¿Por qué ha vuelto tu ex? 9 cosas que realmente quiere de ti

Creo que esta es una historia familiar para todas las chicas: los ex vuelven a nuestras vidas. Justo cuando has encontrado tu paz interior tras la ruptura, vuelve para meterse contigo de nuevo.

Fue él quien decidió marcharse y ahora ha vuelto y quiere seguir como si nada.

Puede que aún le ames y sientas que es tu alma gemela. Tal vez lo superaste y lo único que ahora sientes por él es rabia o decepción.

Either way, you are taken aback and you don’t know what to do or how to behave.

Usted está confundido porque you don’t know whether he is back because he loves you or if there is something else behind his new decision.

Por desgracia, tienes todo el derecho a dudar de su atención.

A veces un ex vuelve por las razones equivocadas y puede volver a hacerte daño, incluso más que la primera vez.

Only you know how painful your healing was. Be careful, don’t let him fool you and break your heart twice.

1. Quiere demostrarte que puede estar contigo siempre que quiera

He thinks you love him more than life itself. He thinks that he can leave you whenever he wants and that you’ll always be there waiting for him.

Whatever he does, he thinks you’ll be there to forgive him and welcome him back because your love is blind. He thinks that your love is unconditional and that you won’t stop loving him no matter what.

Well, that’s only what he thinks. Show him that he is wrong. Show him that you love yourself more than you love him and that you won’t settle for less than you deserve.

If he appears on your front door in the middle of the night, don’t let him in. Shut the door in his face. Shut all the doors to your heart from him.

It will be hard but it’s necessary. Show him that no matter how much you love him, you won’t be always there for him, as an option. You deserve to be a priority.

2. Usted era su plan de respaldo

He met someone new while you were dating and that’s the real reason why he broke up with you. He wanted to date that other person but also he left some unfinished business between you two.

Lo hizo porque quería volver contigo if his relationship with the other woman failed. And now he is back and expects that you’ll give him another chance.

He’ll try to fool you with some sweet words. He’ll be telling you how your love was the best thing that ever happened to him.

Of course it is but he didn’t need some other woman to make him realize it.

Trust me darling, the one who’ll behave like you are the only woman on the earth will come and he’ll be all you ever needed.

3. He’s lonely

All of his friends are busy with their jobs and their significant others, and he soon realizes that you were the only one who always had time for him; that’s why he decides to come back to you.

Be careful, he hasn’t come back because he realized that he loves you, the only reason for it is that he doesn’t like the feeling of loneliness and he knows that you were the only one who was always there for him.

He’ll probably tell you that you are the only person who understands him or can make him happy but don’t fall for that. That loneliness is his fault and now let him deal with it.

4. Echa de menos la intimidad física

Even though he isn’t in love with you anymore, he misses the intimate side of the relationship.

I don’t mean he only wants to have sex with you but echa de menos tus abrazos nocturnostus besos de buenas noches y buenos días. Echa de menos recostar la cabeza en tu regazo mientras juegas.

Incluso echa de menos cogerse de la mano en público, que era lo que más odiaba mientras erais novios.

Le hiciste sentir especial y nadie más puede hacerle sentir así; eso es lo que más echa de menos.

5. Sus amigos y familiares le dijeron que había perdido un guardián

Mientras salíais, te ganaste la confianza y el respeto de su familia y amigos. Creías que ibais a estar juntos para siempre y les tratabas como a tu propia familia.

Maybe you are still in touch with some of his friends and family members and they are still on your side because they know that he won’t find a woman like you.

Son las personas a las que más quiere y en las que más confía, y sus opiniones son muy importantes para él.

He may come back only because they have pressured him to do that and he may be confused with all of it. Don’t let that happen. You will be in a relationship with him, not them.

He doesn’t love you and it’s not going to change.

Recuerda que nada vale la pena si ninguno de los dos es feliz en una relación.

6. El sentimiento de culpa

I know you are hurting but be brave; it’s a part of the healing process. Maybe it’ll take a little longer than you expected but hang in there.

Do whatever you feel that you need to do. Cry, don’t leave the house for days but please, never claim the role of a victim. Don’t use guilt to manipulate him into coming back to you.

Don’t send him messages about how you are thinking about hurting yourself because of the break-up.

He may come back but he’ll leave as soon as he understands what kind of game you are playing. Nobody likes to be manipulated.

7. Ve que has seguido adelante

Él siguió adelante en cuanto rompió contigo, y tú tienes todo el derecho a hacer lo mismo. Date tiempo para curarte y seguir adelante con tu vida como si nada hubiera pasado.

He’ll be surprised when he sees you happy again, when he understands that you can enjoy life without him.

He thought that you’d never move on because you’ll love him and wait for him forever. And that’s why he can’t stand the fact that you have moved on.

Now he has started to want you more than ever before. Men like strong women and most of all, they like what they can’t have. And you moving on means that he can’t have you anymore.

He’ll try to win you over again but ten cuidado con darle una segunda oportunidad.

He is not doing it because he loves you, he is only doing it because he sees that you can live without him and because he likes the ‘new’ you.

8. You’re dating someone new

This is something that drives men absolutely crazy every time after a break-up. He can’t stand to see you with another man.

He left you but he didn’t think that you would be able to fall in love again.

Ver lo feliz que eres con un chico nuevo, y esas chispitas en los ojos cuando te habla, está matando poco a poco a tu ex.

Inmediatamente se pone nostálgico y recuerda cómo le mirabas de la misma manera y lo feliz que se siente ese chico de que alguien le mire con tanto cariño.

9. Echa de menos tu amor desinteresado

Ha vuelto porque es consciente de tu amor y de lo desinteresado e incondicional que era. Ahora es consciente de todo tu afecto hacia él.

Tal vez intentó salir con alguien después de vuestra ruptura, pero sólo consiguió darse cuenta de que nadie le querría como tú.

Echa de menos a alguien que estuviera a su lado en mitad de la noche. Que le apoyó en todos sus planes poco realistas. Que le quería pasara lo que pasara.

Ahora que te ha perdido, ha perdido todo eso y le ha hecho darse cuenta de que eres una chica única en la vida.

Deja que el dolor te enseñe una lección. Recuerda quién te hizo daño. Deja que el dolor te cambie y hacerte más fuerte.

Conoce siempre lo que vales. Céntrate sólo en el futuro y déjale en el pasado. Tú eres el centro de tu mundo y la relación contigo misma es la más importante de tu vida.

Tuvo que perderte para darse cuenta de lo mucho que vales. Ahora deja que se arrepienta toda su vida por haber sido tan estúpido como para dejar a una mujer única como tú.