¿Es tu compatibilidad de pareja tan impresionante como crees?
Aunque hay muchas cosas que influyen en la solidez de una relación, la compatibilidad es el factor más importante a la hora de calcular sus posibilidades de éxito.
Este artículo le dará algunas ideas útiles sobre cómo saber si usted y su pareja tienen lo que se necesita para llamarse compatibles.
Check out these 12 signs you do, and 10 that say you absolutely don’t.
12 señales de que la compatibilidad entre tú y tu pareja es fuerte
1. You’re both certain you love each other
You never wonder if the other person loves you or not. They are also completely certain you love them. Between compatible partners, love is something that’s not questioned.
This applies to long-term relationships though. If you’re at the very beginning of a new relationship, this doesn’t have to be true for you.
I’d say that, if it’s your first date or you’re not very far into the relationship, look for attraction, chemistry, and understanding – those will be your cues that you’re on the right path to forming a strong, healthy relationship. If you don’t succeed in it, then don’t shy away from deciding to superar una relación.
2. Comparten los mismos valores fundamentales
Aunque las parejas compatibles parezcan personas totalmente distintas, comparten los mismos valores fundamentales, como la honradez, la lealtad, el compromiso o ser abiertos de mente, compasivos o positivos.
Not all of your values have to be the same – one partner may lean towards optimism and one can be a pessimist, or something similar – but in order to have a successful relationship, it’s necessary to share a lot of the same values.
Si tanto tú como tu pareja creéis en la honradez, la moralidad y la amabilidad (por ejemplo), os resultará más fácil decidir sobre las cosas grandes y pequeñas que os afectan a los dos y a vuestra relación.
3. You don’t mind arguing to solve your problems
Eres abierto sobre tus actitudes y opiniones y se las presentas de forma tranquila y sana a tu pareja, que a su vez se toma el tiempo de considerarlas.
They, of course, do the same. You’re not afraid of fighting and what’s most important it gets you somewhere.
When you make up after a fight, you both learn new things about the other’s stance on the contentious topic, and are willing to solve them.
You don’t feel attacked by your partner. You know they have your best interest at heart at all times, even when you disagree on something.
4. Puede imaginen su futuro juntos
The image of your future you have in your mind involves your significant other. When you think about where you’ll be in 5, 10, 30 years, you can always see them there with you.
This shows your romantic relationship has reached a level where you two are completely integrated into each other’s lives and into each other’s dreams.
Quieres vivir tu vida con ellos, y ellos contigo. Incluso cuando os peleáis o tenéis dificultades, los sigues viendo ahí contigo, pase lo que pase. Para bien o para mal, son tu persona.
5. Tienen intereses comunes
You don’t have to do everything together, but having interests that overlap at least gives you an opportunity to have fun together, which is really important.
It’s vital to have your own hobbies and interests too, but sharing something, such as cooking together or watching the same TV show, can mean a lot.
En primer lugar, demuestra que vuestra forma de pensar y vuestro estilo de vida coinciden en algunos aspectos. En segundo lugar, os da una gran oportunidad de estrechar aún más los lazos.
6. Puedes ser tú mismo con tu pareja
Your partner is a part of your comfort zone. You’re able to be who you are around them. You’re not afraid they won’t like you if you’re being yourself.
Lo mismo ocurre con ellos. Cuando están contigo, puedes ver que comparten más de sí mismos y de su personalidad que cuando hay otras personas cerca.
They might have seemed like an introvert when you just met them, but when the two of you are alone, they are like an open-book extrovert – communicating, sharing, totally open for everything.
Ser capaz de ser uno mismo sin miedo y aceptar a la otra persona por lo que es demuestra tu compatibilidad amorosa como ninguna otra cosa.
7. Les gustan las cosas raras de ti y a ti te gustan las suyas
When you’re being yourself, sure enough, some quirks come out in the open. Your partner doesn’t even mind them.
It’s like they love you more for them. This is something that not only shows your relationship compatibility but probably even means you’re absolute soulmates.
