Cómo detectar a un Fuckboy (y cómo tratar con él)

Las citas modernas han traído muchos cambios en el campo de las relaciones. Sí, la verdad es que hoy en día tienes muchas más opciones y posibilidades y rara vez alguien te juzga por las decisiones que tomas.

A primera vista, el juego de las citas se ha vuelto mucho más fácil y encontrar a alguien adecuado para ti debería ser ahora pan comido.

Al fin y al cabo, tienes cientos de nuevas oportunidades de conocer a tu alma gemela además de hacerlo en persona.

Tienes Facebook, Instagram, Tinder y todas esas otras aplicaciones de citas y redes sociales que te ayudan a conocer a la otra persona antes de involucrarte realmente con ella.

However, modern dating isn’t as perfect as it seems and it definitely has its disadvantages.

Irónicamente, todas estas reglas de hoy en día en realidad han hecho que sea más difícil para cualquier persona conocer a alguien con quien quiera comprometerse.

Sí, encontrar una llamada para ligar o una relación sin ataduras es lo más fácil del mundo, pero si quieres algo más que eso, tienes que tener mucho cuidado y trabajar para conseguirlo.

O puede utilizar esta brillante guía llamada El sistema de devoción que te ayuda a conseguir que cualquier chico que quieras se dé cuenta de que te necesita en su vida. ¿No es genial?

Finding someone to date who treats you right, respects you, and enjoys your company as much as you do theirs can be seriously hard work, not least thanks to the new era of boys on the dating scene – fuckboys.

Pero, ¿qué es un fuckboy¿En serio? ¿Es un tramposo en serie? Un jugador ? ¿El tipo de hombre que sólo quiere meterse en tus pantalones?

¿Un joven inmaduro que te romperá el corazón para aumentar su ego?

PULSE AQUÍ y detener sus juegos incluso antes de que empezaran.

Well, let me tell you that a fuckboy is all of the above. Fuckboys are known for playing with girls’ hearts, treating them poorly, and generally wreaking havoc on the dating scene, while using Tinder and other dating apps as their playgrounds.

The word fuckboy has been put in Urban Dictionary in 2004, where it stated that a fuckboy is a ” weak ass pussy “.

However, the first one to use this term was hip-hop artist Cam’ron in his 2002 hit Chico, chico .

After Cam’ron ‘s song Chico, chico Muchos otros artistas de hip-hop se refirieron a este término, entre ellos otro artista de hip-hop, Killer Mike.

Killer Mike explained that the easiest way to recognize fuckboys is by the fact that they always ” fuck shit up.”

En Chico, chico y otras canciones introdujeron la palabra en el diccionario Urban , Tumblr es la red que popularizó el término, cambiando su significado original.

On Tumblr , people gave different definitions of fuckboy, starting with “the guy who depends on his mother but doesn’t respect women,” to “a player who is only interested in sexual relationships, ” ending with “a guy who sends his dickpics around.”

Por supuesto, no todos los tíos son fuckboys, y estos segundones en realidad dan mala fama a los buenos.

Dicho esto, aprender a detectar a un fuckboy y, lo que es más importante, saber cómo tratar con él, puede ayudarte a protegerte de cualquier disgusto innecesario y a desenvolverte en el mundo de las citas como una profesional.

Naturalmente, el primer paso es aprender a reconocer los patrones de comportamiento que muestran casi todos los fuckboys porque, en definitiva, todos actúan de manera similar.

That is why we’re here: to offer you firstly some tips on how to spot a fuckboy, as well as sure-fire signs that you’re dealing with one.

Bolsas de confianza

Lo primero que notarás en todo fuckboy es su confianza.

Trust me on this one: a fuckboy doesn’t have to look good, he doesn’t have to be smart, funny or interesting.

Pero tiene que tener confianza macho alfa aunque esta confianza no tenga ningún respaldo.

Tristemente, esto es lo que más te atrae de este tipo de chico en primer lugar .

Cree en sí mismo hasta el punto de llegar a convencer a todas las mujeres de su entorno, incluida usted, de que realmente es el mejor y de que merece su atención y su tiempo.

Antes de nada, tienes que tener siempre en mente que los fuckboys son profesionales en este juego de citas que han estado viviendo esta vida de fuckboy durante años y más que probablemente han estado en su parte justa de citas.

You’re not this guy’s first victim – he knows how to walk the walk and talk the talk, which leaves him with a lot of confidence in the dating world.

Expect them to wow you with their confidence, blow you away with their chat, and take control of the entire situation, but remember there’s a fine line between confidence and cockiness and this is something most fuckboys don’t know.

