¿Crees Saber Que Él Es El Elegido?

Before making this beyond complicated, I will tell you the truth from the start. The truth is that you don’t know and you will never know. But you can feel.

Saber y sentir son dos direcciones contradictorias y cuando se entrelazan pueden crear un reino de confusión, incertidumbre e incluso depresión.

Have you ever looked at your man and started thinking ‘how in the world can I be sure that he is the one?’ After that, you start weighing up some pros and cons, rewinding scenes of his socks under the bed or that last cake eaten by him…

Then you realize that there is no point in making a list of an ‘anti-perfect man’ and you start begging God and his assistants to enlighten you.

Pero el único problema es que pones demasiado empeño en el conocimiento y los hechos sobre tu hombre en lugar de escuchar tu intuición y tu instinto. Saber y sentir son dos direcciones contradictorias y cuando se entrelazan pueden crear un reino de confusión, incertidumbre e incluso depresión.

#1 DEJAR DE PREGUNTARSE SI ÉL ES EL UNO

Do you know the feeling when you question something to the extent that it becomes a haunting nightmare? If you want to forget that feeling (and I certainly would) then you have to stop asking yourself if he is the man who’s going to pick you up in his spaceship and introduce you to his crew (aka his parents) all the while exploring the endless extent of space that is love.

Kidding aside, you have to reach the level where you know that you don’t know that he is the one. Try repeating: “I don’t know if he is the one and I don’t give a damn. I will not let this overrated question manipulate me. I’m a strong, independent woman and I choose to live carefree.”

#2 SENTIR

Being too occupied with questions and answers kills all the fun and spontaneity that are crucial to your well-being. For example, your head is in his lap and he’s playing with your locks while you’re questioning his existence along with the whole universe and the theory of gravity.

Él lo sabrá. Lo sabrá cuando empieces a hacerte estas preguntas porque los hombres tienen ese extraño radar que les dice cada vez que algo huele mal en su mujer.

To avoid this, concentrate on feelings. If you feel like you’ve attained nirvana (and I don’t mean the band) when just hanging around with your man—THAT’S IT.

That’s the thing we’re looking for. Just listen to your intuition and embrace the feelings you get when thinking of that specific person and you’ll get the answer.

#3 ¿CÓMO PUEDO ESTAR SEGURO DE QUE MIS SENTIMIENTOS NO ME ENGAÑAN?

YOU CAN’T and that’s the beauty of it. But if you’re sure of your own existence, that will do. Cogito, ergo sum (I think, therefore I am).

Pensar en algo demuestra que existimos, pero no valida nuestros sentimientos. Por ejemplo, Miranda dice que está segura de que Jim es el elegido porque es muy buena persona.

¡¿Qué demonios?! ¿Qué significa eso?

Miranda probablemente piensa que Jim es una buena persona por un millón de otras razones que se corresponden con su definición de un buen tipo. Pero, ¿cómo la hace sentir eso? La verdadera pregunta es cómo le hace sentir a usted.

Do you want to be with him because he is such a good guy and ‘the one’ according to your scale and priorities or do you want to be with him because he makes you feel transcendent, blessed and utterly grateful?

No pienses. SIENTE.

P.S. If he can drive you beyond crazy and you still don’t want him dead—he’s definitely the one.