Esta es la razón por la que las relaciones son más difíciles para las personas que piensan demasiado

Las relaciones son un trabajo duro.

Yes, they are beautiful and a lot of times worth that hard work, but sometimes it’s just too much for some people. Especially overthinkers.

In order to have a stable and strong relationship, you need to believe in yourself and your partner, and – you guessed it – overthinking is what stops that from happening.

Pensar demasiado es lo que suele matar las relaciones al final.

The problem is the following: Anxious people already know they’re anxious and that makes them feel like a burden right at the start.

Anxiety is often accompanied by low self-esteem, which doesn’t help either.

Overthinkers want to meet a person who will understand this, but it’s hard for them to believe anyone could accept them the way they are because – let’s be honest – anxiety affects life habits big time.

It’s what makes you weird at parties and occasionally hate yourself.

Todo lo que parece tan fácil y normal para otras personas es tan difícil e inalcanzable para una persona ansiosa.

¿Por qué? La ansiedad es en cierto modo incapaz de vivir el momento presenteSiempre preocupado por lo que ha pasado o por lo que puede pasar.

It’s like a constant premonition of something bad that you can’t control.

It’s understandable that no one can function normally if they’re in a constant state of stress and fear. That’s what paralyzes a person and makes everyday tasks draining.

What’s worse, anxious people are more often than not the type of people who notice every little detail around them, which only means there are more things to overthink about.

Se fijan en las miradas extrañas, los cambios de voz y los gestos más insignificantes, y luego exageran su significado en su cabeza.

Entonces, ¿qué se puede hacer para ayudar a una persona ansiosa a vivir una relación normal y sana?

Una de las principales cosas que puedes hacer es hacerles saber que todo va bien, y hacerlo a menudo. Una acción muy sencilla pero eficaz.

Make them see things that are happening at that moment; don’t let them wander around in their mind (especially at the beginning of the relationship where it’s normal for everyone to be a little bit anxious around their partner.)

Don’t give them a reason to overthink – say what you feel right away when something happens.

Don’t be afraid to take control of some aspects of your relationship or life together. You can be the one who decides things because they probably have a problem with being indecisive.

Lee entre líneas.

A veces, cuando responden con frases cortas, puede significar que algo les preocupa, pero se sienten demasiado incómodos para admitirlo.

Lo mismo ocurre con hábitos nerviosos como jugar con las manos, rebotar la rodilla, etc.

Si notas esos hábitos, evita decirlo: ¿Por qué estás tan nervioso? ¿Se encuentra bien?

It’s only going to make things worse because they will become hyper-aware of themselves and their body language that obviously screams nervioso.

Instead, try to just communicate and take their mind off of what’s bothering them at that moment.

Una conversación abierta, honesta y consciente lo arregla casi todo, incluido esto. Hazlo más a menudo.

Understanding someone’s fears is one of the most ultimate love languages. It’s just good to keep in mind that not everyone’s fears are obvious to the eye.

Other than reassuring, conversations, and mindfulness – it’s important to let them know you accept them for who they are.

Set an example to show them it’s possible to love and care about somebody even when they have certain issues and have a hard time accepting themselves.

Be their safe place, but also be their reality check. It’s possible to do both, it just needs to be done the right way.

Una persona ansiosa piensa demasiado, pero eso también significa que se preocupa mucho.

The only thing they need is to have full trust in you – that’s when everything gets better.

Confiar en alguien que te comprende, te quiere, te cuida, te protege y atraviesa momentos difíciles contigo no tiene precio.

In return, you get the most amazing love you’ll ever experience – the love of a person who cares about your every thought and every part of you.

Alguien que te apreciará el resto de tu vida.

Y overthinker es sólo un gran amante disfrazado.