Knowing this, you probably wonder how can someone fall for a cocky guy who is overly sure about himself and who acts as if he’s above everyone else? Well, the truth is that every fuckboy wears his confidence in a rather charming way that almost no one can resist.

Este tipo de chico hace que te preguntes cuál es la razón de ese enorme ego y qué cualidades se esconden tras su confianza en sí mismo.

Sadly, with time, you discover that all of this was nothing more than an act and that he has no foundation for being so certain about himself – but once that happens, you’re usually already head over heels for this guy and it’s too late for you to escape unharmed.

Al principio, esta presencia puede ser una cualidad muy atractiva a la hora de salir con alguien.

This guy knows when to say all the right things , so it’s easy to get blindsided and swoon when you should be swerving.

Aunque un alto nivel de autoestima no es lo único en lo que debes fijarte para detectar a un fuckboy, alguien demasiado confiado y seguro de sí mismo puede ser un fuckboy.

So, bear this in mind as red flag number one if something doesn’t quite sit right.

Falta de atención

When you’re starting to date someone new, you should be in the exciting honeymoon phase where you can’t get enough of each other.

After all, this is the stage in which the two of you are crazy about each other, a period when everything seems too good to be true, a time when you haven’t discovered each other’s flaws just yet.

La fase en la que ninguno de los dos se cansa de estar en una relación o aburridos unos de otros, and when you still haven’t had enough time to get to know each other’s annoying sides.

However, this is not the case with your relationship. Even though you two have just started dating, this guy’s never showed you that he’s enchanted with you and never made you feel special.

Si alguien te muestra una clara falta de atención al principio de la relación, sentimos decírtelo, pero puede que sea un follador.

After all, this is the part of your relationship where there shouldn’t exist anything more interesting for him than you and you shouldn’t be begging him for attention .

Nevertheless, it seems that this guy’s attention is elsewhere. At first, your first impulse might be to chase him or to beg for his love, but with time, the truth becomes clear: these are nothing else but his games and that’s not something you need in your life.

Someone who can’t give you sufficient time and energy that you deserve is not worthy of your time.

Someone who doesn’t pay you enough attention at any stage of your relationship is a fuckboy –  you can do better.

Estándar Fuckboy Chat

Another thing that can help you spot a fuckboy is this guy’s way of talking and addressing his victims.

At first, you think that decrypting a fuckboy’s verbal signs is impossible, but later on, you understand that all of them actually both talk and behave the same way.

Fuckboys have their own language, and it’s actually pretty easy to spot!

La primera característica de este lenguaje es la disculpa constante.

Un fuckboy no parará de decir lo mucho que siente haberte dejado plantada, no haberte devuelto las llamadas o simplemente haber sido un capullo.

Of course, when this happens for the first time, you’ll be more than happy for the fact that this guy has taken responsibility for his actions and you’ll take his apologies as a sign that he’s ready to change his ways.

However, later on, when this becomes a routine in your relationship, you’ll realize that he’s actually just paying lip service and that his apologies are fake.

You’ll see that his empty excuses and false promises mean nothing because he always continues with his fuckboy behavior, no matter what he tries to make you believe.

Another characteristic of fuckboy language is constant compliments. Let’s face it, all of us women enjoy knowing that our boyfriend thinks of us as beautiful, intelligent, or attractive.

We all like hearing that we look amazing in that new dress or that we’re beasts in the bedroom.

Sin embargo, los cumplidos honestos son una cosa, pero decirte convenientemente las cosas correctas en el momento adecuado y besarte el culo sólo para hacerte sentir mejor después de hacerte daño es algo completamente diferente.

And this is exactly what every fuckboy does – he showers you with compliments to divert your eyes from everything he’s doing behind your back.

Así que, si este joven pasa más tiempo disculpándose contigo y haciéndote cumplidos que preguntándote por tu día, entonces deshacerse de ese hijo de puta inmediatamente.

Además, si sus palabras no están en absoluto sincronizadas con sus actos, todo está más que claro.

Falta de compromiso

Aunque cada relación avanza a su propio ritmo, llega un momento en que la falta de compromiso es evidente.

Este es el momento en el que tienes que preguntarte si tu novio y tú queréis las mismas cosas y si esta relación tiene futuro.

Let’s get one thing straight: a fuckboy will never commit to you! No matter how hard you try and how long you wait for him to change, a player always remains a player and there is nothing you can do about it.

But the worst part is that he’ll never be clear about this. He’ll never admit that he is a fobia al compromiso who’ll never take you seriously.

En cambio, un fuckboy seguirá convenciéndote de que sí te quiere y de que sí se toma en serio vuestra relación.

