É por isso que os relacionamentos são mais difíceis para as pessoas que pensam demais
As relações são um trabalho árduo.
Yes, they are beautiful and a lot of times worth that hard work, but sometimes it’s just too much for some people. Especially pensadores excessivos.
In order to have a stable and strong relationship, you need to believe in yourself and your partner, and – you guessed it – overthinking is what stops that from happening.
Pensar demais é o que muitas vezes mata as relações no final.
The problem is the following: Anxious people already know they’re anxious and that makes them feel like a burden right at the start.
Anxiety is often accompanied by low self-esteem, which doesn’t help either.
Overthinkers want to meet a person who will understand this, but it’s hard for them to believe anyone could accept them the way they are because – let’s be honest – anxiety affects life habits big time.
It’s what makes you weird at parties and occasionally hate yourself.
Tudo o que parece tão fácil e normal para as outras pessoas é tão difícil e inatingível para uma pessoa ansiosa.
Porquê? A ansiedade é, de certa forma, uma questão de ser incapaz de viver no momento presenteA vida de um homem é uma preocupação constante com o que aconteceu ou com o que pode acontecer.
It’s like a constant premonition of something bad that you can’t control.
It’s understandable that no one can function normally if they’re in a constant state of stress and fear. That’s what paralyzes a person and makes everyday tasks draining.
What’s worse, anxious people are more often than not the type of people who notice every little detail around them, which only means there are more things to overthink about.
Reparam em olhares estranhos, mudanças na voz e nos mais pequenos gestos, e depois exageram o seu significado na sua cabeça.
Então, o que é que se pode fazer para ajudar uma pessoa ansiosa a ter uma relação normal e saudável?
Uma das principais coisas que pode fazer é dizer-lhes que está tudo bem, e fazê-lo frequentemente. Uma ação muito simples mas eficaz.
Make them see things that are happening at that moment; don’t let them wander around in their mind (especially at the beginning of the relationship where it’s normal for everyone to be a little bit anxious around their partner.)
Don’t give them a reason to overthink – say what you feel right away when something happens.
Don’t be afraid to take control of some aspects of your relationship or life together. You can be the one who decides things because they probably have a problem with being indecisive.
Ler nas entrelinhas.
Por vezes, quando respondem com frases curtas, isso pode significar que algo os está a incomodar, mas sentem-se demasiado constrangidos para o admitir.
O mesmo se aplica a hábitos nervosos como brincar com as mãos, balançar o joelho, etc.
Se se aperceber desses hábitos, evite dizê-los: Porque é que estás tão nervoso? Estás bem?
It’s only going to make things worse because they will become hyper-aware of themselves and their body language that obviously screams nervoso.
Instead, try to just communicate and take their mind off of what’s bothering them at that moment.
Uma conversa aberta, honesta e atenta resolve quase tudo, incluindo isto. Façam-no com mais frequência.
Understanding someone’s fears is one of the most ultimate love languages. It’s just good to keep in mind that not everyone’s fears are obvious to the eye.
Other than reassuring, conversations, and mindfulness – it’s important to let them know you accept them for who they are.
Set an example to show them it’s possible to love and care about somebody even when they have certain issues and have a hard time accepting themselves.
Be their safe place, but also be their reality check. It’s possible to do both, it just needs to be done the right way.
Uma pessoa ansiosa pensa demasiado, mas isso também significa que se preocupa muito.
The only thing they need is to have full trust in you – that’s when everything gets better.
Confiar em alguém para nos compreender, amar, cuidar de nós, proteger-nos e passar por momentos difíceis connosco não tem preço.
In return, you get the most amazing love you’ll ever experience – the love of a person who cares about your every thought and every part of you.
Alguém que vos apreciará para o resto da vossa vida.
E quem pensa demais é apenas um grande amante disfarçado.
