14 maneras de hacerle ver que te necesita

Sometimes, a relationship gets to that point where people forget they need to fight for one another because they’re so sure of their feelings towards each other.

We all get used to having someone next to us, like they’re part of us and there’s no way we can lose that part.

Pero una relación sana requiere que ambas partes sigan intentándolo y trabajando juntas para que la relación tenga éxito.

Todos necesitamos sentir algo de aprecio y sentirnos queridos y deseados.

Make the guy you adore realize you’re the one for him – PULSE AQUÍ.

Sentirse ignorado, desatendido y no deseado es lo más doloroso que se puede sentir en una relación, sobre todo si realmente nos importa nuestra pareja.

Dicen que la peor soledad es la que sentimos junto a la persona que amamos.

¿Y ahora qué? ¿Te sientes solo en tu relación?

You found yourself feeling like you’re taken for granted? Or you just entered the relationship and you really want it to work out, to show him that you’re the One for him?

¿Te preguntas cómo hacer que se dé cuenta de que te necesita?

We gathered games and ways that can make him realize that you’re the one he needs and the one worth fighting for.

Ways that will show him that he’s losing you and that it’s time he steps up his game to keep you around.

Show him that you’re more than just a body

You’re not just someone to keep his bed warm or to help him to get off. You have feelings, you have needs, same as him. Show him that you’re more than just an object in a house.

En lugar de revolcarte en las sábanas, dile que tienes la necesidad de hablar de tus problemas y emociones.

Demuéstrale que sois mejores amigos, amantes y compañeros para toda la vida, no sólo follamigos.

Los hombres tienden a olvidar ciertos beneficios de tener una mujer increíble a su lado porque se consumen por su estilo de vida acelerado.

Pero recordarles que vuelven a tener esas cosas sin duda hará que bajen un poco el ritmo y disfruten realmente del momento.

Siéntate con él y pídele que hable contigo, que te escuche. Demuéstrale que te hace sentir bien y que necesitas su abrazo para volver a sentirlo.

Dile que te sientes solo and taken for granted and that that’s not what love is about. Show him that he can have good times with you, also.

Llévale cerveza y pon su película o juego favorito y míralo con él.

Pon música que te recuerde el momento en que os conocisteis y disfruta con él.

Llévale a un viaje de recuerdos que le recuerde que primero fuisteis amigos y más tarde amantes y compañeros.

Recuérdale la mujer de la que se enamoró y la forma en que solía tratarte.

If he keeps on taking you for granted, maybe it’s time you return him a favor.

Demuéstrale que confías en él

Una de las razones por las que los hombres se alejan es una falta de confianza or feeling that there isn’t any of it in a relationship.

Maybe he feels bad leaving on business trips without you because he’s worried you’re pissed.

Maybe he’s not able to enjoy the moment because he sees shadows of jealousy everywhere.

Demuéstrale que confías en él. Demuéstrale que confías en él con tu cuerpo, con tus emociones, con tus miedos.

There’s no heavier bond than fear and hope. Sharing your biggest emotions and horrors, alongside love, is something no man could turn his head away from.

Suggest that you two take a weekend away once he’s done with work. Or turn off your mobile phones and enjoy each other and the time you stole for you two.

Pasad todo el fin de semana cocinando juntos, bailando y haciendo el amor.

¿Recuerdas aquellos tiempos en los que te pasabas horas hablando con la almohada? ¿Cuándo fue la última vez que lo hiciste?

¿Cuándo fue la última vez que os abristeis el uno al otro? Aprovechad el fin de semana de escapada para abriros de nuevo el uno al otro y reforzar el vínculo que compartís.

Make time for each other—not just you for him

Maybe he’s so used to having you around that he forgot that he actually has to make an effort so that things could stay that way.

Next time he calls you, don’t answer. Take up a new hobby, meet new people.

Show him that he now has to fight to spend time with you, that you’re not a puppy who’d answer the second he calls your name.

Eres una persona que necesita sentirse deseada.

Once he shows interest in fighting for you, work slowly on compromising. Sometimes there’s no easy way to show him that he’s losing you.

If he suggests that you two go on a date and you already have something planned, don’t cancel because of him.

Muéstrale que tienes una vida aparte de él y que tienes gente que te importa en tu vida, que él no es el único.

En su lugar, sugiérale que la cita se traslade a otro día o a un par de horas más tarde.

If you keep on making time for him but he does it only when it’s convenient to him, there is no way he will stop taking you for granted.

Mostrar aprecio

Igual que tú necesitas sentirte apreciada y querida, él también lo necesita. Pero en lugar de felicitarle como siempre, esta vez hazlo de otra forma.

