9 Señales de que el amor que tienes no es el que realmente mereces

El amor es ciego". Estoy seguro de que muchos de vosotros ya conocéis este dicho, pero cuando estamos enamorados tendemos a olvidar su verdadero significado.

Cuando enamorarse, our way of thinking significantly changes and we become literally blind to some red flags and other things indicating that something’s not right.

We get deluded into believing that everything is perfect and that we’re happier than ever but is this really true? Is the love you have the love you actually deserve?

Well, there’s one way to find out. If you’re in love, you’re probably already doing everything you can to maintain your relationship.

You love each other a lot and you’re really determined to succeed. But there are some things that you probably haven’t paid much attention to.

If these 9 things are happening in your relationship, it means you’re not with the right person and the love you have is not the love you actually deserve!

Te censuras a ti mismo

Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t say something in front of your partner because he might judge you or misinterpret it? Well, if you feel like this once in a while, it’s not a big deal. 

But if you’re constantly weighing up in your head if you should say something or do something because you feel anxious about your partner’s reaction, then it is a huge problem in a relationship.

No sentirse cómodo con su pareja para ser quien realmente es es la bandera roja número uno que nunca debe evitar porque estar enamorado se trata de ser genuino con uno mismo y la aceptación de las diferencias.

Véase también: 10 diferencias clave entre amar a alguien y estar enamorado

Your partner doesn’t give you the right support

This one is really easy to miss because we all mostly pay attention to how our partner is treating us when we’re going through rough times and we seldom ask ourselves how our partner is treating us when we’re nailing it.

Si tu pareja muestra signos de celos y de que no se alegra realmente de tu éxito, puedes estar seguro de que no te está dando el apoyo adecuado.

You can easily notice them faking it by their body language and their choice of words when they are ‘showing you support’.

You’re the only one who sees any good traits in your partner

¿Tus amigos y tu familia aprueban a tu pareja o creen que no te conviene?

If you’re the only one who sees any good traits in your partner, the chances are that you’re living in an illusion.

So, if the majority of the people you know don’t really like your partner, then there must be a valid reason for such thinking.

When you’re in love, it’s easy for you to foresee all the red flags and fatal flaws because you’re blinded by love and that is why it is good to think about the opinions of others as well.

Véase también: 6 señales de alarma en su comportamiento que nunca debes malinterpretar

Pones excusas a tu pareja

Sí. Cuando queremos de verdad a alguien, tendemos a excusarle cuando nos trata mal o hace algo egoísta.

By doing so, we’re turning a blind eye to the real problems and issues in our relationship.

We do this because we want to continue living in our imaginative fairy tale. We don’t want to accept the fact that something needs to be changed.

If you’re guilty of doing this and you can relate to everything said above, then you can be sure the love you have isn’t the love you actually deserve.

You’re always the one who has to initiate everything

¿Siempre eres tú quien envía los mensajes, llama e inicia todo primero?

If you are, it means you’re making way more effort than your partner and you should never even think of finding excuses for that.

After all,’it takes two to tango’ and going out of your way to keep things functioning can never work in the long run.

Su pareja rara vez se disculpa

It’s completely normal to make mistakes in a relationship but if your partner never or seldom ever apologizes for it, it means no te tratan como te mereces.

Si siempre te disculpas después de decir o hacer algo mal, seguro que te mereces el mismo trato a cambio.

You don’t feel beautiful around your partner

If you can’t remember the last time your partner complimented your outfit, hair, behavior or something else, then it means they are not making enough effort to make you feel special. 

If you’re always giving your best to look beautiful and to amaze your partner with your choices and they never say anything that will show their appreciation, know that this is not the love that you deserve.

Te mereces sentirte guapa tal y como eres y te mereces oír cumplidos a diario (sobre todo si siempre te aseguras de decirles algo bonito para que se sientan mejor).

Su pareja está rodeada de otras personas

¿Has notado que tu pareja se comporta de forma diferente cuando está rodeada de sus amigos o de otras personas cercanas?

Si es así, significa que no te tratan con el mismo respeto que a los demás.

It means they are taking you for granted and you certainly don’t deserve that.

Véase también: 7 cosas que hacer cuando te da por perdida

You feel like you don’t know where you stand

Do you ever feel like you have no idea where you stand in the relationship and you’re kind of confused about everything your partner does or says?

If you do, it means you’re feeling in your gut that something’s not right in your relationship and you’re kind of lost in all that.

If you’re feeling it in your gut, it likely means it’s true and you definitely should never settle for anything less than you deserve.

Mereces experimentar un amor que te haga sentir dichosa y genuinamente feliz en lugar de confundida o preocupada.