Comprender y amar a una persona de personalidad reservada
Su primera pregunta cuando tropieza con alguien que tiene una personalidad reservada podría ser: "¿Qué le pasa a esta persona?".
May I share a little secret with you? There is nothing wrong with guarded people. It’s just that their past has made them that way.
No son diferentes de usted y de mí, salvo que esconden un corazón vigilante que teme ser herido una vez más.
Una persona con una personalidad reservada puede sentirse incómoda a la hora de mostrar afecto hacia ti o hacia cualquier otra persona.
It’s just that (s)he doesn’t really feel like hugging you nor being too close.
Cuando abrazas a una persona, le estás prometiendo consuelo y quizá amistad intencionadamente, y una persona precavida es bastante consciente de ello.
It might be the case that (s)he refuses to bond with you in such a way because she’s running away from any close affection.
Además, las personas consideradas solitarias pueden ser simplemente personas con una personalidad reservada.
Verás, son selectivamente sociables, pueden estar cerca de ti, pero sólo mientras se sientan cómodos a tu lado. Necesitan confiar en ti para abrirse a ti.
The thing is they don’t really like to waste their energy nor time on people who don’t matter that much to them.
Eligen sabiamente a sus amigos y pueden ser percibidos como solitarios sociales.
Un poco paradójico, lo sé.
It’s just that they are social, but only when they choose to be so.
On the other hand, that is why they don’t have a big group of friends, but those who’ve earned a place in their lives are the best friends a person could wish for.
Personas de personalidad reservada suelen ser misteriosos, pero no intencionadamente.
They don’t like sharing their privacy with anybody, and they rarely invite you into their worlds.
Hay una cierta zona que nunca se puede cruzar porque les gusta blindarse.
The truth is, they don’t want you to be interested in their lives; it’s not the reason they behave the way they behave.
You get as much cake as they let you. You’ll probably have a rough time finding any info about them on social media, and don’t even try bugging their friends to ask for any info.
You will be denied it. Their personal information is theirs to keep. If you want to get close to them, you’ll have to earn it.
Your only opportunity to know what’s going on in their world will be when, and if, they decide to let you in.
En la mayoría de los casos, tienen miedo de sus propias emociones.
They perceive the world in a bit of a different way. They have incredibly intense emotions and often so many questions in their head that they’re afraid of showing to others.
Their trust has been tampered with, and they have been hurt. That’s the reason for the extra layer of protection around them.
It’s like a small universe inside their heads.
It even gets worse when they hide their feelings and stop them from getting out. Once their emotions find a way to come to light, it’s like a volcanic eruption, and you’ll probably get surprised by it.
That will be the first time you’ll see that human being acting strange and seemingly ‘out of order’.
Las personas vigiladas se sienten cómodas solas.
That’s the main reason you can’t buy them with promises or sweet talk. They’ve seen that one too many times in their lives, and it has always ended up in heartbreak.
What you can do is show in your actions all those things you’ve promised, and you might even get a chance to be welcomed into their mysterious world.
Debido a la experiencia previa que han tenido con otras personas, los guardianes son capaces de leer tus intenciones con facilidad.
Así que, si tienes algo furtivo en mente, deberías seguir adelante.
Gracias a sus relaciones pasadas fallidas, están entrenados para reconocer nuevas relaciones románticas potencialmente peligrosas.
It’s pointless to even try to sneak your way into their lives.
Sin embargo, este tipo de personalidad tiene un gran problema.
They don’t instantly see your good intentions, only the bad ones. Even if they notice your good emotions instantly, it’s highly unlikely they’ll react to them.
It’s just that the dose of distrust is always boiling in them, and it takes time for them to get used to other people. This is the personality trait that describe introvertidos hasta los huesos.
Son así porque saben que no todo el mundo tiene buenas intenciones.
I’ve mentioned this a couple of times so far, but it’s the essential personality trait that makes them so unique and interesting.
Antes de iniciar cualquier nueva relación, evaluarán lo que podría ocurrir si abren su corazón a un completo desconocido.
As I’ve already said, first they will assume only the bad things and who are you to blame them?
What they’re assuming about people, in general, is not that far from the truth. Some people are indeed out to get you.
Whether it’s because they are jealous of you, or they simply don’t like you—it doesn’t matter. Their goal is to hurt you in any way they know how.
A guarded person is one step ahead of those people because they’ve already been through this unpleasant experience.
Therefore, this explains them being extra cautious and acting all ‘weird’.
Lo que todo el mundo no entiende es que las personas reservadas no nacen así.
Son la consecuencia misma de sus pasados y de todo lo que han vivido.
It’s a long process of betrayal and disappointment in others that has brought them to the spot they are to be found in today.
Deep down, they still have love for others. They are funny and extremely sociable, but only if you’re worthy.
If they get to know you and decide not to welcome you into their lives, it’s because they see you for who you truly are.
Sin embargo, si usted se encuentra entre los afortunados que son acogidos en su mundo, tiene la oportunidad de significar el mundo para ellos, pero sólo si se lo merece.
Lo que nunca se te perdonaría es que les traicionaras.
If you get to that spot of trust with them, then you’re among the few privileged ones, and you shouldn’t take advantage of it.
Your kindness is more than welcomed, but don’t push it. Let things fall into their places and be the backbone to a guarded person.
Only then, you’ll truly gain a companion for a lifetime.
