Cómo atraer a una mujer que no está interesada: 11 técnicas probadas

To be honest, all women like to play hard to get sometimes. They know that pretending they’re not interested in a man only makes them more attractive.

Ahora, la pregunta es, ¿cómo se atraer a una mujer who is not interested (or who is pretending that she isn’t interested)?

Of course, you can’t control someone’s feelings, but you can do something that will make them change and fall in love with you right away.

The point is that you shouldn’t try hard, but you should try smarter. If you are too pushy, you’ll only scare her away.

Ten paciencia y ve paso a paso.

A woman might pretend that she isn’t interested in you just to see how much you’re actually interested in her, and how willing you are to get her attention and win her over.

Si quieres un consejo experto en relaciones sobre cómo hacer que una chica que no está interesada en ti enamorarme de tisiga leyendo estos magníficos consejos.

1. 1. Lenguaje corporal

As I’m sure you already know, body language counts for a lot.

Si te acercas a una chica con la actitud de un tipo que no está seguro de por qué se ha acercado a ella en primer lugar, no hay ninguna posibilidad de que consigas nada con esa chica.

This also relates to a girl that might actually like you, so imagine what chances you’ll have with one that is not interested at all.

El lenguaje corporal y la confianza en uno mismo desempeñan un papel fundamental en el juego del amor.

Incluso antes de iniciar una conversación real con una mujer que te atrae, ella podrá saber si te gusta o no si utilizas tu lenguaje corporal de la forma adecuada.

It’ll also help you show that you are a confident man.

This means you should sit as close to her as possible, touch her whenever you can, and do it so discreetly that she doesn’t think of you as some kind of a creep, but instead you send good chills down her spine.

¿Cómo se consigue?

Well, don’t touch her inappropriately, but instead, wait for the right moment and move the hair from her face for example, or help her put on her jacket.

Piensa en pequeños detalles que le hagan pensar que eres cariñoso y amable.

What you definitely should not do is be aggressive – meaning that if you try to touch her and she pulls back, then you should back off instantly.

That’ll send her the message that your goal is to make her feel comfortable around you, not freaked out.

One more important thing will come out of that – she won’t be able to friendzone you, ‘cause she’ll know you are not there to be just her friend.

Además, presta atención a tu postura.

Straight shoulders and back, body facing towards her – all those are signs to her that you want to be there with her and amaze her.

Men are known to be hunters and enjoy the chase, so you need to let her know that you are paying attention only to her – you don’t want her to think she is just another girl on your list.

Si estás hablando con ella pero mirando alrededor de la habitación, puede pensar que estás buscando la salida, lo que no te llevará a ninguna parte.

Recuerda, mostrar lenguaje corporal de confianza es la mejor manera de atraer a una mujer hermosa.

2. 2. Contacto visual

Las expresiones faciales y el contacto visual son otras formas de lenguaje corporal a las que debe prestar atención.

Imagina una situación en la que ella te observa. Usted está mirando su teléfono, las puertas, la gente al otro lado de la barra. ¿Qué piensa ella de ti en ese momento?

By acting this way, you are giving her the impression that you are bored, and that you can’t wait for the conversation with her to be done.

Pensará que eres grosero y, lo que es peor, harás que piense de sí misma que es aburrida y poco interesante.

Lo peor que puedes hacer es acabar con su confianza.

Se sabe que el contacto visual es la herramienta número uno a la hora de ligar, así que mantener el contacto visual le hará saber que te gusta.

Of course, this doesn’t mean you should stare at her and make her feel uncomfortable – instead look directly into her eyes for a few seconds, then look away and make eye contact again.

Asegúrate de que sepa que la escuchas y haz que se sienta querida.

3. Aumenta la confianza en ti mismo

As already stated, men are hunters and enjoy the feeling of the chase. In order to achieve your goal with a girl you are attracted to and to ‘catch her’, you must feel confident in yourself from the start.

