Todo lo que debe saber sobre el lenguaje del amor del contacto físico

If you want to deepen the connection between you and your significant other, you must learn to speak your partner’s love language.

If, by any chance, it’s the physical touch love language, you should continue reading below and find out how to make them fall in love with you even more.

Dr. Gary Chapman, the American author and relationship counselor, writes about the five love languages in his best-selling book and physical touch is the last one. It may be the last one mentioned but it’s certainly not the least important one.

However, it’s definitely the one that’s most misunderstood by so many people.

When we say that someone has the physical touch love language, most people immediately think about how that person expresses their feelings only behind closed bedroom doors, by making love to their partner, and that’s completely wrong.

If your or your partner’s primary love language is physical touch, before finding the right way to get closer to your partner, we should first talk about the meaning of that language.

El significado del lenguaje del amor del contacto físico

El lenguaje del amor es la forma en que las personas expresan amor y sentimientos románticos a su pareja. El tacto físico es uno de esos lenguajes y, según el Dr. Gary Chapman, hay cuatro más.

Yes, being intimate with your significant other is a great part of the physical touch love language, but it’s not the only part of it.

Hay muchos tipos de contacto físico positivo y formas de expresar amor a tu pareja sin intimar con ella.

When you’re in a romantic relationship with someone, you must be aware of your partner’s needs and respect them.

Si les gusta mostrar afecto a través del contacto físico, tú también deberías responder de esa manera.

Couples in long-distance relationships aren’t able to be intimate frequently but can still have this kind of love language. So, you see it’s possible even if you’re physically very distant from your partner.

If you aren’t so good with words or with choosing the right gift for your loved one, then it’s probable that your love language is physical touch.

Then it means that you’re just better at expressing your feelings through physical contact.

Hay personas que llenan su depósito de amor sólo con afecto físico. y eso es perfectamente normal porque todos tenemos distintas formas de expresar nuestros sentimientos y de recibirlos de nuestro ser querido.

El contacto físico es un lenguaje amoroso que nos ayuda a crear un vínculo fuerte y único con la persona amada.

Did you know that when you touch someone in that ‘cuddling way’, it triggers the release of oxytocin in our body and theirs?

La oxitocina, también llamada hormona del amor o del abrazo, is a peptide hormone and it’s produced in the hypothalamus. It’s my favorite hormone because it promotes such positive feelings as love and happiness.

Before we start sharing some ideas about how to express love to your significant other who has the love language of physical touch, I have to give you a piece of advice and that’s to surprise your partner with something they’ll definitely love.

Besides your partner’s primary love language, you should also try to find their secondary love language. That’s if you really want to get to know them and bond some more with them.

8 ideas de lenguaje del amor para ella

So, we’ve already said that in order to have a good and healthy relationship with your better half, you have to learn to speak her love language.

If you are sure that her love language is physical touch, then here are some great ideas for you to learn to speak that same language. It’ll deepen the connection between you for sure.

Bésala en la frente

This is a great way to show her how much you respect her and this is also how you should greet her every time. It doesn’t have to be a kiss on the forehead but don’t forget to kiss her every time you see her.

You’ll see the first time you do this, she’ll be delighted. Kissing her on the forehead means that you share a deep and meaningful connection too.

Hug her when she doesn’t expect it at all

Some people are huggers, some aren’t, and that’s okay. Still, if you know for sure that your girlfriend’s language of love is physical affection, you should surprise her with a hug from the back sometimes. Also, don’t forget to tócale la cintura de forma sensual y besa su cuello. 

Dale un masaje cuando llegue a casa del trabajo

Cuando llegue a casa del trabajo y veas que ha tenido un día largo y agotador, ¿por qué no ayudas a tu pareja dándole un masaje?

Give her a back rub and ask her how her day was. You’ll see how she’ll enjoy it and how relaxed she’ll be after your little massage.

Cogerla de la mano en público

Women who speak this language of love like to hold hands in public. I know that most men actually don’t like it but it’s definitely something that will make your woman happy.

Holding hands in public is just something special for women as somehow it shows that you’re proud of who you’re dating and you want to show the world that she’s yours.

Nunca olvides darle un beso de buenas noches/buenos días

Para las mujeres a las que les gusta demostrar su amor a través del afecto físico, los besos de buenas noches y buenos días son imprescindibles.

If you’re in an intimate relationship, wishing them a good night or good morning isn’t enough. Tell her how much you love her and finish it all with a kiss.

If you’re in a long-distance relationship, this might sound like a problem but it’s really not. You can write her a text saying how much you want to be by her side right now to give her a kiss before she goes to bed.

Prepare un baño romántico

Esta es sin duda la idea perfecta para tu próxima cita. Enciende unas velas, pon música romántica ligera y prepara un baño de burbujas que os guste a los dos.

Enjabónala suavemente.

Si quieres relajarte de verdad y sorprender a tu media naranja, puedes lavarle el pelo, porque a todas las mujeres les gusta que otra persona lo haga por ellas y les parece increíblemente romántico y dulce que lo haga su pareja.

