12 maneras de saber que está a punto de irse para que te vayas tú primero

Most men behave too cowardly when it comes to breaking up with the girl they’re dating, and that’s a fact. They just don’t have the guts to be direct with their partner and tell them that they’re breaking up.

Most of them probably don’t want to hurt their significant other’s feelings but they should be aware that they’ll hurt them even more by trying to push them away or making their partner break up with them.

However, there are some clear signs that can tell you if he’s trying to do that. If you notice any of them, deberías salvar tu dignidad y alejarte de esa relación con la cabeza bien alta.

Se ha vuelto distante de repente

Si su el novio empieza a comportarse distante all of a sudden and without any reason, you should know that something’s up.

Don’t believe him if he tells you that he’s going through a rough patch right now because he’s not. He’s avoiding you just because he wants to make you break up with him.

Con frecuencia te dice que estarías mejor sin él

At the beginning of your relationship, he was always so full of confidence and was constantly telling you how he was the right man for you and how he’d give you everything you deserve.

Now, that’s all gone. He often tells you that you’d probably be better off without him or how you deserve better. Well, if he tells you that you should find another man, you should maybe listen to him.

Empieza a cancelar citas en el último momento

You rarely even make plans to go out on a date and even when you do, he dares to call and cancel it at the last minute. He’ll keep doing that until one day it really annoys you and you decide to break up with him.

Se pelea contigo a propósito por cosas estúpidas e irrelevantes.

Sí, estoy de acuerdo, todos las parejas se pelean y los pequeños desacuerdos son en realidad saludables para tu relación.

Sin embargo, si notas que tu pareja empieza a pelearse incluso por cosas irrelevantes, deberías preguntarte cuál es el verdadero motivo.

Do those stupid little things really bother him or does he fight about it only because he wants to push you away and thinks that by constantly arguing with you, he’ll get rid of you faster?

Ha empezado a comportarse misteriosamente

You always had such a strong bond and a healthy relationship. You were each other’s best friend and romantic partner and you never kept secrets from each other. But now, things have changed.

Su pareja tiene algún secreto o ha empezado a comportarse misteriosamente de repente.

You don’t know where he goes or with whom he spends his time and when you ask him about it, he just changes the subject or simply says that you’re just smothering him.

Evita las conversaciones serias

Cada vez que le pides que tengamos una conversación seria, se inventa alguna excusa y la evita.

Si le preguntas si algo va mal o si hay algún problema en vuestra relación, se calla o, peor aún, intenta cambiar de tema otra vez.

De repente, tiene unas expectativas poco razonables

Todos tenemos unas expectativas de nosotros mismos y también de nuestra relación. Sin embargo, siempre tenemos que prestar atención y mantener esas expectativas reales y razonables.

If your boyfriend has suddenly started making some strange demands of you, you should know that it’s how he wants to push you away.

Ha empezado a evitarte tanto como puede

If he makes lame excuses every time you suggest a date or something or if he’s ignoring you in any way, don’t think that it’s because of something you’ve said or done.

It’s not your fault. You didn’t do anything. His withdrawal is just another technique that he’s using to push you away.

Dejó de incluirte en sus decisiones

You were in a healthy relationship and of course, you were both included in each other’s decision-making processes.

That has also changed. Now, he’s making all decisions by himself without even consulting with you so it seems like all of a sudden, your opinions and feelings aren’t important at all, even though they should be.

El primer momento en que te sientes desatendida por tu pareja es el momento en que tu relación empieza a resentirse.

Ya nunca manda mensajes primero

It’s not that you always still expect him to call or text first but you just can’t understand how a person who wanted to talk to you all day long now doesn’t have time to call you just to check how you are.

If he doesn’t have time for you anymore, not even to text you a simple ‘How are you?’ message, you really should think about the future of your relationship.

He’s just not showing you any affection anymore

He had so many cute romantic nicknames for you before but now, all of that has disappeared. He only calls you by your name, like you’re just two colleagues or acquaintances.

Se acabaron las sorpresas románticas y los regalitos sin motivo. Todo eso ya es pasado, como pronto lo será vuestra relación.

Your gut is telling you that something’s up

You’re a woman and you should always trust your gut. If it’s saying to you that something’s wrong or that your man doesn’t love you the same anymore, you should definitely at least start wondering if that’s true.

Nunca llores ni le ruegues que no te deje. Nunca debes humillarte, ni siquiera por amor.

He’ll realize his loss one day, just like you will understand that walking away from that relationship was your best decision ever.