A todas las mujeres fuertes: está bien no estar bien

I see what’s behind your strong face. I see the pain you’re hiding to protect yourself and to keep up that image of a strong and independent woman who doesn’t need anyone’s help. I see what you’re doing and I get it.

I know you can’t afford to show weakness. I know that you have to get up every morning and along with your make-up, put a smile on your face.

Because that is what a smile is to you—a removable piece of make-up.

You have your reasons for acting like that. You have to keep it together because there is someone else you’re protecting.

You’re pretending you’re okay for the sake of someone dear to you, someone you can’t let down.

Lo triste es que nadie te pregunta si puedes hacerlo. A nadie le importa de dónde sacas la fuerza.

People think you’re like that as if you have a choice. But you don’t have a choice, do you? Being strong is something you HAVE to be.

You were taught that tears are a sign of weakness. You were taught that no matter what, you have to get up in the morning and go on—for the sake of the others.

Nadie te ha dicho nunca que también tienes que pensar en ti.

If you don’t feel like smiling today, then don’t smile. If you don’t feel like talking to others, retrieve to your lonesome.

Haz lo que te dé la gana porque te lo mereces.

Hey, it’s okay not to be okay. We weren’t made perfect, we weren’t born with a smile.

Nacimos con la elección de actuar como sentimos. Todo lo demás que hacemos es mentira.

Don’t lie to yourself and don’t bottle up your feelings. They are eventually going to float out.

And when that time comes, you’re going to pay the price for not respecting yourself this whole time.

¿Qué es la fuerza?

I know that’s what you’re thinking now. Strength is being able to keep it together.

La fuerza es la capacidad de no mostrar tus emociones. Fuerza es cuando te aguantas las lágrimas. Bueno, lo entendiste todo mal.

What you think strength is, is a big, fat lie. You’re lying to yourself and by lying you’re not respecting yourself.

Entonces, ¿cómo puedes respetar o amar a otra persona?

Let me tell you what being strong really is. It’s having the courage to admit when your life is going down the drain.

It’s being able to admit that you’re not having a great day. Strength is all of that but the biggest sign of how much of a badass you are is the ability to live through all of that and come back stronger than ever.

Ser fuerte es cuando tu vida se está desmoronando y decides darle la vuelta.

Cuando tocas fondo y sabes que no hay otro camino que subir desde donde estás.

And you go ahead and do it. You take one thing at a time and you’re successful. You’re building yourself one small step at a time.

That’s what being strong really is.  

Nunca tengas miedo de admitir que necesitas a alguien. No es un signo de debilidad. Es una señal de que tienes agallas para mostrar a todo el mundo cómo te sientes realmente.

You’re so brave for doing that. Do you know why?

It’s because people lie all the time. People think that being vulnerable is something you should be ashamed of.

They automatically feel exposed and threatened. They’re living in fear of getting hurt.

Pero ninguno de ellos consigue que, además de salir herido, te ayuden las personas que te quieren.

But the people who care about you see this image of a strong young woman fighting every battle but what they don’t see is that you’re swallowing your every tear and hiding your pain.

That’s why they won’t offer to help you. They think you don’t need it.

Pero escucha esto: “I need you to help me!” Try this, it’s not as hard as you think.

It’s so much easier than everything you’re doing now. And most importantly, it’s more than okay.