Dígale que no tenía ninguna duda de que tendría éxito con ese proyecto en el trabajo. Dile que te encanta cómo te hace sentir seguro.

Tell him how you can’t wait to have some time alone with him so you can enjoy his great body.

How you need him to be close and to fall asleep in his strong arms because you’re feeling broken.

Show him that he’s appreciated, that there’s more than one reason you decided to give yourself to him.

Lo mucho que admiras su ética de trabajo y su mente. Que te hace sentir bien y que quieres que ambos seáis felices.

Tell him ‘thank you’ every once in a while because we get so used to things that people do for us that we start taking them for granted.

Maybe he feels like he’s being taken for granted and that’s the reason he’s pulling away?

Demuéstrale que ves sus esfuerzos y que los aprecias.

Salir sin él

You used to go out together all the time, but lately you’re spending all your nights at home watching Netflix and sometimes (rarely, really) making love.

If you want more, if you’re not satisfied with that kind of lifestyle, but you’re not ready to openly admit that to him, show him.

Go out without him. You wanted to watch that movie so badly, but he doesn’t feel like it?

Go alone, go with your friends, don’t settle for staying home with him.

You feel like clubbing, but he doesn’t? Go girl—you were clubbing long before you met him.

Just show him that you don’t need him to accompany you everywhere; show him tu independencia.

Enjoy your life to the fullest, and keep in mind that you don’t need him to do that.

Yes, it’s amazing if he accompanies you along the way, if he’s next to you when you’re happy, but if he ignores your invitations, make him come to you.

If he’s not interested in leaving the house with you but he’s perfectly fine doing that alone with friends, show him that you can play that ,too.

If he still doesn’t respond, that could be a sign that something is up. He’s either under pressure or depressed but doesn’t know how to open up about that. Or he’s seeing someone else.

Lo importante es que sepas que mereces ser feliz, aunque eso signifique estar sin él.

Muestra tu confianza

Confidence is not something we’re naturally given and it’s usually easier to lose it than to gain it. But if you have it, if you’re working hard to keep it, show it off!

You love how your body looks in that tight dress, but you’re worried podría estar celoso? Wear it, and if he doubts you, if he doesn’t trust you, that’s a totally different problem you have.

But if he’s sure of your love, what could possibly go wrong if you remind him how much of an amazing woman he has beside him?

What could possibly go wrong if you show him that you’re still that strong and independent woman he fell in love with?

You have the opportunity to move forward at work, but you’re worried if he’s going to feel threatened by your salary and success? Darling, if you can handle the challenge that’s in front of you, you can handle him too.

Believe in yourself, trust your gut. If it feels right, do it. He will learn to believe in you, too, and maybe it’ll teach him to believe in himself.

Verá cómo te ves a ti misma y aprenderá a enamorarse de ti a un nivel totalmente distinto.

If, by any chance he decides that that’s too much for him and he feels threatened, do you really need that kind of negativity in your life?

Deja que cuide de sí mismo a veces

Don’t run to his aid if he’s sick or if he’s having problems at work. If he said he can handle it but he only needed to share that with you, let him do it. You’re not his mama estar cerca de él todo el tiempo.

Let him iron his shirts once in a while or tell him you want him to cook you dinner because he’s so good at it. Little accomplishments can go a long way.

It’s important to remind him that you’re not a dishwasher, cleaning lady and cook made just to serve him.

Tendemos a exagerar para complacer a la gente que nos rodea y hacer felices a nuestros hombres.

But along the way, we forget that it’s important that we’re happy, too.

That our happiness is as equally important as anybody else’s. So, why not let him take care of himself sometimes? To take care of you?

It’s important that you show him that you trust him with that, without guilt tripping and anger, because men tend to be sensitive about being called ‘irresponsible’.

If you want to show him that you’re independent, why not give him the same chance?

Haz que la gente a su alrededor te quiera

¿Tú y su madre os lleváis bien y su padre piensa que eres un regalo del cielo? Genial, la mitad del trabajo ya está hecho.

Planea una visita de fin de semana a sus padres para recordarle que te quieren y que piensan que estáis muy bien juntos.

His friends think you are the best woman out there and that he’s seriously lucky to have you? Make sure he remembers that.

Tell them they can watch the game at your place and bring them snacks, but don’t stay too long. Plan yourself a lady’s night y disfrutarlo también.

Show them all that you have a life outside the relationship—that’s something all men admire: women that are not needy and clingy.

If you already have the love of his people but he’s pulling away, there could be something serious going on.

Porque, en serio, tiene que ser un idiota especial para no darse cuenta de lo increíble que eres.

If he hasn’t reacted to any of the tactics you have used, then it’s time to sit down and address the issue.