However, if a guy you’re dating keeps canceling plans, changing your arrangements, and ditching you, it is clear as day that you need to dump his sorry ass as soon as possible.

Se niega a etiquetar las cosas

Otra cosa que suele ir de la mano de la falta de compromiso es otro comportamiento clásico del fuckboy: que insista en mantener la relación sin etiqueta . Un fuckboy rara vez te llamará su novia oficial.

I nstead, he’ll focus on the good times the two of you are having together and try to persuade you that naming and defining things is outdated and old-fashioned.

El hecho es que esto es sólo su manera de salirse con la suya con su comportamiento douchebag.

De esta manera, él tiene todos los beneficios de una relación sin ninguna desventaja, que es la típica mierda fuckboy .

En ti tiene sexo regular, alguien con quien acurrucarse, alguien que le escuche y alguien que sea su acompañante.

Al mismo tiempo, cuando le llamas la atención por sus acciones, siempre tiene la excusa válida de que no es tu novio y que no te debe nada. Básicamente, no tienes ningún derecho en esta relación.

Todo sucede en sus términos

Cuando se trata de una relación con este tipo de hombre, puedes olvidarte inmediatamente de saber a qué atenerte y, más aún, de comprometerte.

No, los dos no sois socios iguales y aunque no lo veas, en realidad toda tu relación ocurre bajo sus condiciones.

Los dos os encontráis, habláis y os mandáis mensajes cómo, cuándo y dónde él quiera.

When he has something better to do, you fall to the bottom his priority list and all of a sudden he’s too busy for you.

On the other hand, as soon as everyone else bails on him, you’re the first one he calls.

No hay nada inusual en un follador que te ignora all day, just to send you a message at midnight asking if he can come over to “cuddle.” It is more than obvious what this guy is after, and that he wants to commit to you in his own way and on his own terms.

Cualquier falta de compromiso es una falta de fe en tu relación, y francamente, un clásico movimiento de fuckboy.

Te mantiene en secreto

Each different relationship unfolds with its own timing, and if you haven’t yet met the friends or family of the guy you’re dating and want to take it slow, then that’s totally fine.

However, this doesn’t make it okay for your boyfriend to keep your relationship a secret.

If this is the case with your guy – if he is actively keeping you a secret from his family and friends, avoiding mentioning you, and using you to sneak around – then it’s pretty likely that he doesn’t want your relationship to be public because it would interfere with the fuckboy life he’s been living.

It is quite possible that he doesn’t plan on having a future with you and that he doesn’t want you to become a part of his life, since you’ll be out of it any time now.

Not being ready for a serious commitment is one thing, but pretending like you don’t exist when the two of you aren’t alone? That’s not good enough.

The two of you are adults and you don’t have to be all over each other wherever you go, but there is nothing wrong with some public displays of affection.

Recuerda que necesitas a alguien que se sienta orgulloso de estar contigo y quiera presumir de ti ante el mundo.

Besides, there is also a possibility that this man is hiding you because he is in a long term relationship or even married and he doesn’t want to get caught.

Puede ser la otra mujer without even knowing it just because he is a weak ass pussy who doesn’t have the guts to tell you the truth.  

Otras chicas en escena

When you’re dating someone, they should be investing their time in you and you alone.

Of course, at first when you’re on the dating scene, you may both be entertaining other options and under no requirement to be exclusive.

However, when you spend a little more time with someone and start dating more regularly, it’s generally assumed that you become exclusive as you give things a shot.

Fidelity is something that should be expected and implied, and anything else isn’t even an option.

Nevertheless, if your guy has other options opened or if he’s still seeing other girls, he is without doubt a living example of a fuckboy.

You’re not the only girl in this guy’s life and that is not something you should ever accept, especially if you’re exclusive.

Deberías conoce tu valor and know how much you can bring to someone’s life, so don’t ever settle for being just a part when you should be the whole.

Incapacidad para escuchar

Los fuckboys son maestros de la charla trivial. Conseguir que te involucres en una charla con ellos para recabar toda la información que necesiten para ponerte de su parte es lo que mejor saben hacer.

Preguntarán mucho preguntas profundas to get to know you better, but anything beyond that doesn’t interest them at all.

At first, you’ll be delighted by the fact that this guy wants to get to the bottom of your personality, but with time, you’ll see that he doesn’t care about your life at all.

This will leave you with an emotional void you won’t be able to fill.

La forma más fácil de saber si realmente están en la conversación para conseguir algo, es prestar atención a si realmente están comprometidos en la conversación o están respondiendo a tus preguntas con afirmaciones sobre sí mismos.

