Sabré que he encontrado al elegido cuando marque estas casillas

The other day, I was talking to my grandma about relationships. You see, I’ve been single for a while now (and I had my share of crappy relationships before that) so you can assume that she’s worried.

You are probably thinking: “What could an old lady like her tell you about today’s dating?” After all, everything was very different back in her day.

Well, I promise you that she knows more than any of us. In fact, truth be told, I know literally nothing about the man I’m supposed to grow old with.

You see, for as long as I can remember, I either had too high expectations or no standards at all. Of course, when I’m crazy about a guy, he is basically allowed to treat me badly.

He doesn’t have to be ambitious or handsome. Are the butterflies in my stomach throwing a party every time he looks at me? Well, if they do, that should do it.

On the other hand, when I’m with a guy who doesn’t give me that tickling sensation, I’m bothered by everything he does. This is when my standards suddenly skyrocket and when nothing is good enough.

Well, my nana told me that I’ll know I’ve found the right man when he checks off all of these boxes. So, I’m just here sharing her wisdom.

Es leal

When you’re looking for your Mr. Perfect, you want him to stay faithful for the rest of your life. You don’t want him flirting with other girls or fooling around behind your back in any other way.

Esto debería ser una norma básica en toda relación. Sin embargo, mi nana dice que hay algo más importante que la fidelidad: la lealtad.

Cuando un hombre es leal, automáticamente también es fiel.

When he is loyal, he’ll never do anything to betray your trust, he’ll fight for the two of you with all of his strength and he never does anything that might endanger your relationship.

Te hace sentir seguro

La siguiente casilla que debe marcar tu pareja definitiva es la de hacerte sentir seguro. Olvídate de los juegos modernos de las citas, de las señales contradictorias o de hacerte el difícil.

When you’re with this man, you’ll know that he’s there for you and that he isn’t going anywhere, no matter what. You don’t live in a constant state of fear.

You’re not worried that he might leave the second a hotter girl walks past him. You don’t have to wait for him to leave you as soon as you gain some extra pounds or the moment your first wrinkles or gray hairs show up.

He isn’t threatened by you

Back in the old days, men couldn’t stand having a more educated or successful wife.

You probably think that this changed over the course of time. Well, I hate to be the one to burst your bubble but sadly, it hasn’t.

In fact, there are many guys who still feel threatened by their women; they’ve just gotten better at hiding their insecurities.

Por eso tu hombre ideal debe sentirse orgulloso de todo lo que eres capaz de hacer. Debería considerarse afortunado por tener una mujer ambiciosa.

So, instead of holding you back, this man will push you forward. Only next to him will you achieve all those great things you’re destined to accomplish.

Es tu mejor amigo

Al final del día, lo único que quieres es que tu mejor amigo te coja de la mano después de un largo día de trabajo. Quieres a alguien que te comprenda y te quiera igual en lo peor y en lo mejor.

Así que en lugar de buscar un amante, busca también un amigo. Busca a alguien que te haga reír y te saque las lágrimas.

Busca a tu persona, un hombre que sea el lado bueno de tus nubes. Un hombre que esté a tu lado en las buenas y en las malas, en la salud y en la enfermedad, en los días buenos y en los malos.

Para concluir

Forget about the idea that you have to pick between a man who awakens the deepest emotions in you and the one you’re compatible with. Don’t think that this man won’t give you the butterflies you want.

Créeme, ¡puedes tener las dos cosas!