Antes de meterte en una relación sin laboratorio, debes saber estas 5 cosas

La primera vez que lo piensas, una relación sin compromiso suena perfecta. La ves como una oportunidad de darle un toque picante a tu vida con la cantidad justa de pasión y mariposas que te ayuden a pasar el día.

You have someone to call when you are lonely, without having any duties which could rearrange your life. You don’t have to change or make compromises for the sake of the other person and you can continue rocking your vida de soltero y tener a alguien que te dé un poco de afecto y ternura cuando lo necesites.

Parece un arreglo estupendo, ¿verdad? Después de todo, ¿qué puede salir mal?

Bueno, yo tenía exactamente los mismos pensamientos corriendo por mi cabeza antes de entrar en mi casi relación. Y entonces, la vida me demostró que estaba equivocada.

Por eso estoy a punto de darte una visión de primera mano sobre cómo es realmente este tipo de relación. Estás a punto de leer 5 cosas que seguramente te harán cambiar de opinión sobre todo lo que creías saber sobre las relaciones sin título.

1. No es una relación real

Las citas modernas nos han enseñado que un relación sin trabajo es casi exactamente igual que la real. Pasas tiempo con tu pareja, os comunicáis con regularidad, tenéis intimidad física y, básicamente, hacéis todas las cosas que hace una pareja normal.

Nevertheless, the emphasis here is on the word almost. This relationship is not a real relationship, even if it is similar to one and this is something you need to be aware of before getting yourself involved in it. You can call it an affair, a situationship or some kind of connection but if it were a real romantic relationship, you guys would have labeled it as such, wouldn’t you?

2. Pero te traerá todos los problemas reales de las relaciones

Tu casi novio no es alguien con quien puedas contar en todo momento. No es alguien que prometió estar a tu lado en los días buenos y malos y no es el hombre que firmó para ser tu mejor amigo y tu compañero de vida.

Nevertheless, he will be the cause of your sleepless nights and of your tears. He will be someone you’ll give your precious time and effort to, just like in a real relationship.

Aunque esta situación sin laboratorio no es una relación, te aportará toda la verdadera problemas de pareja. Its end will bring you the same amount of emotional pain a real break-up would. Just because you never dated a man, it doesn’t mean he can’t break your heart.

Don’t get me wrong—I am not saying that a labeled relationship guarantees you a stress-free life. I am not saying that labeled couples don’t have problems and disagreements because they most certainly do.

But they also have the benefits of a real relationship which makes all of the hardships worth it. And that is something you don’t have.

When you are in this kind of situationship, you are not entitled to demand anything. You don’t have the right to demand loyalty, fidelity, commitment, effort or closure. Whenever you think about complaining, remember that you are the one who signed up for this.

3. Probablemente nunca será serio

If you are planning on getting yourself involved in this type of relationship in the hope of it one day becoming serious—don’t. A person who doesn’t have second thoughts about you and a person who is sure about his feelings for you will behave accordingly from the start.

Please, don’t lie to yourself that tu amor cambiará a este hombre and that he’ll eventually understand that you deserve to have the title of his girlfriend. Don’t fall for his false excuses that he just needs time to get his shit together. Don’t believe in his empty promises that this arrangement is only temporary and that things between you will sort themselves out in no time.

The harsh truth is that nothing will probably ever change. You’ll just end up wasting years of your life next to someone who thinks you are convenient, while you keep waiting for a miracle that will never come.

4. You don’t have the right to be jealous

Another thing you need to be aware of when it comes to entering a relationship without a label is that you are probably not the only girl in this man’s life. After all, he never promised you fidelity or exclusivity which means that you don’t have the right to be jealous.

Nevertheless, I guarantee you that you will be more than upset about this—you’ll just know that you can’t show it. You’ll spend numerous nights crying yourself to sleep, preguntando lo que tu casi novio has been up to. You’ll do your best to find out everything there is to know about other women in his life, secretly hoping that you are the only one, while not saying a word and knowing that he never gave you the right to ask any questions.

5. Te mereces más

Antes de involucrarte en una relación sin laboratorio, debes saber que eso no es lo que te mereces y que, definitivamente, no es algo con lo que debas conformarte. En lugar de eso, te mereces un hombre que esté más que orgulloso de cogerte de la mano en público, de mostrarte su afecto delante de todo el mundo y de llamarte su novia.

Te mereces algo más que estar escondido del mundo, algo más que estar cómodo to a man who can’t make up his mind about you while he actually waits for someone better to come along. You deserve a man who will never make you question your worth and who will consider you important enough to give your relationship a label.