Cómo distanciarte de él para que te eche de menos y vuelva

Si se muestra distante, no le persigas. Ese plan no funcionará porque él sólo se sentirá más importante.

He’ll see that you let him behave the way he wants and that won’t change anything.

He’ll see that you care about him and that you don’t want to lose him.

For as long as he sees that, he’ll keep on messing with you because he knows he can.

He can do whatever he wants and you’ll come back to him.

¡Cambia ese enfoque! Métele un poco en la cabeza porque seguro que él está metiendo la tuya.

He is taking advantage of your love and you’re buying it. It’s time for you to change your game. Become more like him. Let him have a taste of his own medicine. You’ll see how things will work differently.

Usually men distance themselves because they want some space. They have issues they have to solve and by chasing them, you’ll only make things worse. If he wants space, let him have it.

Leave him alone and don’t bother calling him or asking where he’s been.

I know it’s hard to pretend you’re totally cold-blooded, but it’s a win-win situation.

¿Por qué? Porque si le das algo de espacio, pueden ocurrir dos cosas.

La primera es que resolverá por sí mismo lo que le molestaba y volver.

And the second one is, he’ll see that you’re ignoring him and if he cares about you even a bit, he won’t be able to take it, so he’ll chase you.

You see, you can’t lose in this situation. You just have to play it smart.

I’m not saying you should play mind games and use him. You should just teach him a lesson and show him what you’ll tolerate and what not.

¿El único error que nunca debe cometer?

It’s so natural that you feel abandoned and hurt if he wants some space, if he wants to get away from you.

You’ll feel rejected and who wants that in a relationship? A lot of women make this mistake because their instinct kicks in.

You’ve hurt me and now I want revenge. If you really want him to come back to you, don’t try to punish him for asking some space, don’t try to get even with him because you’ll push him away.

¿Cómo hacer que te eche de menos después de distanciarte?

Tómate tu tiempo

Don’t get ahead of yourself because you might do something reckless, something you’ll regret later on. Try to be alone for a while and let the passion withdraw.

Take some time to feel hurt. Absorb your pain and let it go away. After it’s gone, you can make plans on how to let him know he needs you and can’t live without you.

Déjalo ir.

Si necesita espacio, dale espacio. Básicamente tienes que dejar de preocuparte por él.

Of course, you’re not be able to do that, but you can pretend you’ve perdió interés. Finge que ya no te gusta tanto.

Show him that if he doesn’t care and if he is doing this on purpose just to see what your reaction will be, he will see that you’re indifferent.

Y si realmente necesita espacio para resolver las cosas, hazlo de todos modos porque le demostrarás que le has escuchado y que le has dejado en paz para que resuelva lo que le preocupa.

Don’t post everything on your social media

Las redes sociales pueden ser una de tus armas más poderosas. Lo que nunca debes hacer es publicar canciones desgarradoras y actualizaciones de estado.

Don’t do that because it will make you look needy and clingy. You don’t want him to see you as a loser but as a fighter.

Puedes publicar fotos con otros hombres, pero tampoco es un camino correcto.

Provocará celos malsanos y, para ser sinceros, estos métodos de manipulación no son tan saludables sea cual sea la situación.

Si quieres publicar algo, publica tu salida nocturna con amigos. Publica un selfie con una bonita sonrisa.

Keep your wall positive because after all, after your plan is f+done, you’re going to feel like it.

Show him that you’re not devastated and that your life moves on even when he is not in it.

Este movimiento tuyo le conmoverá y provocará esos sentimientos que quieres que sienta.

He’ll miss you and he’ll realize what a stupid mistake he has made.

Pasa más tiempo con tus amigos

Sal con tus amigos. Simplemente diviértete e intenta no pensar en él. Intenta borrarlo de tu memoria para quitarte presión.

Relájate y olvídate de él durante unas horas. Deberías ir a tomarte un par de copas.

Go to a concert—you should go wild. Show him you can have fun and enjoy life without him.

He’s not the center of your universe (at least he shouldn’t be) and you have to make him aware of that.

Ponte las pilas cuando te topes con él

You have to be aware that you can’t plan when you’ll see him—and you definitely will.

Prepare yourself for seeing him probably when you’re at your worst. Like coming home in the morning from a wild party still hungover or with your glasses on and greasy hair tied up in a messy bun (not the good messy, but bad messy).

Get your act together. Don’t panic. Act cool about it. Don’t panic because you look like shit, but try to show him that you don’t give a damn how you look and that you can rock every look possible because let’s face it, you would look amazing wearing a garbage bag.

Act friendly and show him that you’re glad you bumped into him because you haven’t seen him in a while.

Just stay cool and altogether. Chat a bit with him and ask him how he’s been?

Don’t let his presence affect you because he’ll see it and then you achieved nothing.