Neither of you is happy and you have to do something about it—together.

Priorízate a ti mismo y hazle entender por qué es necesario

Descuidarse a sí mismo...sólo para mantenerlo satisfecho y feliz, no es la forma de mantener una relación.

He’s so used to having you around, so used to you taking care of him, that he has no need to take care of himself or your relationship because he still believes that you will do it.

Show him that you won’t, put yourself first. Instead of going to his parents for the third weekend in a row, go somewhere you always wanted to go, whether alone or with friends.

Stop respecting his wishes if he doesn’t respect yours. If he shows you that he’s hurt, don’t add to the tension.

Calmly try to make him understand that you really need that getaway weekend, that you really need to have some time for yourself and that you really need to feel wanted. And right now, you don’t feel that way.

Dale espacio

Hay ciertas cosas que a los hombres les gusta hacer solos o con sus amigos, como ver partidos, ir al bar o a pescar (también conocido como beber cerveza y hablar de sus vidas de mierda).

This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you or that he doesn’t appreciate your company—it’s just like shopping or spa days for us.

That’s his time and he wants to enjoy it without worrying whether you’re bored or his friends might say something that perjudicaría o molestarte.

As much as you love him and want to spend time with him, it’s important that you give him space to breathe.

Pasar cada minuto de vuestro tiempo juntos sólo conseguirá que ambos os hartéis el uno del otro y que haya discusiones innecesarias porque ninguno de los dos ha tenido tiempo de desahogarse.

And trust me, that’s time important to you as much as it is to him, which leads us to the next number.

Disfrutar de la vida fuera de la relación

It’s important for him to see that you’re not depending on him, that you are perfectly fine on your own.

It will make him curious about your time, the life you’re leading outside the relationship.

Take up a new hobby and make new friends who are not connected with your life and who don’t know your partner.

It will be a great opportunity for you to find a way to enjoy yourself more, to talk about things outside the ones you’re always discussing with him and your friends.

Encontrará algo nuevo en lo que complacerse y podría despertar la pasión y encender el fuego que lleva dentro.

No más excusas

Ponerle excusasCada vez que se equivoque y cada vez que te haga daño, sólo le hará creer que puede darte por sentada.

Stop tolerating his shitty behavior if there is any, because it won’t get any better if you pretend that it’s not there.

Demuéstrale que tú también tienes sentimientos y que tiene que esforzarse más contigo.

Si te molesta que no te ayude en casa o con los niños, díselo.

If you’re upset about him taking your efforts for granted, tell him. He won’t remember it himself, until it’s too late.

Todas queremos hacer felices a nuestros hombres y a menudo perdonamos demasiadas cosas por amor.

But remember that it’s okay to love yourself, too. That it’s okay to leave if it becomes too much.

That it’s more than okay to demand the respect you deserve. It will either make him give it to you and appreciate you much more thus making him want to be around you more, or he will snap and leave.

Either way, it’s a happy ending. You will get the man you deserve or get rid of the one you don’t.

Muestra iniciativa en el dormitorio

El sexo es importante—not as important like the rest of the things on the list, but it still is.

Sé seductora y vuélvelo loco, tómale el pelo y haz que vuelva a por más.

If you’ve been doing it the same way for months now, switch it up. Get on top and show him who is the boss. Get him on the edge and get off until he begs for you to come back.

Or completely deny him the act itself, but send him texts so dirty that he will lose his mind. Seduce him and play him until he can’t take it anymore.

Show him what he’s really missing out on, and trust me, he will definitely put some effort in keeping you satisfied.

Play different games with him, such as leaving clothes from the doorway to the bedroom so he knows what’s waiting for him once he enters the room.

Or leave him a note that you’re hiding somewhere naked and he gets to do with you what he wants, once he finds you.

Envíale fotos of lingerie and ask him for his opinion on which one you should wear when he gets home, and once he does—wear none of it.

Búrlate de él en público, coquetea con él con mensajes de texto durante cenas de negocios o reuniones familiares.

Demuéstrale que le deseas en ese mismo momento y rétale a que te acepte.

Don’t let him always have things his way

This is not the 16th century anymore. We fought hard to accomplish the things we have today and, damn, we’re still fighting like crazy.

The time when a man’s word was the ultimate law in a relationship is long gone.

Show him that you’re having none of it. He wants you to go to the game with him, but you don’t feel like it?

Si empieza a exigirte que vayas e intenta presionarte para que cedas, déjalo inmediatamente.

Tienes tu propia voluntad y tus propias necesidades. Dile dónde lo quieres.

If you want him to help with the kids, tell him. If you want him under you in bed, push him. He’s not that special to always have things his way.