If you want to deepen the connection between you and your significant other, you must learn to speak your partner’s love language.
If, by any chance, it’s the physical touch love language, you should continue reading below and find out how to make them fall in love with you even more.
Dr. Gary Chapman, the American author and relationship counselor, writes about the five love languages in his best-selling book and physical touch is the last one. It may be the last one mentioned but it’s certainly not the least important one.
However, it’s definitely the one that’s most misunderstood by so many people.
When we say that someone has the physical touch love language, most people immediately think about how that person expresses their feelings only behind closed bedroom doors, by making love to their partner, and that’s completely wrong.
If your or your partner’s primary love language is physical touch, before finding the right way to get closer to your partner, we should first talk about the meaning of that language.
The meaning of the physical touch love language
Love language is the way people express love and romantic feelings to their significant other. Physical touch is one of those languages and according to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are four more.
Yes, being intimate with your significant other is a great part of the physical touch love language, but it’s not the only part of it.
There are so many types of positive physical contact and how you can express love to your partner without being intimate with them.
When you’re in a romantic relationship with someone, you must be aware of your partner’s needs and respect them.
If they like to show affection through physical contact, you should respond in that way too.
Couples in long-distance relationships aren’t able to be intimate frequently but can still have this kind of love language. So, you see it’s possible even if you’re physically very distant from your partner.
If you aren’t so good with words or with choosing the right gift for your loved one, then it’s probable that your love language is physical touch.
Then it means that you’re just better at expressing your feelings through physical contact.
There are some people who get their love tank full only through physical affection and that is perfectly normal because we all have different ways to express our feelings and receive them from our loved one.
Physical touch is indeed a love language that helps us to create a strong and unique bond with our loved one.
Did you know that when you touch someone in that ‘cuddling way’, it triggers the release of oxytocin in our body and theirs?
Oxytocin, also called the love or cuddle hormone, is a peptide hormone and it’s produced in the hypothalamus. It’s my favorite hormone because it promotes such positive feelings as love and happiness.
Before we start sharing some ideas about how to express love to your significant other who has the love language of physical touch, I have to give you a piece of advice and that’s to surprise your partner with something they’ll definitely love.
Besides your partner’s primary love language, you should also try to find their secondary love language. That’s if you really want to get to know them and bond some more with them.
8 physical touch love language ideas for her
So, we’ve already said that in order to have a good and healthy relationship with your better half, you have to learn to speak her love language.
If you are sure that her love language is physical touch, then here are some great ideas for you to learn to speak that same language. It’ll deepen the connection between you for sure.
Kiss her on the forehead
This is a great way to show her how much you respect her and this is also how you should greet her every time. It doesn’t have to be a kiss on the forehead but don’t forget to kiss her every time you see her.
You’ll see the first time you do this, she’ll be delighted. Kissing her on the forehead means that you share a deep and meaningful connection too.
Hug her when she doesn’t expect it at all
Some people are huggers, some aren’t, and that’s okay. Still, if you know for sure that your girlfriend’s language of love is physical affection, you should surprise her with a hug from the back sometimes.
Give her a massage when she gets home from work
When she gets home from work and you see that she had a long and exhausting day, why not help your significant other by giving her a massage.
Give her a back rub and ask her how her day was. You’ll see how she’ll enjoy it and how relaxed she’ll be after your little massage.
Grab her hand in public
Women who speak this language of love like to hold hands in public. I know that most men actually don’t like it but it’s definitely something that will make your woman happy.
Holding hands in public is just something special for women as somehow it shows that you’re proud of who you’re dating and you want to show the world that she’s yours.
Never forget to give her a goodnight/good morning kiss
For women who like to show their love through physical affection, kisses to say goodnight and good morning are a must.
If you’re in an intimate relationship, wishing them a good night or good morning isn’t enough. Tell her how much you love her and finish it all with a kiss.
If you’re in a long-distance relationship, this might sound like a problem but it’s really not. You can write her a text saying how much you want to be by her side right now to give her a kiss before she goes to bed.
Set up a romantic bath
This is definitely the perfect idea for your next date. Light some candles, put on some light romantic music and prepare a bubble bath that both of you will enjoy.
Soap her gently.
If you want to really relax and surprise your better half, you can wash her hair because all women like it when someone else does it for them and they find it incredibly romantic and sweet when their partner does it.
