5 maneras de lidiar con la mirada errante de tu novio

It’s like something encrypted in a man’s DNA that every time an attractive woman passes by, they have to check her out, top to bottom. Maybe not all men but most of them behave in this way.

I understand it’s a guy thing and something it’s OK to do when you are among your male friends but when you are in the presence of your girlfriend, giving some other women the eye is disrespectful, to say the least.

However, a wandering eye means something else entirely to the male mind. They don’t see what all the fuss is about.

To them, giving a random girl who crosses their path a once-over is natural and it doesn’t diminish their feelings toward their girlfriend and it doesn’t mean they are thinking about trampas; for them it’s just a normal reaction. They often say, I’m in love but I’m not blind.”

On the other hand, women check men out too. But they do it in a more subtle way and in situations where their significant other is not present because they don’t want to be disrespectful, and because the female brain works differently.

Una mujer enamorada estará más concentrada en su pareja que en cualquier otra persona de su entorno.

So we can say that a wandering eye is one more major difference between the sexes, that is if men don’t cross the line.

En cualquier caso, molesta a las mujeres y puede que necesiten algunas formas útiles de afrontar este tipo de situaciones:

Utilizar la psicología inversa

The next time he ogles other women, do the same. Follow his lead. Say something along the lines of, “Wow she looks hot,” or, “Oh my God, look at that butt! Amazing!”

Behave like he would behave and then add some more flavor to it. He won’t know what hit him. You will turn his attention to you and he will perceive you as a confident woman who is not intimidated by other women.

Juega limpio

Puede que esté intentando provocar una reacción de celos en ti o que simplemente quiera más atención. Puede que te esté poniendo a prueba para ver si reaccionas de forma exagerada. Tranquilízate y haz como si no hubiera pasado nada.

If he is really just trying to provoke jealousy, he will stop when he sees it isn’t working.

Diga que se siente incómodo

If his wandering eye is taking it too far, if it’s more than a glance and more like a stare and if you feel like he is crossing the line in any way, you have to react. Don’t start a fight that will lead you nowhere.

Calmly explain that his behavior is disrespectful and that he should put himself in your shoes. He wouldn’t be happy about you giving the once-over to some hot guy while he is right next to you, now would he?

If he continues regardless of your words, it’s best you leave. A man who doesn’t respect you or your feelings doesn’t deserve tu tiempo.

Si no era consciente de su comportamiento o si lo hizo sin intención de hacerte daño, se disculpará y podrás seguir adelante.

Quizá necesite tu ayuda para dejar el hábito

Si tiene muchos amigos varones, es posible que hayan empezado a hacerlo por diversión, de modo que miren a las chicas al pasar junto a ellos y hagan comentarios entre ellos.

Probablemente lo hicieron para parecer guays o lo que sea y poco a poco se convirtió en un hábito. Háblalo con él y a ver si quiere cambiarlo, ya que está claro que te molesta.

Distráigale con algo tan sencillo como tocarle el brazo o pasarle los dedos por el pelo.

Intenta verlo como algo normal

This is more about you than about him. It’s about changing the way you look at the whole situation.

Si intentas mirarlo desde su perspectiva, lo verás como una mirada sin sentido hacia una mujer sin importancia, aleatoria pero hermosa.

It’s in human nature to notice beauty around you. You also notice other men and women around you without giving it a second thought.

If his behavior isn’t exaggerated and it doesn’t cause you discomfort, try treating it as normal.