Lee esto si estás pensando en darle una segunda oportunidad

Someone once told me that giving second chances to someone is like falling into a trap set by the one we’re facing.

I didn’t understand it then, because I truly thought that people could change and regret their mistakes.

Pensaba que la gente podía despertarse una mañana y decidir que quería volver a querer y apreciar a la persona que tanto amó y que quería compensarla. Pero me equivocaba.

At one point you will realize, just like I did, that when people hurt you it’s not an accident. Whoever duele lo hace a propósito.

Do you really think that a cheater can justify his actions by saying that he ‘didn’t mean it’ or that it ‘wasn’t his intention’?

I am very much aware of the fact that under the influence of alcohol we might not have a sense of judgment but why would he even want to put himself in that situation? And it’s not just cheaters we should be talking about.

He knew that you would be hurt if he told you that you were a ‘bad girlfriend’, he knew how much it would hurt you by saying that you weren’t worth his time and he still said it like it was nothing.

¿De verdad crees que alguien que te quiere haría algo así?

Todo lo que ese hombre te hizo, lo hizo a propósito. Todo ese abuso, toda esa manipulación y todo lo demás.

Yes, this also means that he did all those sweet things on purpose. All those times he made you feel safe, all those times he told you how much he loved you—everything.

Y sobre todo, lo hizo sabiendo que tú también le querías.

It’s up to you to determine whether or not you want him in your life but let me just tell you that it takes years to build trust but a second to break it.

¿Eres realmente capaz de perdonarle por lo que hizo? ¿Puedes decir con certeza que no volverá a cometer el mismo error?

¿Puedes perdonar el hecho de que abusara de tu confianza para su propio placer?

You are thinking about giving him another chance. This is, of course, a chance for him to make everything right but it’s not just that.

Al intentarlo de nuevo, le estás dando libre acceso a tu corazón y la oportunidad de hacerte daño una vez más.

Le estás dando la oportunidad de convertir una vez más vuestra relación en un campo de batalla cuando debería ser un refugio seguro.

Una mañana te despertarás a su lado y recordarás lo mal que te lo ha hecho, recordarás lo rota y destrozada que estás.

But that exact same man will be lying next to you and you will keep on wondering what would have happened if you hadn’t let him volver a ti.

Maybe you would have healed very quickly. Maybe you wouldn’t be so mad about your decision and maybe you would have been happy with another man next to you.

There is a long list of maybes just waiting for you and it doesn’t matter if you choose to take him back or not, you will wonder what would have happened if you chose otherwise.

Unconditional love is a beautiful thing, especially when you realize that there are so many people out there in this world who will never be able to feel what you’re feeling.

Pero lo que es más mágico que el amor incondicional hacia otra persona es el amor incondicional que sentimos por nosotros mismos.

There shouldn’t be anyone diciéndote que quererte a ti mismo es egoísta o que pueda haber algo más importante que el amor propio.

That’s why I think that if you loved yourself enough, you wouldn’t give him another chance.

You wouldn’t give this man a chance to break your heart once more because he does not deserve it. He had his chance and he blew it.

This is your time to shine, dear, so don’t let it slip out of your hands.

Estarás destrozada y puede que llores cada vez que pienses en él, pero eso no es nada comparado con la miseria por la que te dejarás llevar si decides volver a darle un lugar en tu corazón mientras él hace lo mismo una y otra y otra vez.

Actúa con inteligencia. Sé que tu corazón tira de ti, pero eso no es excusa para tratarte mal.

Quiérete lo suficiente como para alejarte de él para siempre.