9 Frases Que Todos Los Narcisistas Usan Cuando Quieren Manipularte

Todos los narcisistas son maestros de la manipulación y la luz de gas. Siempre saben cómo conseguir exactamente lo que quieren y maniobrar para salir de cada problema que causan.

I once dated a narcissist and didn’t even know it until later on when I realized how much he controlled me and always portrayed himself as a victim. A menudo me preguntaba si realmente era una loca o si sólo salía con un psicópata. 

After watching one video I learned that’s exactly what he wanted – to make me think I’m the problem. TikTok user @the_bat_wolf publicó un vídeo hablando de frases comunes que los narcisistas usan contra ti.

Se autodenominó “self-aware narcissist” saying both he and toxic people he’s been with used these exact words to manipulate others. And after listening to everything he said, I must say all of them sounded really familiar! He described my ex in a 1-minute video, it’s crazy!

Here’s what he said those 9 phrases are:

1. “Why are you starting fights with me?”

This is one classic example of a sentence they use when they know they did something wrong and want to avoid taking accountability. It’s just un penoso intento de hacerte sentir culpable por crear tensión, incluso cuando sólo quieres hablar tranquilamente de algún tema. 

2. “Why are you always overreacting?”

Whenever they say this, be sure they just want to convince you that you’re exaggerating when en realidad tiene una reacción perfectamente adecuada a algo que sucedió. Sinceramente, esta era una razón por la que a veces pensaba que me pasaba de la raya, incluso siendo demasiado amable. 

3. “This conversation is over. I’m leaving!”

Whenever they don’t get what they want from you, they’ll use this tactic to change that. Narcissists know they can ganarse tu compasión e infundirte miedo diciendo que están disgustados y marchándose. Tener miedo de acabar solo, te convierte en una víctima perfecta para ellos. 

4. “I guess I’m just a piece of sh*t.”

Es otro intento de ganarse tu simpatía autodespreciándose. Su objetivo es hacerte sentir culpable for saying something, even if it wasn’t hurtful so they can be excused from what they did. 

5. “Believe whatever you want.”

If narcissists realize you know the truth and they have nowhere to escape they won’t simply give up. Instead, they’ll use this phrase when they don’t have anything more to add to defend themselves. So by saying this, they don’t give you an opportunity to address and discuss what you want. 

6. “Why are you so sensitive?”

You’re either overreacting or you’re too sensitive, there’s no in-between! Either way, los narcisistas nunca validarán tus sentimientos. They’ll just gaslight you until they convince you what you’re feeling is completely wrong. 

7. “Why do you make everything a big deal?”

Similar to saying you’re overreacting or too sensitive, they use this when they want you to think you’re the problem. This way, they can get out of almost anything because minimizan sus acciones haciéndolas parecer menos problemáticas. My ex would always say I’m crazy for being upset over something that’s not so serious.

8. “You’re crazy!”

Nunca creas a una persona narcisista cuando te diga esto. Sólo usan esta frase para que dudes de tus sentimientos. and think they’re a real victim. The only victim here is you! Don’t let them fool you. 

9. “You don’t appreciate me!”

I remember my ex would always mention all the nice things he did for me whenever I confronted him about something he didn’t like. And then he would use this famous phrase and say I’m ungrateful. Of course, narcissistic people only do that to crear un sentimiento de culpa y desviar la atención de su comportamiento problemático. 

Algunas personas han escrito en los comentarios otras frases que deberían añadirse a esta lista.

Iluminar con gas a los demás es su talento especial según algunas mujeres y ¡definitivamente estoy de acuerdo!

So, always be aware of these and similar phrases, and don’t be anyone’s muppet they can control however they want! They’ll do anything to make you think you’re the problem but be smarter and don’t fall for that!