Whisper, “I love you,” in her ear
Expressing your love with just some simple words like ‘I love you’ isn’t enough. The more important part is how you do it.
Hug her from the back or grab her by the waist and gently bring her closer to you and then whisper in her ear how much you love her. You’ll see that she’ll start quivering immediately.
Give her an unforgettable kiss
Kiss her in a way you have never done before. While she is doing something in the kitchen, get closer to her, put your hands around her waist, tell her how much she means to you and kiss her.
8 physical touch love language ideas for him
If your man is a ‘touch’ type of guy, even if physical contact isn’t quite the way you like to express your feelings, you can make him feel loved through some physical affection and that doesn’t mean that you only have to be intimate with him.
Here are some romantic ideas on how you can show love to your man through physical touch. Of course, always make sure that he’s comfortable with it first.
Cuddles are always welcome
Cuddles make most men feel loved and connected to their significant other. They’re pretty much always up for some cuddling.
Simply put your arms around his neck or your hands on his chest and start kissing and cuddling him.
Play with his hair while watching TV
If he puts his head in your lap while you’re watching a movie, it means that he’s telling you that he wants you to play with his hair and cuddle him that way.
Also, did you know that a man’s head is one of the most sensitive parts of his body? Well, that’s definitely one more reason to touch his hair and play with it.
While you’re watching a movie or lying in bed, you should start the ‘tickling game’. That means that you want to touch him and make him laugh and that’s always a sign of loving someone. Also, it can be great foreplay for him.
Play footsie with him
You can start the ‘footsie’ game with him wherever you think it’s appropriate. This can be in your bedroom, in a restaurant under the table or in your living room while watching TV.
It’s one of the sweetest ways to flirt with your man and show him that you’re still in love with him. Gently touch his foot with yours and let this flirtatious game begin.
Be his lap pillow
While you’re sitting on the couch watching TV, you can ask him to put his head in your lap. Most men love it and they do it even without being asked to.
It’s just a way he feels secure and most comfortable and if you want to make him feel loved too, you can play with his hair and gently tickle his neck.
Kiss him on the neck
Kissing and touching the neck area isn’t something that makes only women quiver, it does the same to men too.
Start kissing or gently tickling his neck and see what happens. Leave your bedroom door open before that because that’s probably where you’ll end up.
Sit in his lap
This is probably something that you should do only when you’re alone. While your man is sitting on the couch, you should sit in his lap and hug him. Of course, you can also shower him with kisses or snuggle into his neck.
Scratch his back
I’m sure that he has already asked you to give him a back scratch at least once. It’s simply something that relaxes him and most men like it.
It’s one of the easiest ways to show him your love and do something that will make him happy. Be gentle, especially if his skin is sensitive, and slowly start to run your nails all the way up and down his back.
Other love languages
In his book, ‘The 5 Love Languages’, Dr. Gary Chapman explains his theory about these different love languages.
He actually points to how each person has a different way of expressing feelings and how we all react to our partner’s acts of love differently.
Besides the physical touch love language, there are also words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts and quality time.
Just like we are all different human beings, we also have different love languages and we should all respect that.
As we all know, words mean a lot to some people and they choose to express love only by using words.
They like to compliment their loved one often and they always write romantic notes or even short poems for them. Their language of love is words of affirmation.
On the other hand, there are some people who believe in words only if those words are followed by actions.
They want their partner to put some effort into expressing their love for them and that’s the love language called acts of service.
There are some people who like expressing love with words and with actions but they like it most of all when it’s expressed with gifts.
This doesn’t mean that those people are materialistic, it just means that they like it when someone takes the time and puts some effort into choosing a meaningful gift for them or they even make something significant for them.
This is called the gift-giving or receiving gifts love language.
There are many people who only ask their partner to spare some time for them in their everyday schedule so they can spend quality time with them. It’s just how they’re convinced that their partner is into them for real.
This is the quality time love language.
Some people aren’t even comfortable enough to touch people even if they have known them for a while or even if they’re dating them.
Maybe they have some issues or maybe that’s only because they don’t like it but, not all people like being physical in a relationship.
You choose the love language you want to speak.
Also, an important thing for the end is that if your partner doesn’t speak the same love language as you, you shouldn’t be worried. It can also be learned, just like any other language.