No puedes esperar que le gustes si tú no le gustas.

So, if you don’t feel comfortable in your clothes, you think your hairstyle is desperate, or you’ve gained a few extra kilos, do something about it.

Tira el horrible jersey que te regalaron por las fiestas y cómprate una camisa que te guste y te quede perfecta; pide cita en la peluquería, siéntete bien en tu piel.

That way even if she rejects you, you won’t feel that you are not good enough, just that she has a different taste.

Still, trust me, the chances are way lower that she will reject you if you are self-confident and talk to her like there is no chance she’ll reject you.

You need to learn to calm down when you’re feeling nervous in front of the girl you like.

Don’t make any small hand movements while talking. You have to know that fidgeting is never hot.

4. Juega limpio

Durante el juego del flirteo, NO actúes de forma desesperada. Las mujeres odian eso. Por supuesto, puedes mostrar que estás interesado y que te importa de alguna manera, pero mantén los pies en el suelo.

No te comportes como un maníaco que espera a su próxima víctima y que hará cualquier cosa por conseguirla.

Te gusta, ella lo sabe, pero no cruces la línea para que piense que sólo te acercaste a ella porque no podías conseguir a ninguna otra chica.

Si estás haciendo locuras para mantenerla a tu lado, apestará a desesperación, y la desesperación no es atractiva. Créeme, ella RUN en el momento en que ella piensa en ti de esa manera.

5. Mantenerse ocupado

In other words, have a life. OK, now that you already have let her know that you like her and that you are interested, don’t overwhelm her with your emotions.

Intentar conquistarla molestándola sólo conseguirá alejarla de ti. En este punto, debes dejar que piense un poco en ti, para que decida si quiere volver a verte o no.

In other words, keep your normal life going. Go to work, have dinners with your friends, or hit the gym – whatever you do in your own life. Show her that you are fully enjoying life.

Don’t get me wrong – do not disappear on her. Send some messages here and there, let her know you’re thinking of her, but don’t try to push her or pressure her into making decisions.

6. Don’t chase her

9 am – message, 11 am – message, 1 pm – missed call, and so on and so on…Don’t be this person.

After you have sent one message, if she doesn’t answer, do not send another until she does, or else she’ll think you are stalking her.

Las mujeres tienden a interesarse más si sienten que son ellas las que toman las decisiones.

Así que deja que ella responda a tu mensaje, o incluso envía uno primero. Así no sólo se sentirá ella al mando, sino que tú tendrás una idea más clara de su actitud hacia ti.

You know what they say – not getting an answer is an answer. Also, don’t always appear everywhere she goes.

De esta manera puede que consiga el sensación de estar controladoque a ninguno de nosotros (especialmente a las mujeres jóvenes) nos gusta.

7. Aceptarla tal como es

Esto es algo que ni siquiera debería ser un problema porque, al fin y al cabo, eres tú quien está intentando que ella se interese por ti.

What needs to be clear is that you are sure she accepts you – relationships are two-sided, so don’t forget about yourself.

You must realize that she is not some kind of a meal where you get to choose what you like and what you don’t.

You must be ready to accept her with her flaws and manners because she has them for sure – she is human after all.

A toda mujer le gusta sentirse apreciada y respetada. Con eso en mente, no le digas que algo que hace está mal solo porque tú no lo harías así.

She already had those kinds of guys in her life, so if your goal is to win her over, find a way to deal with her flaws – her full personality, not just the parts you like or think she should have.

8. Saber escuchar

No hay mejor forma de demostrar a alguien que te gusta y lo quieres que escuchándole. Los detalles lo son todo.

Escucha siempre lo que tiene que decir, no debes permitir que te pille fingiendo.

De acuerdo, es un hecho que las mujeres pueden hablar mucho a veces, pero aún así, si ella se preocupa y se apasiona por algo, tienes que apoyarla y tener la cortesía de al menos escucharla.

