Así es como aprendí a seguir a mi cabeza en lugar de a mi corazón

It’s an everlasting debate: ¿Debo seguir a mi cabeza esta vez o a mi (quién sabe por cuántas veces roto) corazón? Si confiamos demasiado en nuestro corazón, podría influirnos para tomar decisiones impulsivas que pueden acarrear graves consecuencias.

Hace poco conocí a un guapo desconocido en el bar. Intercambiamos números y seguimos enviándonos mensajes en los días siguientes. A primera vista, supe que había algo raro en él.

Con su desordenado pelo negro y sus tatuajes en los brazos, parecía un tipo malo (muy malo).fxv

Pero, sus ojos avellana tenían esa chispa que me decía: I’m just an innocent boy. I will never do you any harm.

Hizo su lado malo tan increíblemente atractivo to me that I couldn’t even think reasonably with my head. I instantly fell for him with my heart.

Although I knew he was bad, I didn’t let my mind interfere. I just wanted to feel carefree because I was sick of overthinking.

Sólo quería seguir a mi corazón.

Two weeks later I received a call. My friend told me that she saw him in a hospital. She told me that he OD’ed. I immediately went there only to realize that his WIFE was there with her 3-year-old kid.

Salí corriendo y me quedé helada de incredulidad. Fue entonces cuando me di cuenta de que debería haber seguido mi cabeza en lugar de mi corazón.

Pero, oye... Al menos otros podrán aprender de mis errores.

He aquí mi lista de razones por qué deberías seguir a tu cabeza en lugar de a tu corazón:

1. Eres más razonable

When you follow your head, you’re more likely to think reasonably and not impulsively. You will weigh all the pros and cons of your decision.

I know it kills all the joy, but that way, you don’t have to be afraid or insecure about the outcome of your decision. You have to learn to divide reason from your feelings, so that you can switch whenever you want to.

I know it’s hard, but once you master it, you will be amazed how much this strategy helps.

2. Ves sus lados buenos y malos más claramente

When you’re thinking with your head instead of your heart, you’ll more easily make a distinction between his good and bad sides. For example, if you know he’s bad, you will not find excuses for such behavior.

Your head will tell you to step away and think about your next move. You’ll like him as a whole person and will not have second guesses about his bad side.

That way, the bond will have more solid foundation, and it won’t be that easy to destroy it.

3. It’s easier to evaluate the situation (when you’re about to breakup with him)

When you’re in doubt whether to breakup or not, your head will tell you one thing and your heart another. If you listen to your head, you’ll evaluate the situation more easily.

You will have a better insight into everything that happened. You will not have a guilty conscience about breaking up with him because you will be one hundred percent sure that you’re doing the right thing for yourself.

4. You’re more stress-free

When you follow your head, if he tells you something insulting or hurts you one way or another, you will not take it too seriously. You will be more stress-free, and you won’t give a shit about what others think of you.

Estar más libre de estrés te ayuda a ser más productivo en tu vida diaria. Así, cuando laves los platos, no pensarás en algunas cosas no tan agradables que te ha dicho en efecto.

Las cosas malas no se pegarán a tu corazón porque tu mente les dirá inmediatamente que se vayan.

Cuando algo se te pega al corazón, es muy difícil deshacerse de ello.

Your heart has to digest every single thought that is going on in your head. That’s why you should be gentle with your heart.

5. Lower chances that you’ll end up with a broken heart

Si sigues tu cabeza y todo lo anterior disminuirás tus posibilidades de acabar con un corazón roto. Cuando amas a alguien con la cabeza, ves las cosas como son.

But, when you love someone with your heart, you’re blinded. The phrase Love is blind exists for a reason.

El amor es ciego cuando se ama con el corazón. Pero, cuando tu corazón se canse de estar roto, aprenderás a amar con la mente.