A todas las chicas que luchan contra el miedo a ser engañadas

No quieres ser tan pegajosa y necesitada, y no quieres ser celosa. No quieres comprobar su teléfono.

You don’t want to lie awake at night wondering with whom he is and what he’s doing.

You don’t want to be scared he might choose somebody else, that he might kiss another girl, and that podría dejarte para otra persona.

But you are. It didn’t come out of the blue. Yes, there are people who are totally jealous from the beginning, but you weren’t born such a person. However, you did become one, with time.

But your jealousy doesn’t come from your own insecurities. You don’t think you’re ugly or boring or anything like that. Your fear comes from the lack of trust you have in men.

You want a normal relationship in which you’ll be able to love without having anything holding you back.

Quieres confiar en tu hombre, pero siempre hay una voz que te susurra al oído todo tipo de cosas.

You’re afraid history might repeat itself, aren’t you?

Hay una estúpida voz en tu cabeza que no deja de recordarte las veces que traicionaron tu confianza.

There is this voice that reminds you of all those times you cried yourself to sleep because somebody decided it’s fine to cheat on somebody who loves them.

This time it’s a bit different. This time your fear is a bit more intense, isn’t it? You’re scared because you finally decided to let somebody in.

You’re scared because you decided to love again. And now there is the voice whispering all those ‘what if’ kinds of questions into your ears.

¿Y si resulta como el anterior o los anteriores?

What if you’re the one to blame for all those cheaters because you trusted them?

¿Y si pudieras hacer algo para evitar que te engañen?

Beyonce.

Eva Longoria.

Princesa Diana.

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Yes, I am listing famous people that got cheated on. I’m doing this to explain to you that it doesn’t matter if you’re one of the most powerful women out there—if you’re the most sensual, the most beautiful, or the kindest person that anyone could have in life—it still doesn’t change a thing.

Si un hombre quiere engañar, no hay nada que le impida hacerlo.

If cheating is in his nature, there is nothing you can do about it. Controlling him— constantly calling, texting and stalking—will only raise his game. If a cheater wants to cheat, he’ll always find a way.

You can’t go through life looking over your shoulder. You can’t go through life sick of wondering if the guy you chose will choose you.

You’ll lose yourself, you’ll lose your happiness, and you’ll put your life on hold while you’re directing your whole attention to one thing.

So, I suggest that you…

Give your man the benefit of the doubt. It sounds impossible, but trust me, it’s only impossible if you think it is.

This ‘impossible’ may be observed as an option as well. And you can disregard that option if you please to do so.

Remind yourself that…

He chose you. He’s with you. He’s giving you all of him, and he loves you. He decided to spend his time with you.

Decidió darte un lugar en su vida. Hizo todo bien. ¿Por qué sigues dudando de él?

Your man doesn’t deserve to get a hard time because of those who were there before him. He doesn’t deserve to live the consequences of others. He isn’t to blame for any of what happened to you.

Learn to…

Trust your man. Trust he’s the one. Trust his words if they are followed by his actions. If you don’t want to do it for him, do it for yourself.

Cut yourself some slack. You deserve to be happy. Don’t make the path to your happiness harder than it has to be.

Dale espacio a tu hombre—if he’s worth it, he’ll show you where you stand with him.

Shut down that voice in your head that’s telling you things will go bad. Things will end up great if you just give them a chance.