Cuando salgas con una mujer fuerte, serás su segunda prioridad

La última meta amorosa a la que todos aspiramos es ser la primera opción de alguien.

Cuando hablamos de relaciones sanas, siempre mencionamos, entre otras cosas, que la pareja debe anteponerse al otro. 

And there’s nothing wrong with that. However, cuando salgas con una mujer fuerte e independiente, prepárate para quedar siempre en segundo lugar. 

Sí, has oído bien. Puedes ser el mejor novio del mundo, puedes tratarla con amor y respeto, pero ella nunca te dará prioridad. 

No, you won’t be her second choice when it comes to other men. In fact, her fidelity is something you should never worry about because when this woman chooses you, she’ll only have eyes for you. 

You won’t even come after her family, friends, or work either.

Yes, she loves her dearest ones and she is career-oriented, but she is also very well aware that you’re her life partner and that nobody can be more important than you. 

Excepto una persona. Y esa persona es ella misma. 

Verás, por mucho que esta mujer te quiera, siempre se querrá un poco más a sí misma.

La vida le ha enseñado la importancia del amor propio y autocuidado and she’d never allow anyone to take that place in her life. 

As much as she cares for you, she’ll never be able to put your needs in front of her own.

Yes, she’ll do everything in her power to meet you halfway as long as those compromises don’t make her miserable. 

As much as she respects you, she’ll always have a little more self-respect.

She’ll never respect your time, friends, job, or desires more than she respects her own. 

This is a girl who knows her worth and would never stand idly by, watching you diminish it. She’d never put herself beneath you. 

No, all of this doesn’t mean that you’ll be emotionally neglected.

It doesn’t mean that you’ll be submissive in this relationship or that sooner or later, you’ll end up feeling unloved and unwanted. 

De hecho, esta mujer te dará el tipo de amor que ni siquiera sabías que existía. Lo más importante, she’ll teach you how to love yourself the way you expect someone else to. 

She’ll cherish your relationship and do everything in her power for the sake of its future – as long she considers it to be good for her own. 

The last thing she’d do is waste years of her life on someone who holds her back and keeps her from progressing.

On someone she isn’t compatible with and who stands a chance of making her life a living hell. 

She’ll fight to preserve your love, but never beg for it. Don’t expect her to chase you and settle for crumbs of your attention because she has too much dignity for something like that. 

She’ll make sacrifices for your relationship as long as they don’t threaten her well-being.

She won’t endanger her own mental health, nor consciously keep on breaking her heart just to be with you at all costs.  

Una mujer fuerte hará todo lo posible por hacerte el hombre más feliz del planeta con tal de que permanecer a tu lado la haga feliz.

So, don’t expect her to be with you if your relationship stops fulfilling her, and if you stop giving her what she needs and deserves. 

She’ll put all of her effort into your relationship as long as it doesn’t overwhelm and drain her to the point where she’s left without the strength she needs to run her life.

She’ll try hard to make the two of you work, but she’ll try even harder to help herself function. 

Therefore, if you ask her to pick between her romantic relationship with you and her relationship with herself, know that she’ll always choose the latter. 

Don’t expect her to stop existing as an individual just because she’s a part of a couple now.

Don’t expect her to disregard her entire life so she can be at your disposal at all times. 

Most importantly, don’t ever expect her to love you more than se ama a sí misma. 

Esto puede sonar pesimista, pero a pesar de que vuestra relación vaya genial ahora, ninguno de los dos sabe lo que os deparará el futuro.

Después de todo, puedes alejarte de ella en cualquier momento. 

Puede encontrarse fácilmente en una situación en la que tenga que acostumbrarse a vivir sin ti o sin cualquier otra persona en su vida.

However, the only one who’ll always stick by her side and never abandon her is herself. 

Puede que llames egoísta a esta mujer, pero créeme, es la única manera de que las cosas funcionen entre vosotros. La única manera para ella ser la mejor novia es ser primero una mujer feliz. 

On the other hand, if this is something you can’t accept, be honest and tell her on time. Yes, she’ll be hurt for losing you, but she’ll survive. 

Recuerde que este woman doesn’t need you – she wants to be with you.

But if you don’t feel the same way, she’ll be perfectly okay on her own.