Cómo acabar con un narcisista en 9 poderosos pasos
If you’re looking for ways and inspiration on how to shut down a narcissist and regain your power, you’re in just the right place!
Narcisista gente are very capable when it comes to taking over somebody’s life.
They’ll use anything and everything to make people do what they want and they’ll be the ones to get the best of it. Summarized, it’s called narcissistic abuse.
People who suffer from a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) tend to ruin other people’s self-esteem for the sake of becoming dominant.
The main manipulation tactic they use is gaslighting, aka silent treatment (especially in toxic relationships and other types of abusive relationships), used to gain control over the victim’s emotional responses, which is a form of emotional abuse.
Narcissists have a delusional sense of self-worth and a lack of empathy, which is their primary tool when it comes to destroying their victim’s self-worth.
Disculparse o decidir dejarte en paz no les interesa.
Dealing with toxic people and psychopaths can result in severe damage of the victim’s mental health because the victim often doesn’t know how to set boundaries and deal with a narcissist’s bad behavior.
Esta persona puede ser tu vecino, tu jefe, tu compañero de trabajo, tu pareja narcisista, un padre narcisista, un ex narcisista, uno de tus amigos íntimos o un familiar.
Aprender a lidiar con sus tendencias narcisistas y a recuperar tu poder es necesario para prevenir daños mayores y comenzar con el proceso de curación.
Ahora bien, todo el mundo lucha contra los narcisistas a su manera, pero las mujeres fuertes consiguen luchar contra ellos hasta el punto de ganarles en su propio juego, ¡así que sin duda podríamos aprender un par de cosas de ellas!
ASÍ ES COMO LAS MUJERES FUERTES CIERRAN EL PASO A LOS NARCISISTAS
1. Los narcisistas son muy buenos para encontrar gente agradable con el fin de alimentar sus egos
Los narcisistas necesitan gente agradable a su alrededor, para sentirse mejor consigo mismos.
Necesitan gente simpática para alimentar su ego. Verás, se rodean de gente así engañándoles para que piensen que son iguales.
La diferencia es que las personas agradables sólo te dicen cosas agradables cuando las dicen de verdad, mientras que un narcisista utilizará palabras agradables sólo para engañarte y que seas su amigo.
Actuarán como los extraños más amables (sobre todo si necesitas ayuda con algo), te convencerán de que son la persona más cariñosa y atenta del planeta haciéndote cumplidos constantemente, mimándote y haciéndote sentir especial.
But they won’t mean any of the nice words they say, their compliments will be fake and the only reason why they would ever want to make someone special is so that they can break them easily later on.
El problema es que las mujeres fuertes no son tan ingenuas y por eso son maestras en evitar ser un suministro narcisista.
Strong women can easily spot whether somebody truly means what they’re saying or if it’s just a trick.
Las mujeres fuertes son muy conscientes de cómo se ven y también de sus otras cualidades, y en cuanto notan que alguien es ingenuo, se desentienden al instante, aplican la regla del no contacto y ¡lo echan de sus vidas para siempre!
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2. Los narcisistas son buenos para convencer a los demás de que otra persona es/era el problema
A narcissist’s grandiose sense of self makes them feel superior over everyone around them.
Ignoran sus propios errores y son capaces de echar la culpa a los demás en un abrir y cerrar de ojos.
They are in constant pursuit of their victim’s weaknesses so they can turn them against them. Accepting they did something wrong is never an option (unless they use it as a tool to manipulate you.)
Pase lo que pase, según un narcisista, ha ocurrido por culpa de otra persona y está dispuesto a desvivirse por convencer a su víctima de que él es el culpable de todo.
El problema es que las mujeres fuertes nunca permiten que nadie las utilice como vertedero.
They’ll admit their part of the guilt but they’ll demand the same from the other side.
They won’t ever allow a narcissist to put the blame on them or anybody else in fact and that’s why narcissists have a tendency to avoid strong women.
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3. Narcissists might make many long-term promises to raise the stakes in a relationship and make sure the person they’re dating is highly invested
Narcissists lure their victims into believing they have a future together and that’s when the victim lets down their guard completely.
They fool the victim into believing that they have a strong connection, that they have future plans and that they’ll always be there for them no matter what.
But in reality, the only thing they’re doing is giving fake promises so that they can easily manipulate their victim and make them think that they’re one hundred percent serious and devoted in the relationship.
In reality, the only thing they’re doing is preparing the terrain for massive manipulation.
If you’re that victim, you’ll start planning your joint future and you won’t be aware that the narcissist is using that open window to use you in any and every possible way.
If you’re that victim, you’ll be blind to see the narcissist’s real nature because they are so good at hiding their true self.
The problem is that strong women don’t let down their guard so easily.
Nunca creen sólo en las palabras, siempre esperan que los demás realicen acciones que se ajusten a sus promesas.
That’s where their conflict with a narcissist arises because, as you might’ve imagined, narcissistic people never keep their promises.
Las mujeres fuertes nunca confían en las palabras, las promesas o las excusas. Solo creen en los hechos y en lo que pueden ver con sus propios ojos.
4. Los narcisistas tienen tendencia a manipular a la gente
Narcisista la gente controla a los demás teniendo la capacidad de influir en sus emociones o en sus actos para que las cosas vayan a su favor.
Tienen tendencia a hacer que creas en cada una de sus palabras sin cuestionar nunca nada.
And if you ever complain about being mistreated or similar, they will just accuse you of overreacting and being the crazy one, even though you know for a fact that you’re the victim in the whole story.