Liking things in your partner that other people consider flaws is adorable. It proves you both have what it takes to deal with the other person’s weaknesses and not only adore them for their strengths.
8. Comparte con ellos tanto las buenas como las malas noticias
Cuando a alguno de los dos le ocurre algo asombroso, corre inmediatamente hacia el otro para compartir su emocionante noticia.
Cuando uno de los dos está deprimido por algo, su pareja es su hombro número uno sobre el que llorar.
This proves you’re so deeply connected and happy to have each other in your lives that you always want to keep them in the loop, but also rely on them to be your partner in crime when something thrilling and fun happens, and your rock when things aren’t great.
En una relación sólida y compatible, la pareja disfruta compartiendo sus experiencias cotidianas.
9. Os sentís atraídos el uno por el otro
There’s a physical attraction between you and your partner. Physical compatibility is an important part of romantic relationships.
Usually, you feel this kind of attraction and chemistry before you feel anything else for your new partner. It’s not the most important one, but bedroom compatibility is a big part of every relationship.
10. Ambos os esforzáis por hacer feliz al otro
En toda relación sentimental hay momentos en los que una persona se siente infravalorada o como si pusiera más empeño en la relación que la otra.
In a compatible relationship, this happens rarely, and if it does, it’s quickly resolved by conversation.
Ambos miembros de la pareja hacen esfuerzos conscientes para que el otro se sienta mejor consigo mismo, con la relación y con la vida en general.
This means that if you’re truly compatible with your partner, you will always try to consider their needs and treat them with the respect they deserve, and they will do the same for you.
11. You’re able to enjoy spending time apart
You both value your free time. You don’t have to be together all the time to feel loved and like everything is going perfectly.
It’s okay for you to take a trip with your friends or do whatever else it is that causes you to be separated from your partner for an extended period of time.
No sólo os parece bien estar separados, sino que os gusta pasar tiempo a solas de vez en cuando.
Being able to be apart and still feel that your relationship is strong is a huge factor that proves you’re compatible partners who have a healthy, successful relationship.
12. Tienen puntos de vista similares sobre las cosas importantes de la vida
When it comes to the most important things in life – health, religion, politics, having children, money – you two share many opinions.
Even though it’s possible to maintain a relationship with someone who has different views about politics or having kids, it’s super hard to make it work.
No sólo es difícil que la relación funcione, sino que demuestra que tú y tu pareja difícilmente podéis ser llamados compatibles.
Discrepar en asuntos menos importantes es completamente normal en las relaciones de éxito, pero las personas compatibles comparten puntos de vista en las cosas más importantes.
10 señales de alarma Show You’re Incompatible With Your Partner
1. Quieres cosas completamente diferentes en la vida
Your goals are completely different. You can hardly imagine your partner in your future because your plans for the future don’t overlap.
Él quiere hacer algo con su vida, o tú quieres hacer algo con la tuya que de ninguna manera pueden combinarse para crear un plan de futuro que os haga felices a los dos.
Lamentablemente, esto demuestra que no sois compatibles.
Claro, uno de los dos puede sacrificar sus sueños para hacer feliz al otro, o los dos pueden intentar llegar a un acuerdo, pero ninguno de los dos va a estar perfectamente satisfecho.
Es posible que no tienen ningún futuro juntos.
2. Your friends and family think you’re not right for each other
I’m not saying that your family or your friends get to decide who you date, but when more than one person that’s close to you seems to notice that you and your partner aren’t right for each other, they’re usually onto something there.
Sometimes we’re too subjective to see the things that a person looking from the outside can easily notice.
You probably feel the chemistry between you and your partner and it’s clouding your judgment.
Presta atención a lo que dicen tus allegados sobre la compatibilidad de tu relación porque suele tener mucho sentido, ya que tu familia y tus amigos son personas normales que suelen velar por tus intereses.
3. Peleas todo el tiempo
Su relación está llena de discusiones y peleas tanto por cosas insignificantes como por cosas importantes. Parece que todo lo que hacéis es pelear y se ha convertido en una experiencia cotidiana normal.
