De qué hablar con un chico: 13 formas de mantener su interés
Good conversation is the basis for any healthy relationship, right ladies? So it’s only natural that you’d wonder about what sort of things to talk about with a boy!
Getting the right conversation starter is crucial if you don’t want to blow your chances for a great first impression.
Today, you’re going to find out lots of amazing things to talk about with a guy and learn all about keeping him interested in spending more time with you. I’m going to teach you how to charm him via text, in person, and as you start seeing each other!
Be sure to keep reading as I’ve collected a lot of interesting data that I’m sure will come in handy!
Getting the conversation going can be such a hassle, as sometimes all the conversation topics you had in mind vanish without a trace. But don’t worry. It happens to all of us!
After reading this, you’ll have nothing but great conversation with this boy, and with a little bit of luck, you’ll find shared interests, common ground, and learn how to avoid all those pesky awkward silences!
La primera vez siempre es la más complicada, así que aguanta.
If you’re searching for great conversation starters, want to learn how to break the ice with your crush, and make sure to keep it going after the first date, continue reading and get your man!
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De qué hablar con un chico por SMS
Here, we’ll go through things to talk about with a guy via text! As you’re going through the first stages and getting to know each other, here are some useful conversation starters.
Antes de conocerle en persona, así es como debe ser si quieres mantenerle invertido a largo plazo.
1. Que sea breve, dulce y divertido.
Through texting, your goal is to let this boy know you’re easy, breezy, and super fun to have around. So avoid having serious conversations and steer clear of draining topics.
Ask him what he’s passionate about and what his weirdest pet peeves are.
Don’t give him a hard time about anything and leave something for the next time you text. My advice is to leave an air of mystery about yourself!
Haz que se pregunte ciertas cosas no compartiéndolo todo a la vez.
Pregúntele por su comida favorita, qué tipo de música escucha y su lugar preferido para desconectar. Pero cuando él haga las preguntas, asegúrate de mantenerte intrigante, tímida y como alguien a quien quiere conocer mejor.
2. Haga preguntas de seguimiento para mantener la conversación
If the guy seems eager, give him something to go on! By sharing things with you, he’s letting you know that he likes talking to you.
So don’t leave him hanging; ask him follow-up questions!
Whatever he’s typing about, ask him about it. That will give him reassurance that you actually want to hear about it.
Otra cosa es darle espacio para que diga realmente lo que tiene que decir. ¿Cómo? No haciéndole preguntas constantemente y dándole tiempo para que termine sus ideas.
Guys like to know that they’re being heard and that’s exactly what you’ll do. But always find a healthy balance between being too nosey and just the right amount of curiosity.
3. Envíale memes divertidos
But be careful. Make sure that it’s actually funny and it will make him LOL. Here’s how you’ll know if it’s text-worthy.
It’s very simple; if it made you laugh the moment you saw it, it’s likely going to do the same to him. But if it’s neither here nor there, keep looking!
You can ask around about his likes and dislikes, and that’ll give you an idea of what he might consider funny! The point of sending him a funny meme is to make him laugh.
Why? Because then he’ll be reminded of you every time he sees that or anything similar.
See? It’s all about leaving a lasting impact! And by the time you get that first date, you’ll already have made a great first impression, which will benefit you greatly by making him see how cool and witty you are.
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Cosas de las que hablar con un chico en persona
Esta parte está relacionada con esos encuentros casuales y con verse a través de amigos comunes. Hay montones de cosas divertidas de las que hablar con la persona que te gusta en persona y que harán que el ambiente sea distendido y divertido.
You may know this guy to some extent, he may even be a casual friend, or you may have spotted him across the bar! Here’s how you’ll get his attention.
4. What’s your name?
Obviously, this pertains to the guy you just spotted. You’re sitting at a bar, looking around, and you see this cute dude.
You want to go over but you’re not sure what to say. Sometimes, the key is simplicity. Go over, and ask him what his name is.
Simple as that! By his reaction, you’ll get a sense if he wants to keep talking or not. If he seems friendly and offers you his name, introduce yourself, shake his hand and give him a coy smile!
Ask him about the origin of his name (if it’s an unusual one) and keep talking about how cool this place is. And before you know it, the conversation will develop all on its own!
5. Pregúntale por su bebida.
First thing you should know; men love to be approached by women and getting talked up! So you can’t go wrong whatever happens. Secondly, your best bet is to ask him about his drink.
If he’s sipping something interesting, pretend that you want to order the same thing so you want to know if it’s worth it.
That will give you a few minutes of great conversation, and if the guy’s into you, trust me, you’ll see it by his behavior and body language.
Otros temas estupendos son qué hace en su tiempo libre y si tiene cuentas en las redes sociales, e incluso puedes compartir algunas de las cosas más divertidas que hayas visto en ellas últimamente. Lo que surja de forma natural en ese momento.
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6. Averigua cuál es su situación sentimental
This is a bit trickier to figure out, but definitely not impossible! First, if you’re a straightforward type of person, just go ahead and ask him something like ”Are you here with your girlfriend, best friend, coworkers…?” and you’ll get your answer just like that!
But if you’re on the shy side, there are other conversation topics that will help you get it out of him. Ask him if he’s been on any fun vacations lately and who with.
If that doesn’t help, ask where his girlfriend is and if she minds him spending time alone at a bar (con una sonrisa coqueta pero cauta).
And another great tip is to casually mention Tinder and totally randomly ask if he’s on there. Some of these things are bound to get you an answer!
7. Menciona un nuevo restaurante que realmente quieras probar
If you’re talking to a guy you know, this should be a piece of cake! Think really hard if there are any new places that recently opened and that you really want to visit!
