Para todas as mulheres fortes que existem - Não há problema em não estar bem

I see what’s behind your strong face. I see the pain you’re hiding to protect yourself and to keep up that image of a strong and independent woman who doesn’t need anyone’s help. I see what you’re doing and I get it.

I know you can’t afford to show weakness. I know that you have to get up every morning and along with your make-up, put a smile on your face.

Because that is what a smile is to you—a removable piece of make-up.

You have your reasons for acting like that. You have to keep it together because there is someone else you’re protecting.

You’re pretending you’re okay for the sake of someone dear to you, someone you can’t let down.

A parte triste é que nunca ninguém pergunta se somos capazes de o fazer. Ninguém quer saber de onde é que se tira a força.

People think you’re like that as if you have a choice. But you don’t have a choice, do you? Being strong is something you HAVE to be.

You were taught that tears are a sign of weakness. You were taught that no matter what, you have to get up in the morning and go on—for the sake of the others.

Nunca ninguém te disse que também tens de pensar em ti.

If you don’t feel like smiling today, then don’t smile. If you don’t feel like talking to others, retrieve to your lonesome.

Faz o que quiseres porque o mereces.

Hey, it’s okay not to be okay. We weren’t made perfect, we weren’t born with a smile.

Nascemos com a escolha de agir da forma que sentimos. Tudo o resto que fazemos é uma mentira.

Don’t lie to yourself and don’t bottle up your feelings. They are eventually going to float out.

And when that time comes, you’re going to pay the price for not respecting yourself this whole time.

Afinal, o que é a força?

I know that’s what you’re thinking now. Strength is being able to keep it together.

A força é a capacidade de não mostrar as suas emoções. Força é quando seguramos as lágrimas. Bem, percebeste tudo mal.

What you think strength is, is a big, fat lie. You’re lying to yourself and by lying you’re not respecting yourself.

Então, como é que podes respeitar ou amar outra pessoa?

Let me tell you what being strong really is. It’s having the courage to admit when your life is going down the drain.

It’s being able to admit that you’re not having a great day. Strength is all of that but the biggest sign of how much of a badass you are is the ability to live through all of that and come back stronger than ever.

Ser forte é quando a nossa vida está a desmoronar-se e decidimos dar a volta por cima.

Quando se atinge o fundo do poço e se sabe que não há outra forma senão subir a partir de onde se está.

And you go ahead and do it. You take one thing at a time and you’re successful. You’re building yourself one small step at a time.

That’s what being strong really is.  

Nunca tenha medo de admitir que precisa de alguém. Isso não é um sinal de fraqueza. É um sinal de que tem a coragem de mostrar a toda a gente o que realmente sente.

You’re so brave for doing that. Do you know why?

It’s because people lie all the time. People think that being vulnerable is something you should be ashamed of.

They automatically feel exposed and threatened. They’re living in fear of getting hurt.

Mas nenhum deles percebe que, para além de nos magoarmos, podemos obter ajuda das pessoas que nos amam.

But the people who care about you see this image of a strong young woman fighting every battle but what they don’t see is that you’re swallowing your every tear and hiding your pain.

That’s why they won’t offer to help you. They think you don’t need it.

Mas ouçam isto: “I need you to help me!” Try this, it’s not as hard as you think.

It’s so much easier than everything you’re doing now. And most importantly, it’s more than okay.