Cómo cerrar el círculo cuando tu ex se niega a hablar contigo
Al final de una historia, uno pensaría que al menos merece una explicación de por qué las cosas acabaron como acabaron.
And you ask yourself, “After all I gave him, did I deserve to go through the silent treatment? Why doesn’t he want to talk to me?” And then the more he doesn’t want to talk to you, the more you feel like you need closure.
It’s kind of natural for us humanos para buscar un cierre. It’s kind of normal for us to want to end one story and to be able to wrap our head around why some things ended the way they did.
We just need to know why something happens, but the problem comes when this one person who is able to give you an explanation doesn’t actually want to talk to you.
So, what do you do when your ex won’t talk to you?
When your ex doesn’t want to talk to you, it’s time for you to start realizing certain things.
Firstly, you’re going after someone who thinks you don’t deserve a simple explanation.
You’re going after someone who wants you to be the last one to let go so that he could be able to say he was the one who cared less. Obviously, that’s something he’s proud of.
Secondly, you’ll be clinging to your past if you continue to seek closure from a person who actually isn’t willing to give you any.
You’ll appear as a crazy girl who’s desperately wanting to hear from her ex-boyfriend. You’ll appear as a girl who comes up with all kinds of excuses just to talk to her ex.
You’ll obsess over whether he’s just pretending to be over you.
Por último, tienes que dejar de buscar el cierre en los lugares equivocados. Tu paz es más importante que la necesidad de escuchar lo que salió mal de alguien que te abandonó.
De alguien que no tuvo la decencia de luchar y esforzarse lo suficiente por esa única persona que realmente le quería.
Remember, you’re the only one who needs closure. So if you’re the only one who needs it, then you’re only who can give you it.
What I’m trying to say is that you’ll need to be the one to close the doors on a failed relationship. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but because the doors otherwise simply lead nowhere.
Even if you deserve an explanation, this doesn’t mean you’re actually going to get one. The worst thing you can do is let the unfinished stories of the past stop you from living your life.
Lo peor que puedes hacer es dejar que el pasado interfiera en tu futuro.
La mejor venganza es seguir adelante, superarlo y seguir triunfando. Nunca des a nadie la satisfacción de verte sufrir.
Looking for closure from a person who doesn’t want to talk to you is a joke. The only apology you need is the one you owe yourself for staying as long as you did.
La única conversación que necesitas tener es contigo y la única persona que necesitas volver a ver es la persona del espejo.
No one likes to be ignored, and no one likes to not get answers to their questions. But what you have to learn is that any answer you are so desperate to get won’t change anything, and it may or may not be the truth anyway.
La verdad es que, a menos que te sueltes, a menos que te perdonas a ti mismoA menos que perdones la situación y te des cuenta de que se ha acabado, no podrás seguir adelante.
1. Reconoce que hiciste todo lo que pudiste
What’s done is done. If your ex doesn’t want to talk to you, then stop chasing after him. Stop wanting him to do anything. Remember that you did all you could but even that wasn’t enough.
Al final del día, recuerda lo que te mereces y que normalmente las cosas que llegan a su fin nunca debieron ser en primer lugar.
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2. Piensa en lo que te mereces
Always know that you deserve much more than a man who doesn’t pick up the phone when you call.
You deserve a man who’ll respect your feelings even when your story comes to an end.
You don’t deserve someone who’ll you’ll need to chase so if he isn’t ready to give you what you need, let him go.
Encuentra lo que necesitas en otra parte, encuentra tu cierre en ti mismo.
3. Olvídate de su validación
You don’t need him to give you closure so that you’d be able to validate your relationship.
What happened was real, you should be able to realize this at least based on the pain you’re feeling now.
Lo que pasó está escrito en tu corazón y ninguna última palabra de un hombre podrá cambiarlo.
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4. Piensa con qué tipo de persona quieres estar
When you think about it, you’ll see that the person you want to be with has a completely different personality to the one you’ve been with. And this should help you to get your closure.
Because you’ll see that not only will you not be wanting a new start with the person who already hurt you once, but that you should be the one cutting all the strings.
5. Perdónate a ti mismo y perdónale a él
Lo más difícil es perdónalo for all the pain you’ve been through. But sometimes that’s the only thing that will help you move on.
Forgive him for treating you the way he did. Forgive yourself for how long you’ve been holding onto something that was just breaking you. But don’t ever forget.
Keep what you’ve been through at the back of your mind so you have something to remind you about the hell you’ve been through once he reaches out to you again.
¿Y cómo saber si realmente va a intentar volver a tu vida? Pues porque siempre lo hacen.
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6. Seguir adelante
Always try to think about those things that you’re grateful for in your life. Learn to stop holding onto negativity once it walks out of your life.
Corta los lazos con todo lo que te recuerde a los días malos o que te recuerde a las personas que te hicieron daño. Y, lo más importante, ten paciencia.
Date tiempo para curarte y para acostumbrarte a ese capítulo de tu vida que ha terminado.
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