Si sientes que la conversación tiene algo de profundidad y significado, entonces están realmente interesados en ti.

Nevertheless, if you get the feeling that the conversation is a one-way street, then you’re dealing with a fuckboy who has gathered all the information he needs and won’t bother going any deeper.

‘Nice Guy Charade

Cuando alguien es una buena persona, créeme, es completamente inconsciente de ello.

Hacen el bien porque se lo dicta su conciencia y porque creen que es la forma correcta de vivir su vida.

Genuinely nice people don’t have the need to go around telling everyone about their qualities and bragging about their good deeds.

If you meet a guy who doesn’t have a history of cheating or abusing his partners, this is not something he’ll talk about constantly.

This man considers this the right way of being in a relationship and he doesn’t expect a medal for being a normal guy who treated his girlfriends the way they deserve.

On the other hand, when you’re dealing with a man who is constantly bringing your attention to the fact that he is a buen chico , then you’re definitely dealing with a fuckboy.

They have the need to convince you they won’t hurt you because they wouldn’t want to hurt a fly, just so you can open up to them and trust them, only to get extremely hurt in the end.

Sus redes sociales

Nos guste admitirlo o no, nuestras redes sociales revelan mucho sobre nosotros y ésta es una de las formas que pueden ayudarte a desvelar si alguien es un fuckboy o no.

A fuckboy will like literally every female’s profile pictures , status updates, and posts.

Besides, he’ll be known for sending his dick pics whenever he has a chance of doing so.

You’ll track many girls liking and commenting on his posts and profile pictures in a way that reveals something more going on between them.

Cuando te enfrentas a él por lo de esas mujeres, te dice que no hay de qué preocuparse.

Even though he claims that these girls are nothing more than his friends, the truth is that he doesn’t even know many of them, he’s slept with some of them in the past, and he still has sexual relationships with a number of them.

Now that you’ve learned what is a fuckboy and how to discover him, it’s time to find out more about handling this type of guy successfully.

Of course, the best thing you could do is to run for your life as soon as you notice signs of a fuckboy, but sometimes, you’re dragged too deep in a relationship with this guy and you have to find a way to deal with him.

That is exactly what we are giving you: an answer to a question almost every woman has asked herself in one point of her life: “How to deal with a fuckboy?”

¿Cómo tratar con él?

Si su hombre muestra algunos de los banderas rojas listed above, then we’re sorry to tell you that he is probably a fuckboy, and you deserve better.

I know that you’re hoping he’ll change in time and thinking that you should just be patient enough until that happens.

However, the truth is that he’ll forever remain the same douchebag he’s always been and he’ll never become the man you need him to be.

Por lo tanto, la forma correcta de vencer a este tipo de personas en su propio juego es no jugar en absoluto.

Sí, has oído bien. Lo que debes hacer es ignorarlo por completo y echarlo de tu vida para siempre.

No tactics, no arguments, no revenge – just walk away and move on with your life, as much as it hurts. Trust me, this is the last thing he expects.

A primera vista, este chico actúa como un estudiante de último curso de instituto. Aunque, sinceramente, lo más probable es que solo esté intentando compensar todo lo que se perdió durante el instituto y piense que esta es la forma correcta de hacerlo.

Every fuckboy is actually an insecure, immature boy who has the need to feed his ego by breaking other people’s hearts.

Messed up, I know, but it’s his way of making himself feel important.

So, as long as you’re allowing this guy to keep dragging you back in his never-ending circle of manipulation, mind games, mixed signals, and other fuckboy shit , he is the winner because this is exactly what he wants.

Don’t try to outsmart him because you won’t succeed. Firstly, he has a lot of experience in doing this. Secondly, your conscience would never allow you to be like him.

To sum it up, when it comes to dealing with a fuckboy, the answer is simple – don’t deal with him.

You should never dedicate your time to someone who doesn’t have the time, energy, and affection that you need to keep you happy.

En el complicado mundo de las citas, para ti, tu felicidad debe ocupar el primer lugar en tu lista de prioridades.

When someone brings you down or doesn’t make you completely happy, ditch them and move on.

You should always be number one in your life, and when you know your worth, a fuckboy simply won’t do.

These type of men aren’t interested in women they can’t have an impact on, so the moment he sees that you’re an independent woman who values herself, he will pass onto another victim.

Una hembra alfa necesita un hombre que añada a su vida, no que le quite.

If you think you’re dating a fuckboy, then show him the door and let him make way for someone who will make you happy.

Si esperas y te cuidas, te prometemos que un hombre de verdad ocupará su lugar.

Remember that remaining single until the right guy comes along beats being nothing more than someone’s option, hands down.