Whisper, “I love you,” in her ear

Expressing your love with just some simple words like ‘I love you’ isn’t enough. The more important part is how you do it.

Hug her from the back or grab her by the waist and gently bring her closer to you and then whisper in her ear how much you love her. You’ll see that she’ll start quivering immediately.

Dale un beso inolvidable

Bésala como nunca antes lo habías hecho. Mientras está haciendo algo en la cocina, acércate a ella, rodea su cintura con las manos, dile lo mucho que significa para ti y bésala.

8 ideas sobre el lenguaje del amor para él

If your man is a ‘touch’ type of guy, even if physical contact isn’t quite the way you like to express your feelings, you can make him feel loved through some physical affection and that doesn’t mean that you only have to be intimate with him.

Here are some romantic ideas on how you can show love to your man through physical touch. Of course, always make sure that he’s comfortable with it first.

Los mimos son siempre bienvenidos

Los mimos hacen que la mayoría de los hombres se sientan queridos y conectados con su pareja. They’re pretty much always up for some cuddling.

Sólo tienes que rodearle el cuello con los brazos o ponerle las manos en el pecho y empezar a besarle y abrazarle.

Jugar con su pelo mientras ve la televisión

If he puts his head in your lap while you’re watching a movie, it means that he’s telling you that he wants you to play with his hair and cuddle him that way.

Also, did you know that a man’s head is one of the most sensitive parts of his body? Well, that’s definitely one more reason to touch his hair and play with it.

Hazle cosquillas

While you’re watching a movie or lying in bed, you should start the ‘tickling game’. That means that you want to touch him and make him laugh and that’s always a sign of loving someone. Also, it can be great foreplay for him.

Juega al footsie con él

You can start the ‘footsie’ game with him wherever you think it’s appropriate. This can be in your bedroom, in a restaurant under the table or in your living room while watching TV.

It’s one of the sweetest ways to flirt with your man and show him that you’re still in love with him. Gently touch his foot with yours and let this flirtatious game begin.

Sé su almohada

While you’re sitting on the couch watching TV, you can ask him to put his head in your lap. Most men love it and they do it even without being asked to.

It’s just a way he feels secure and most comfortable and if you want to make him feel loved too, you can play with his hair and gently tickle his neck.

Bésale en el cuello

Kissing and touching the neck area isn’t something that makes only women quiver, it does the same to men too.

Start kissing or gently tickling his neck and see what happens. Leave your bedroom door open before that because that’s probably where you’ll end up.

Siéntate en su regazo

This is probably something that you should do only when you’re alone. While your man is sitting on the couch, you should sit in his lap and hug him. Of course, you can also shower him with kisses or snuggle into his neck.

Ráscale la espalda

I’m sure that he has already asked you to give him a back scratch at least once. It’s simply something that relaxes him and most men like it.

It’s one of the easiest ways to show him your love and do something that will make him happy. Be gentle, especially if his skin is sensitive, and slowly start to run your nails all the way up and down his back.

Otros lenguajes del amor

En su libro, ‘The 5 Love Languages’El Dr. Gary Chapman explica su teoría sobre los distintos lenguajes del amor.

He actually points to how each person has a different way of expressing feelings and how we all react to our partner’s acts of love differently.

Además del lenguaje del amor del contacto físico, también están las palabras de afirmación, los actos de servicio, recibir regalos y el tiempo de calidad.

Al igual que todos somos seres humanos diferentes, también tenemos diferentes lenguajes del amor y todos deberíamos respetarlo.

Como todos sabemos, las palabras significan mucho para algunas personas y eligen expresar su amor sólo con palabras.

Les gusta felicitar a menudo a sus seres queridos y siempre les escriben notas románticas o incluso poemas cortos. Su lenguaje del amor es palabras de afirmación.

Por otro lado, hay quienes creen en las palabras sólo si esas palabras van seguidas de acciones.

They want their partner to put some effort into expressing their love for them and that’s the love language called actos de servicio.

There are some people who like expressing love with words and with actions but they like it most of all when it’s expressed with gifts.

This doesn’t mean that those people are materialistic, it just means that they like it when someone takes the time and puts some effort into choosing a meaningful gift for them or they even make something significant for them.

Esto se denomina para hacer regalos o recibir regalos lenguaje del amor.

There are many people who only ask their partner to spare some time for them in their everyday schedule so they can spend quality time with them. It’s just how they’re convinced that their partner is into them for real.

Esta es la tiempo de calidad lenguaje del amor.

Some people aren’t even comfortable enough to touch people even if they have known them for a while or even if they’re dating them.

Maybe they have some issues or maybe that’s only because they don’t like it but, not all people like being physical in a relationship.

Tú eliges el lenguaje del amor que quieres hablar.

Also, an important thing for the end is that if your partner doesn’t speak the same love language as you, you shouldn’t be worried. It can also be learned, just like any other language.