Este año, defina su relación casi

En lo que respecta a las citas modernas, no definir una relación entre dos personas se ha convertido en algo completamente normal.

In fact, it’s like this has become a standard; you’re even at risk of being called old-fashioned if you demand to know where you stand right from the start.

After all, what’s wrong with having some casual fun?

What’s the harm in seeing a guy from time to time, sleeping with him with sin ataduras y liarse con él cuando a los dos os apetezca, sin promesas de futuro?

We’re all just living in the moment, right? Who cares what will happen tomorrow if we’re enjoying each other’s company right now?

Don’t get me wrong—I’m no Judge Judy and all of this is perfectly fine with me as long as both parties involved agree upon the nature of their relationship.

Una persona tiene derecho a no querer una relación en determinados momentos de su vida y lo único que tiene que hacer es ser completamente honesto sobre sus intenciones sin engañar a la otra persona.

Sin embargo, las cosas no son así en su caso, ¿verdad? The truth is that you’re not okay with this almost relationship you got yourself involved in.

At first, you thought you could make it. You wanted to blend in with the masses and you wanted to try something new but obviously, you miscalculated things and you didn’t evaluate your emotional capacities well.

De hecho, este situación lleva tiempo destrozándote por dentro.

Even though you don’t want to admit it to yourself, let alone to your casi novioel hecho es que quieres mucho más.

You’re not comfortable with not labeling your relationship.

You’re not happy being with a guy who refuses to commit, who never swore his loyalty and who has no duty to be faithful to you.

This type of arrangement doesn’t suit you, as much as you try to convince him, yourself and the rest of the world that it does.

You’re settling for less by accepting the role of his part-time girlfriend, by seeing him occasionally, by not having the right to text him whenever you feel like it and by being his booty call.

La verdad es que te han crecido sentimientos por este hombre, por mucho que estés luchando contra ellos.

Quieres que sea tu novio de verdad y quieres una relación romántica seria con él.

However, you’re too scared of coming clean. You’re afraid of admitting your emotions because they were not part of the deal.

You assume that he’ll start perceiving you as too weak or pathetic.

You’re convinced that you’ll end up with both your ego and heart crushed into pieces if you give it a shot and be honest about your feelings and desires.

I won’t lie to you: this can happen.

There is the possibility of this guy telling you that he doesn’t want the same things you do, that he doesn’t care about you enough to make you his girlfriend, that he doesn’t find you two compatible or that he is simply not ready to commit right now.

No obstante, even this case scenario is better than being left on hold; at least, you’ll know where you stand and what you’re dealing with.

You’ll know it’s time to ditch all of your hopes, you’ll walk away from him before you get yourself dragged into this mess even deeper and most importantly—you’ll stop wasting your time.

Yes, you’ll be hurt but the pain will go away.

Por otro lado, también existe la posibilidad de que os pongáis de acuerdo.

La posibilidad de que él tenga los mismos dilemas que tú y la posibilidad de que esto se convierta en un cuento de hadas en la vida real.

Nevertheless, whatever happens, please, make your new year’s resolution to put a stop to this agony.

En 2025, sé lo bastante valiente para definir tu casi relación; convertirlo en real o ponerle fin.

After all, whatever happens, at least you’ll know you tried. You’ll be proud of yourself for following your heart and for doing exactly what it wanted you to do.

Sí, puede que fracases, pero será heroico. Sin embargo, podrías volar en su lugar.

Trust me—either way, you’ll feel much better than now.

Ser consciente de la peor verdad siempre es mejor que pasar cada día en la ignorancia, sin saber qué esperar y qué desear.