But, unfortunately, they’re not interested in hearing any of it. They are only interested in hearing what they want to hear.
They’re only interested in making you feel less worthy so that they can break you more easily but with strong women, this is not such an easy task.
El problema es que las mujeres fuertes son extremadamente difíciles de manipular.
If they don’t feel like doing something or if they have a strong opinion about something, it’s highly unlikely that even the strongest manipulators out there, such as narcissistic people, will trick them into doing things they don’t want.
When a strong woman senses that someone is trying to trick her or make her feel like she’s the crazy one, she makes sure to let them know that she will not dance to their tune.
Una mujer fuerte decide instantáneamente cortar todo contacto con ellos y borrarlos de su vida para siempre. (Este es uno de los consejos más sabios sobre cómo acabar con un narcisista, así que asegúrate de memorizarlo).
5. Narcissists often bring down the people they’re surrounded by
Para que un narcisista se sienta superior, todos los demás tienen que estar por debajo de él.
That’s why narcissistic people often undermine people, bring them down or bring up their flaws at the worst possible moment.
When a narcissist is feeling down, they’ll use anything and everything they can to bring you down as well, so they can feel better about themself.
Te humillarán en persona, en las redes sociales e incluso en público para sentirse dueños de ti.
El problema es que las mujeres fuertes no se doblegan tan fácilmente.
Son muy conscientes de las personas que son y saben lo fuertes que son.
Las mujeres fuertes también son conscientes de sus defectos y trabajan en ellos cada día, por lo que nunca dejan que nadie se los reproche.
A los narcisistas siempre les sale el tiro por la culata cuando las usan con mujeres fuertes.
Intentan atraerlos a su mundo tóxico, pero fracasan cada vez que lo intentan.
6. Los narcisistas tienen tendencia a actuar de forma diferente en público que en privado
Narcissistic people have many faces or many shades of one face and they pull out the one that’s the most convenient for the situation.
For example, they’ll agree with your opinion on something when you’re alone together but when you’re out with other people, they’re most likely to change their opinion in order to please others.
Or they will pretend that they agree with you only when they’re surrounded by other people so that they can see how kind and loving they are.
And when you’re back to your four walls, they all of a sudden change their mind, telling you that they didn’t really mean what they said in front of others or that they made a mistake.
You see, narcissists have a tendency to adapt to every possible situation and make it look like they’re just awesome to be with, when in reality they are the complete opposite and strong women know that!
El problema es que mujeres fuertes nunca tolerará este tipo de comportamiento. They’ll immediately expose the narcissist and confront him in public.
Esto arruinará su delirante sentido de autoestima y les obligará a dejar de jugar a ser Dios todo el tiempo.
And given that narcissistic people are not accustomed to this unusual behavior, they probably won’t even know what hit them.
7. Narcissists play by the rule ‘attack is the best defense’
When you catch a narcissist in a lie or when you discover their masquerade, you’ll fight them for two minutes about their behavior and then you’ll be defending your actions for the next two hours.
They just throw the ball in your court and keep you so busy with defending yourself that you’ll forget what the fight was about in the first place.
It’s one of their favorite manipulation tactics used when they want to solely focus on you instead of the real problem which is them.
Te atacan con todas sus armas narcisistas y esperan a que te rindas.
El problema de las mujeres fuertes es que nunca bajan la voz y nunca permiten que nadie desvíe sus pensamientos de algo.
So, when a narcissist tries to switch topics, they’ll cut them at the root by saying that isn’t the topic of the conversation and that they can get back to that later but they’ll deal with the original issue first.
They won’t leave them a way out and they’ll have to show their real face, wanted or not.
And if they still refuse to switch topics, strong women make sure to tell them to go to hell because they’re not worthy of their time.
If you’re wondering how to shut down a narcissist, this is the way to do it.
8. Cuando les pillan, los narcisistas se hacen las víctimas
When their real face is revealed, they’ll try to hide behind the mask of a victim.
They’ll make excuses for being the way they are and blame it on their ‘abusive’ past, by their narcissistic mother or similar.
Lo hacen para despertar la empatía de la gente y que te sientas mal por ellos, para que les perdones sus pecados.
Quieren que tengas remordimientos de conciencia por acusarles porque ellos son la víctima en toda la situación y no tú. (Por supuesto, esto no es cierto en absoluto).
When busted, a narcissistic person turns into an innocent child just to make you feel guilty about everything you’ve said or everything you’re about to say or do.
But in reality, they’re still the same manipulative person, ready to do anything for their selfish goals.
The problem with strong women is that they do have emotions and they do feel empathy toward others but they’re perfectly able to recognize when somebody is playing them.
They’ll never be tricked into pitying somebody they should be mad at.
They’ll stand untouched by the puppy eyes that narcissists try to pull and they won’t allow emotions to cloud their judgment.
Strong women always put reason before their emotions when they feel that something’s utterly wrong.
They don’t let others take advantage of them because they’re ready to fight till the last breath.
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9. Las mujeres fuertes se enfrentan a sus maltratadores.
They don’t dim their voices, they don’t let others pretend to be something that they are really not and they don’t allow others to use them as their puppet or to make them dance to their tune.
Defienden con orgullo lo que creen y son fieles a sí mismos pase lo que pase.
That’s what they expect from others as well.
Todos los intentos de un narcisista, todas sus artimañas, todos sus juegos, nunca funcionan con las mujeres fuertes, porque ellas ven a través de ellos.
And that’s why strong women are so intimidating to narcissistic people.
That’s how strong women shut narcissistic people down!
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