les ayudarás y comprenderás sin juzgarles.

3. Te está dando largas

This is pretty much the same as ignoring someone. He won’t even acknowledge your presence.

Si estás hablando con él y tratando de explicarle cómo te sientes o tratando de resolver algún problema, te ignorará por completo y se quedará mirando su teléfono o simplemente abandonará la conversación sin anunciarlo.

Why? Simply, because he doesn’t give a damn. This is not healthy behavior. By stonewalling your partner, the two of you can only grow more apart even if there was a chance to solve your problems.

Tienes derecho a que te escuchen. Tu voz tiene que ser escuchada. Aunque no tengas razón, tienes derecho a decir lo que quieras. Nadie puede ni debe impedírtelo.

Don’t fool yourself by excusándole, that he is tired or whatever. If you don’t stop this in time, it will only get worse.

4. Le niega afecto

Maybe you did something he doesn’t approve of or dislikes and he wants to punish you by withholding affection. He doesn’t want to give you love in order to teach you a lesson.

We are all human beings. We need the human touch and we need to be held in someone’s arms. In short, we need love and we need to be loved.

You have to realize that if you’ve been true to yourself and honest, you don’t have to be punished. Actually, no one deserves to be punished, no matter what they did, and you don’t either.

Puede que la falta de amor no le afecte de inmediato, pero le causará más dolor y consecuencias en el futuro.

5. He doesn’t respect your boundaries

Te está robando el sentido de ti misma. Si te incluye constantemente en las cosas que le gusta hacer sin preguntarte antes o sin darte la oportunidad de decir si te gusta o no su idea, te está negando el derecho a ser quien realmente eres.

You have your boundaries as we all do. You have things you like doing and things you hate. If he doesn’t respect that, well then he is nothing more than a selfish jerk who only wants what is good for him.

Don’t give anyone the power to control your happiness. You have to be the one al mando de tu vida and if the two of you don’t like the same things, you should try to find that out and not force each other to do what only one of you likes. You mustn’t give him that much power over you.

Porque, cuando lo mires, tu vida terminará y lo único que recordarás son las cosas que él quería hacer y los lugares a los que quería ir.

¿Dónde te deja eso? ¿Qué hiciste con tu vida? ¿Era tu vida?