A la chica que sale con un chico narcisista: No puedes domar a la bestia
¿Conoces la historia de Narciso? Dice así: Había un cazador griego conocido por su belleza.
Era hijo de un dios del río y de una ninfa, extremadamente orgulloso de sí mismo, pero desdeñaba a quienes le amaban.
Un día, los dioses se dieron cuenta de su arrogancia y lo atrajeron a la piscina, donde vio su reflejo en el agua y se enamoró al instante.
Incapaz de abandonar la belleza de su reflejo, Narciso perdió las ganas de vivir. Se quedó mirando su reflejo hasta que murió.
What about the Narcissus you’re dating? You are expecting to be the one to change him, aren’t you?
You think you’ll be the one that’s different and that you will be worth changing for.
You might not be aware, but the term ‘narcissism’ is the concept of excessive selfishness and it’s mainly linked to vanity and self-admiration.
This may not ring any bells, but I’m sure there are things in this article that’ll be more than familiar to you.
Every single girl in this world likes to see herself as ‘the special one’, the one that’s worth changing for.
And the truth is we are special, and there are guys out there who’ll do their best to be better men for us. I hate to break it to you, but that guy is not your narcissist.
He’s not going to change nor for you nor for any other girl in this world and there is not much you can do about it.
I hate to be the one to tell people to walk away, but is all of what you’re going through worth your time?
You are more than aware how he behaves towards you and that you’ll never be on the throne, at least not permanently, because that seat has been taken a long time ago.
You struggle to have your views and feelings heard and of course, it’s ‘your fault’ that he forgets something—you didn’t bother to remind him !
He’s the one to overstep and use others without consideration or any sensitivity. It just doesn’t touch him in any way. It’s all he needs to do for his vanity and he’ll do it.
It’s as if he likes to do things to impress others. He does it by making himself look good externally.
This is also known as a ‘trophy’ complex. Tiene la necesidad de exhibirse físicamente, románticamente, sexualmente, financieramente y Dios sabe de qué otra manera.
It’s his way to tell others: ” I’m better than you” because, in his mind, the world revolves around him.
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See, he has this gift—you know this best—to be very charismatic and persuasive when he’s interested in somebody.
He can make you feel really special and wanted. He can be the funniest and the kindest person in order to win you over. The downside of this is the fact that it isn’t permanent.
Cuando pierda el interés por ti (sobre todo porque ha conseguido lo que necesitaba/quería o porque ha encontrado algo más interesante), puede que te abandone sin pensárselo dos veces.
Because he’s only interested in a person for his own gratification.
Otro de sus grandes dones son las emociones negativas. Let’s not talk about his need to disdain everything, the topic here is your feelings.
A menudo te hace sentir inseguro y desequilibrado.
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Maybe you don’t notice he’s doing it on purpose or you’re doing your best to meet his expectations, but there isn’t a final line—you’ll keep running the never-ending marathon because the finish line is always moving.
Nunca podrás alcanzar sus expectativas y ¿sabes por qué? Porque it’s not you, it’ him.
He’s making you feel like that because he needs you to feel insecure so he can feel superior. It’s what gives him strength in the morning. He feeds on it.
You may mistake him for a alpha man when he’s, in fact, just making decisions for others to suit his own needs.
Puede que te utilice para satisfacer sus irracionales necesidades egoístas o para encubrir sus insuficiencias y defectos autopercibidos.
And now comes the refusal part. It’s the part where you deny anything that’s been said because this way it’s much easier.
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You could just ignore everything that has been said and continue living the way you do now convinced that if you try hard enough he’ll change, he’ll give you the love you desrve and he’ll treat you differently.
But you’ll get to a dead end eventually and you know it well.
Every single girl in this world likes to see herself as ‘the special one’, the one that’s worth changing for.
And the truth is we are special, and there are guys out there who’ll do their best to be the better man for us.
I hate to break it to you, but that guy is not your narcissist. He’s not going to change and you can’t tame the beast.
You deserve somebody who’ll treat you like a queen.
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There is somebody out there ready to give you everything you deserve—the one that’ll get off the throne to put you there.
But that won’t be the guy who’s breaking your heart day after day.
I know it hurts and I know you love, but you’ve fallen for a wrong guy. You’re giving all of yourself and for what?
¿Sólo para que te rompan el corazón al final?
Silly girl it’s time to learn to walk away from the people who do nothing but tear you down.
It’s time to admit to yourself you can’t change someone who doesn’t see that there is anything wrong with him.
You can’t be a rug everyone walks on.
Deja de intentar cambiar a los demás y céntrate en ti mismo.
Trabaja duro para ser la mejor versión de ti mismo.
Learn to love yourself and when the time is right you will no longer be surrounded by toxic people nor will you believe how you can change someone who’s okay being self-centered and selfish.
When the time is right the right guy will walk in your life and you’ll be thankful you managed to cut all ties with your narcissist and that you chose to finally accept the fact that you can’t tame the beast.
