8 razones por las que es importante respetar la regla del no contacto

When a relationship ends, we feel betrayed and broken and loneliness hits us like a train. We are left to find a way to be all alone again, while we just want to curl up in a ball and pretend we don’t exist.

In coping with the ending of a relationship, we choose to stay in contact with our ex, thinking it’ll be easier for us if they are still around us and maybe we’re still hoping we will find a way to figure things out, to try again.

Pero sólo nos duele más y más cada día, porque nos rodeamos de la persona que todavía amamos, a pesar de que esa persona es la razón por la que estamos rotos.

Nos rodeamos de recuerdos y nos aferramos tanto a ellos que no hay forma de seguir adelante.

That’s why the norma de no contacto is important. It’s basically avoiding each other and staying exes, without ever becoming friends (or at least not before a decade or so passes by).

Terminar una relación es duro, y a menos que hayas tenido un final feliz, la regla del no contacto is quite necessary. Yes, there is such a thing as a happy ending, it’s when both of you fall out of love and end things on good terms.

But, unfortunately, that is really rare. So in order to help you decide to follow the no contact rule, read the list of reasons why it’s important in the process of your healing.

Te ayuda a seguir adelante

How can you move on if you’re still stuck in the same place of your love life? You keep your ex close, still reliving your memories and only deepening your pain.

Una vez que sácalo de tu vidapuede ayudarte a centrarte en ti mismo, a desprenderte de todos los recuerdos. Lejos de los ojos, lejos del corazón.

Le ayuda a centrarse en la curación

It’s so much easier to focus on healing when you don’t have to look at your ex and wonder if there was something else you could have done to make it work.

Memories are strong and if you’re still in contact with your ex, they will find a way to consume you and make it hard for you to heal.

You won’t be able to focus on anything besides all those times you two had a blast together. It’s like reliving the pain over and over again.

Esperando, y luego viendo esas esperanzas estrellarse. No vale la pena, suéltalo.

Your flame can’t be rekindled

Feelings don’t disappear the moment a relationship ends and we all know it too well. Just because we parted ways it doesn’t mean we parted hearts too.

Even when we move on, there are still certain feelings toward our ex and that’s more than okay. You shared a part of your life with that man, it’s completely normal to care for him in a way.

But for you to move on, you need to accept the fact that the two of you are over and separate yourself from him, so your feelings can’t be rekindled.

Puede parecer duro al principio, cortar todos los lazos después de haber pasado mucho tiempo juntos, pero tu corazón te lo agradecerá.

Por fin puedes sentir la libertad

Si mantienes el contacto con tu ex, es muy posible que sigas sintiéndote culpable por coquetear con otros hombres, porque en el fondo aún te sientes comprometida con él.

For you to feel your freedom once again, it’s important to actually be free. Let go of him and abraza tu vida de soltero¡Chica!

Podrás crear nuevos recuerdos

Como ya he dicho, los recuerdos son tan fuertes e importantes en nuestra vida que incluso sentir su olor puede arrastrarte de nuevo a ese huracán de emociones y a esos pedazos rotos de tu antiguo yo.

Hablar con tu ex y pasar tiempo con él es la manera perfecta de encerrarte en el pasado, en la reviviscencia de viejos recuerdos.

Necesitas hacer nuevas, para poder desprenderte de las viejas. Deja de pensar en si te echa de menos o no.

Turn off your phone or give it to your friend and go clubbing (pro tip – this prevents you from drunk-texting), find something new to look forward to or bring back your old dreams.

There is nothing stopping you from living your life to the fullest, so please don’t let the memories from the past stop you from doing so.

Te ahorra frustraciones

Ver a tu ex flirteando y obligarte a sonreír es realmente, indescriptiblemente frustrante.

Créeme. Ver sus fotos en las redes sociales donde muestra lo mucho que está disfrutando de su nueva vida en solitario es doloroso. ¿La mejor forma de evitarlo? Evita a tu ex.

Le ayuda a evitar una relación intermitente

Si los dos seguís en contacto, hay muchas posibilidades de que volváis a estar juntos.

And there is a reason you broke up in the first place, whether it’s because of differences you couldn’t ignore or someone drifting away and falling out of love, or another reason.

Pero volver a estar juntos en el calor de un momento privado y porque los dos se sienten solos no es una razón lo suficientemente fuerte como para permanecer juntos.

Puedes quedarte atrapado en un relación on-off y eso sólo destruirá tu corazón ya roto.

Evita que te hagan daño una y otra vez

Seeing your ex move on while you’re still in love is heartbreaking even more than the break-up itself.

Or being the one to move one while he is still hurting is equally painful. You still care for him, but you care for yourself more, so you’re moving on. But because of him, you feel guilty and bad about it.

That’s why the no contact rule is important to follow, because it can save both of you from being hurt over and over again.

Following the no contact rule is hard and drastic, but it’s also really important and crucial for healing and moving on.