Maybe a bar, restaurant, or event that he might be interested in. And the next time you’re talking, mention how much you want to go!
Pero asegúrate de insinuarle que quieres que estéis los dos solos, lejos de vuestros amigos comunes. Si quieres que este chico se convierta en tu mejor amigo y amante, ¡tenéis que pasar un buen rato juntos!
That’s the only way you’ll find out all about his favorite things, which TV shows he binge-watches, if he has a good sense of humor, and what his all-time favorite movie is!
Quién sabe, a lo mejor tenéis el mismo superhéroe favorito, ¡lo que os dará mucho de qué hablar!
8. Pregúntale por sus planes para el fin de semana
Fingers crossed he doesn’t have any! This is a really big step (in the right direction) and if he’s interested en absoluto, he’ll make sure you know!
Tell him you don’t have any plans and show how excited you are as you can’t remember the last time you were free for a fun weekend adventure!
And now the ball’s in his court. He knows you’re free and he sees that you’re eager. It’s up to him what happens next.
If he’s the type of guy who’d rather stay home playing video games all weekend long instead of spending time with you, maybe he’s not worth the bother.
But if he has any idea how awesome you are, he’ll get the hint and offer to make plans together. And that’s all you really want!
Tiempo de calidad en el que podréis hablar de vuestros libros favoritos, entablar conversaciones adorables y coquetas y (¡ojalá!) besaros hasta que se os duerman los labios.
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De qué hablar con un chico en la primera cita
Okay, so if you got this far – congrats! You managed to scoop your guy and get to the first date, yay! Now, it’s time to show him what you’re all about.
If this is the first time it’s just the two of you, don’t panic. He’s just as nervous as you are!
As long as you don’t forget to keep eye contact and follow these useful pointers, you’ll end it on a high note!
9. Ask him what he’s passionate about
We all have something that we’re deeply passionate about! And what better way to get the conversation going than by letting him share about something so inspiring and positive?
Créeme, es el mejor modo de iniciar una conversación.
Can you imagine finding out that you’re both into the same things? That would immediately speed things along and lead to some really good conversations!
Este tipo podría convertirse en tu mejor amigo (¡con todas las ventajas!)
Además, los expertos en relaciones señalan lo vitales que son los intereses compartidos y los puntos en común a la hora de empezar a salir con alguien nuevo. Así que si encuentras similitudes, aprovéchalas y conecta basándote en cosas que os hagan realmente felices a los dos.
10. Compartir anécdotas divertidas de la infancia
When you’re faced with those annoying awkward silences (which are perfectly normal on a first date, btw) you can resort to your funny childhood stories! They will get you out of the funk and move things along as if nothing ever happened.
Todos tenemos cosas divertidas que contar de nuestros primeros años. Yo podría seguir hablando durante siglos de mi incómoda adolescencia.
Prepare your best stories beforehand, and that way you’ll be ready should the need arise. These anecdotes might just be some of the best things to talk about with a boy!
They will immediately bring a chill vibe, bring reassurance to both of you, and probably make at least one of you laugh. And the best thing about this is that he’ll just end up offering some of his best stories and the conversation will proceed organically.
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11. Ask him ”would you rather” questions
When you run out of things to talk about with this boy, here’s what can help. Play a game of ”Would you rather?” Here are a few examples of how this should go:
¿Preferiría tener una verdadera tarjeta para salir de la cárcel o una llave que abra cualquier puerta?
¿Preferiría conocer la historia de cada objeto que toca o poder hablar con los animales?
¿Preferirías poder ver 10 minutos de tu propio futuro o 10 minutos del futuro de alguien que no seas tú?
Mantén su interés haciéndole estas preguntas intrigantes y hazle pensar. No es habitual, pero funciona de maravilla.
Pruébelo usted mismo. Prepárate algunas de estas preguntas con antelación y deja volar su imaginación.
12. ¿Cuáles son sus objetivos y ambiciones?
¿Cuáles son sus sueños? ¿Qué espera conseguir en la vida? ¿Está contento con su vida actual y cambiaría algo si pudiera?
You have to get a good sense of who he is and what he’s all about.
Talking about your favorite movies is cool, but this is the only way to see if there’s a future with him. Maybe you’ll help him open up and share with you more than he wanted to, and that’s awesome!
He needs to know that you’re easy to talk to and he can feel free to mention anything.
When he sees how pleasant and easy-going you are, not to mention a great person to talk to, he’ll see the potential in seeing you again and again.
13. Habla de tu música favorita
One of the best ways to connect with someone is through music! There’s just something special in how music can move you in ways that are difficult to comprehend and simply must be felt.
Ask what kind of music he’s into and see if you overlap in any genres or artists.
For me personally, music is a huge factor when deciding if I’m going to keep seeing someone. When I meet a guy who’s into the same music, whom I can share all about my favorite bands, lyrics, and concert experiences, nothing quite compares.
It’s the key to my soul, as is the case with lots of people out there. So figure out what type of music sets his soul on fire and with a little bit of luck, your second date might just be at a concert!
And Remember…
The longer you keep seeing each other, the easier it should be to have long, natural, fun, and serious conversations. It’s totally okay to wonder about things to talk about with a boy as you’re just getting to know each other…
Pero cuando las cosas empiecen a ir en serio, todo debería salirte de forma natural. Pasar tiempo con él debería ser como unas vacaciones para tu alma y, cada vez que lo veas, no deberías sentir más que alegría, emoción y felicidad infantil.
If you have to force yourself to talk about certain things and you’re having trouble connecting on a deeper level, maybe that’s a sign that he’s just not the guy for you?
Because when you’re with a boy whose heart is in sync with yours, all the time in the world won’t be enough when you’re with him!
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