People around you have started giving you relationship advice because everyone has noticed that something is up – everyone except you, that is.
Pelear es una parte saludable de toda relación, pero si lo haces todo el tiempo, se convierte en un patrón estresante y poco saludable que deja muy poco espacio para que tú y tu pareja estrechéis lazos y os comuniquéis con calma.
If you can’t spend a day with your partner or even a couple of hours without having such a strong disagreement that it causes you to fight, this means that you two are indeed not compatible.
4. You don’t fight, ever
On the other hand, never fighting also means that there’s something weird about you two. Compatible partners fight in a healthy way because they have issues that they want to resolve.
They care deeply about clearing the air between them and also about their partner’s opinions and viewpoints.
If you avoid confrontation or have achieved that sad level of indifference in your relationship, you and your significant other probably weren’t compatible to begin with.
When there’s a good level of love compatibility between two people, they are not indifferent towards each other and they’ll definitely have a fight now and then.
5. Sus valores son completamente diferentes
Yes, having differences is okay, but if you and your partner have different opinions about fundamental, core values, this means you aren’t compatible with each other.
If your partner cares a lot about honesty and you don’t, it’s very hard for you two to relate on other levels as well.
If you are super excited to have kids and they already know they never want to have children, this not only means you two are incompatible, but also that you’ll have an incredibly hard time making your relationship work.
Some basic level of compatibility is necessary for every relationship to function, and having different core values means you’re as incompatible as it gets.
Decidir qué hacer en situaciones importantes de la vida es una buena prueba de compatibilidad para cualquier pareja.
While the two of you are allowed to have your ways of living, if they don’t match up, you won’t be able to get through things life will put you through as a couple.
6. Tienes miedo de ser quien eres con ellos
You’ve noticed that you hide your true personality in front of your partner. It seems like you don’t want them to know everything about you, especially those things you consider to be your flaws.
Temes que te quieran menos o incluso que te dejen si llegan a ver tu verdadero yo.
Así no funcionan las personas compatibles en sus relaciones.
If you aren’t certain that your partner would accept you for whoever you are, then there’s a lot of deeper issues that need to be resolved before you start thinking that he’s the one.
7. There are many things about your partner you’d like to change
Te gusta tu pareja, más o menos. Se podría decir que te gusta más la imagen que tienes de ella que ella de ti.
Hay cosas increíbles de tu pareja que te han enamorado, pero también hay muchas otras... que le gustaría cambiar de ellos.
You keep thinking that your relationship would be so much better if those things changed but…
Having a lot of things you hate about your partner sadly is your cue to realize that your relationship compatibility level isn’t really high.
8. Nunca os ponéis de acuerdo sobre qué hacer juntos
Parece que siempre que queréis quedar, no estáis de acuerdo en qué hacer. Tu pareja quiere ver una película y tú quieres salir de fiesta.
Your partner’s thinking about inviting friends over for dinner and you really don’t want any company.
Sure, these things happen even in the most compatible relationships, but they are a rare occurrence – not an everyday thing.
If it seems like you and your partner can never agree to do something that satisfies you both, this can be a red flag that says you’re incompatible with each other.
9. You don’t get each other’s jokes
El humor es importante. Tener un sentido del humor similar significa tener una forma parecida de pensar y de entender el mundo.
If you and your partner not only don’t have the same sense of humor but don’t even understand each other’s jokes, this basically means you don’t understand where they’re coming from.
If you do get their jokes just don’t find them funny, this is slightly less of a red flag – at least there’s at least a little bit of understanding going on between the two of you.
10. You don’t care about sharing important news with them
When something super important happens to you, your partner isn’t the first person to share your news with. Not only are they not the first, they sometimes don’t even make the list.
Not wanting to share stuff with each other means your interests in each other’s lives are low.
Compatible partners are keenly interested in whatever is happening in their loved one’s life. So if that’s not the case, sadly, you don’t have what it takes to call yourselves compatible.
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