Y por escuchar no me refiero a estar callado mientras habla, sino a escucharla, responder a sus preguntas, ayudarla a resolver sus dudas.

Remember, the most attractive man is the one who is compassionate and kind. After all, you are the one she wants to tell her story to, so don’t make her regret that.

In this way, you will be able to discover what she likes, doesn’t like, what she fears, and many other details that will eventually help you to win her heart.

Tienes que escucharla to find out some things that will help you to win her heart. If she talks about her previous relationship and breakup, listen carefully, and don’t make the same mistakes her ex did.

Puede que mencione casualmente que le gusta algún grupo y, como sorpresa, puedes llevarla a su concierto alguna vez.

She will know that you listened to her and that’ll make her fall for you even if it was not her intention in the beginning.

9. Hacerla reír

Cuando preguntas a una mujer por su hombre ideal, una de las primeras cosas que mencionará será sin duda su capacidad para hacerla reír.

Quiere sentirse bien a tu lado, y ¿qué mejor manera de sentirse relajado que riendo y sintiéndose despreocupado en el momento?

If you can achieve this, you have a great chance because it’s known that humor is the key to a woman’s heart.

Tenéis que crear un ambiente divertido y positivo entre vosotros.

Antes de que se enamore de ti, tienes que convertirte en su amigo. Ser un buen amigo es una forma de atraer a una mujer y casi siempre conduce a una relación.

10. Elogiarla

Feeling attractive and desired is a very good feeling – every woman will confirm that. In your mission of winning the woman you want, making her feel that way will be a great advantage for you.

Aunque las mujeres son más emocionales que los hombres, les encanta sentirse deseadas en un sentido sensual.

No te limites a decirle que te atrae, presta atención a los detalles.

Dile lo guapa que está sin maquillaje. Los cumplidos siempre bring a smile to her face and it’ll surely make her day.

11. Ganarse primero a sus amigos

It is no secret that for a woman, her friends’ opinions mean a lot – sometimes maybe even more than they should.

So, if you want to win over an attractive woman that is not interested in you, make sure her friends like you. Otherwise, I am sorry to inform you, you don’t stand much of a chance.

Este no es el caso si le gustas y está interesada desde el principio, pero aquí estamos hablando de una mujer que no está interesada en ti desde el principio.

That’s why her friends may have a key role in presenting you as a nice guy she might actually like if she gives you a chance.

Al principio, puede que no sepa nada de ti, por lo que una palabra amable por su parte puede ser de gran valor para darte una oportunidad.

Para terminar

Are you still wondering how to attract a woman who is not interested? Let’s sum it all up and make it more clear, then, because it’s not an easy task.

Deberías trabajar en ganarte su corazón en lugar de perder el tiempo buscando señales de que no está interesada en ti o enviándole mensajes dirty talk when it’s too early.

You shouldn’t despair if a girl you like isn’t interested in you. There are many ways to change that and make her fall madly in love with you.

The biggest advice I can give is that you should never give up on a woman you like. Maybe it’ll be hard to find a way to her heart, but you will. You’ll win her over. You just have to be patient and wait.

Hay dos formas de averiguar lo que una mujer siente por ti. La primera (y la más fácil) es encontrar la manera de ganarte a sus amigos.

If you succeed in establishing trust with her besties, you’ll find out things from her dating life. And those things will help you to attract her.

The other way is to become her friend. Get her trust, show her that you understand her, and she’ll definitely want to be more than friends with you in no time.

If she says “it’s not you, it’s me”, then trust her. Maybe she’s just not ready for a relationship.

Maybe she was hurt in the past and she is still healing from it. Be there for her as a friend and she’ll appreciate you even more.

Maybe you aren’t meant to be together right now, not everyone knows what the future will bring. The most important thing is that you gave your best and that you tried.

You will have no regrets and if she isn’t the one for you, don’t be too bummed out. A woman will come along sooner than you can even imagine.