13 maneras de quererse a uno mismo tras liberarse de una relación tóxica

Ármate de positividad.

You’re going into war – a war with yourself, a fight for your survival. Staying positive is the hardest thing después de estar en una relación tóxica.

You’ve been emotionally neglected and abused for a long time so that it in a way became your surrounding.

Negativity was all around you, and now that you’ve broken free, you still feel beaten and destroyed.

Lo que hay que hacer tras una relación tóxica es crear una zona libre de negatividad. Tienes que demostrarte a ti mismo que te respetas y te quieres eligiendo una perspectiva positiva en tu vida.

Estar soltera es lo que necesitas ahora.

Don’t go looking for someone to heal you.

Don’t look for love when you are not ready to love someone yourself. Staying single at this point when you’re hurting is essential.

Quedarte a solas con tus propios pensamientos y tu lucha interna es algo que tienes que atravesar tú solo.

If you start a new relationship, it won’t help you heal—you can only destroy the person who is truly falling in love with you.

Quédate solo y hazte amigo de ti mismo. Escúchate, escucha tus necesidades y tus aspiraciones. Síguelas con humor.

Cuídate y dale una oportunidad a tu vida de soltero.

Borra todo recuerdo de su existencia en tu vida.

Delete every photo of him you have and every text he’s ever sent you.

Block him on all social media, so you won’t be tempted to check out his profile on your bad days.

You have a mind of your own; you have a voice of your own. Don’t let his toxicity mess with you, even through memories.

Never take back what you’ve said or what you think.

In the moments of anger and when you felt abandoned, you’ve realized you were abused emotionally.

In those moments, you were angry, and you’ve accepted what was happening to you and what kind of a person he is.

You’ve said things, bad things, but after the critical moment passes, don’t take those words back.

Don’t justify his behavior when your head cools off. It’s as bad as it was. It’s you who is taking a different view on the situation.

Esta vez, piensa sólo en ti.

You’ve been imprisoned. You’ve danced to the music he was playing. Only his wishes mattered, and you were completely ignored.

Now that he’s gone, go crazy. Humor your every need and wish. Eat what you want, go where you want. In other words, spoil yourself – you deserve it.

Seek beauty because it’s around you.

When your world is falling apart, when you’re in a bad place, it’s easy to miss the fact that the world surrounding you is a beautiful place.

La gente se deja llevar fácilmente por sus propios problemas y no ve lo que hay a su alrededor.

Cuando tengas ocasión, sal a la calle. Da un paseo o siéntate en el porche a esperar la puesta de sol.

Disfruta de las cosas bellas que te ofrece la naturaleza. Sanará tu espíritu y te devolverá la energía que necesitas para recomponerte.

Entierra tus defectos en el pasado.

Cuando rompes con alguien, tu autoestima llega a cero.

You feel worthless and rejected. So you question why you’re rejected. Is there something wrong with you?

So you start looking for flaws. Actually, all you see are flaws and reasons why you’re not good enough.

Rechaza y entierra esos pensamientos tóxicos en lo más profundo de tu pasado.

En lugar de compadecerte de ti mismo, piensa en la fuerza que necesitaste para dejar la relación tóxica en la que estabas.

A lot of women stay because they don’t see the way out.

Usted es uno de los pocos que ha tenido el valor de dar el aterrador paso hacia lo desconocido.

¿Qué es el amor propio?

Cada persona define el amor propio de forma diferente. E independientemente de cuál sea tu respuesta, tienes que hacer una cosa.

You have to convince yourself that you’re so much stronger than the negative thoughts haunting you.

You won’t be able to move on with your life and continue your journey to healing if you’re still holding on to the insecurity and to what happened to you in the toxic relationship.

Perdónate a ti mismo.

Perdónate por haber cometido un terrible error.

Perdónate por no haber reconocido todas las señales que te advertían de que debías salir de esa relación.

Perdónate a ti mismo por permanecer a su lado tanto tiempo como deberías.

You don’t have to forgive him for hurting you. You have to forgive yourself for letting him hurt you.

Dibuja tus límites.

If you set them low, you’re going to get hurt again.

If you set them high, you’re going to protect yourself. So basically, it’s up to you whether you’re going to live through the same story once again.

Olvídate del pasado.

You’re going to have weak moments when you wish things could have ended differently, but don’t let that make you do something you’ll regret later.

You’re going to remember the old times and all the happy moments.

Because no matter how toxic the relationship was, you had moments which you’ll remember, happy moments when he wasn’t such an asshole.

Make a list of people you’ve neglected or hurt.

Throughout your toxic relationship, you’ve probably hurt a few people you love.

You‘ve probably excluded them from your life either because they were telling you the truth about the man you’re dating or because the man you dated distanced you from them.

Anyhow, what you did isn’t fair or friendly to anyone, no matter if you were forced to do it or you did it on your own initiative.

Look for the people you’ve hurt and apologize. Those who truly love you will forgive you in a second and pick up where the two of you left off.

Date algo de tiempo.

Despite the fact that you’ve broken free from a toxic relationship, you still need some time to mourn your loss.

Even when your relationship fails and it was a horrible experience, you’ve engaged your emotions, and you’ve invested in it to make it work.

Y todo tu duro trabajo se fue a la basura. Tómate un tiempo para ti, y permítete estar triste y solo.

Question your existence. Question your faith in God because even when you’re doing everything right, you can’t seem to find happiness.

¡Enójate y desahógate!

Never keep it inside because that toxic poison will come out at the moment when you least expect it and destroy you when you’re the happiest.