Las 7 formas más sanas de afrontar el rechazo (y seguir adelante)

Como la mayoría de la gente de este mundo, he tenido bastantes problemas con el rechazo.

It’s never easy being rejected in any way, especially when it’s by a romantic partner. That one hits the hardest, for sure.

But as I look into the past, I realize I haven’t always had a healthy coping mechanism.

I’ve always taken things too personally and let them affect me way more than they should have.

No importa lo que digan, todos tratar con esto en algún momento de nuestra vida.

Rejection is an inevitable part of growing up and maturing and the sooner you learn to handle it correctly, the sooner you’re going to feel ten times more liberated!

It hurts and that’s a sad fact. But it doesn’t have to be that bad, trust me!

I have learned from my past mistakes and now I can honestly say, it doesn’t phase me that much!

All it takes is the right outlook on the situation and once you’ve mastered that, you’ll see how irrelevant it really is.

Because being rejected doesn’t say anything about you, nor does it diminish you in any way!

It’s almost always about the other person and their own issues. And once I saw all that, the weight had been lifted off my shoulders.

I’d love to share with you my healthy approach to dealing with rejection, so here are 7 habits that helped me deal with rejection in a truly healthy manner!

Take time to process what happened and don’t force a smile until you truly feel like smiling

El primer paso es procesar lo ocurrido. Tómate tu tiempo para pensar qué ha pasado y por qué.

Don’t feel bad about yourself, just try to see it from the other person’s point of view.

Si ha tenido algo que ver contigo, intenta aceptarlo y aprender de ello.

And if you feel like you didn’t deserve this and it’s not fair to be going through this, don’t let out your anger, because it’s not going to change the situation.

Mantén la calma, acepta que ésta es tu nueva realidad y permítete sentir lo que sientas.

Don’t force yourself ser feliz hasta que realmente llegues a ese lugar y encuentres tu sonrisa de nuevo.

Acepta esta pérdida y céntrate en todas las cosas buenas que aún tienes en tu vida

Ser rechazado es un asco y nadie espera que te conformes con ello y seguir adelante.

That’s seriously unhealthy. You need time to clear your head and find yourself again and nobody can take that away from you.

But don’t dwell on it. Keep your mind busy. Remind yourself of all the people and things you still have in your life.

Deja que te ayuden a volver a ver tu valía.

For as long as you’re stuck on this rejection and refuse to focus on any other positive thing in your life, it’s going to be difficult moving forward and embracing this new change.

Tómate tu tiempo para curarte, pero ayúdate a ti mismo centrándote en otros aspectos positivos de tu vida.

Silence your inner critic and don’t let it get you down

La vocecita de tu cabeza intentará hacerte sentir mal contigo mismo.

It’s going to make it seem like it was your fault and there’s something wrong with you.

Don’t let it. Overpower it with new, positive thoughts!

Silence it whenever it starts messing with your head. It’s just your insecurities talking and they have no business making you feel this bad.

We all go through this and it’s perfectly normal to feel what you’re feeling.

Nadie es perfecto y nadie puede decir que nunca ha sido rechazado en su vida. Ocurre, la gente sigue adelante y la vida vuelve a su cauce.

Believe it and you’ll see it!

Desahógate con un amigo íntimo cada vez que empieces a sentirte mal contigo mismo

That’s what friends are for! Instead of letting your negative thoughts get to you, stop it from happening and go see a friend!

Talk to her for as long as you need and once you get all those negative thoughts out into the world, it’s going to feel so much better!

El poder de una conversación con una persona de confianza es toda la terapia que uno necesita a veces.

Acepta que puede tener todo que ver con ellos y nada que ver contigo.

Tal vez la otra persona está pasando por algo difícil y simplemente no puede atarse a nadie en este momento concreto.

Perhaps they are filled with self-doubt and insecurities and they need time to deal with their own shit because they don’t want to project it all onto you!

It could very well be for your own benefit and isn’t that kind of reassuring and selfless on their part?

Accept this as a genuine possibility of being the case and you’ll instantly feel okay again.

Aproveche esta oportunidad para aprender algo sobre sí mismo y mejorar.

Si tuvo algo que ver contigo, piensa un poco en qué fue y valora si es algo en lo que quizás podrías mejorar.

¿Eres impaciente o te enfadas con facilidad? ¿Le cuesta soltarse e implicarse plenamente?

Sea lo que sea, que sea tu oportunidad para mejorar ese posible problema.

Si lo permites, puede ser una experiencia de aprendizaje muy positiva.

Remember that what you’re feeling is temporary and it is most definitely going to pass

Podrías ser pasando por una época difícil, pero en unas semanas, podrías ser literalmente una chica completamente nueva.

Don’t let your current mood let you believe that this is how it’s going to be from now on.

Como todo en la vida, esto también pasará.

You are going to get better and sooner rather than later you will meet someone new and with a little bit of time, you’ll be able to see this as a minor bump in the road!

You’ll accept it for what it was, nothing more and nothing less.

Ahora mismo, es un asco y necesitas procesarlo. Pero el mes que viene volverás a sonreír y esto será cosa del pasado.