10 formas dañinas en las que un hombre tóxico te hace sentir

Es natural que te sientas dolido tras una ruptura. Es completamente normal que llores, te sientas mal y lamentes la pérdida de tu pareja sentimental.

However, it is completely different when you’re involved with someone toxic. In fact, this type of man makes you feel more than one damaging emotion and here are 10 of them.

Con el corazón roto

Lo primero que te harán todos los hombres tóxicos que dejes entrar en tu vida es romperte el corazón y dejarte cicatrices imborrables en él.

He will shatter it with every move he makes to the point where you’ll think it is utterly impossible to glue it back together.

Yes, every break-up probably leaves you heartbroken. However, the difference between this man and all the other guys you were ever involved with is that a toxic man won’t only break your heart once you two part ways—he will be doing it throughout your entire relationship.

I’m not saying that you two won’t have any happy moments but I can assure you that sadly, pain will prevail.

He will hurt you in ways you couldn’t have imagined and he will end up crushing your vulnerable heart into a million pieces.

Emocionalmente agotado

Después de pasar algún tiempo junto a una persona tóxica, uno se cansa.

Nevertheless, I’m not talking about physical tiredness here only, even though it is also one of the side effects which you will likely have.

I’m talking about that feeling when you’re emotionally drained and worn out. About losing the will to live and not having the strength to keep on going.

Un hombre tóxico te deja depressed and feeling like you can’t get out of bed. He will make you want to give up on everything you set your mind to.

Verás, un tipo así, las constantes discusiones que provoca y las constantes lágrimas que te hace llorar te agotan hasta el punto de que sólo quieres pasar el resto de tu vida encerrada en tu habitación, con una manta en la cabeza.

You feel like you’re too weak to finish your everyday chores, let alone actually do something with your life.

Insane

¿Estoy exagerando? ¿Sucedió todo realmente como lo recuerdo o me lo estoy imaginando?

¿Soy yo la loca? ¿Me está engañando o he malinterpretado toda nuestra conversación?

If these are some of the questions you’ve been asking yourself lately, you’re on your way to feeling completely insane.

And that is exactly what this guy wants—manipulating you into thinking that you’re the crazy one and making you doubt your own right mind.

Of course, he won’t accomplish all of this right from the start.

However, after a while spent next to him, you will have a tiny voice in your head, telling you that maybe he is right, after all, and that you’re the one making all of a fuss over nothing.

After some time, you’ll start examining your own memory and view of things.

You’ll start doubting yourself and your own reason.

Estúpido

Otra cosa que un hombre tóxico te hará sentir es estúpida.

Besides undermining your intelligence and acting like he is smarter than you and that he always knows better during your relationship, you’ll continue feeling this way even after you break loose from him.

The moment you get out of this toxic romance and the moment you start observing it from a distance, you will be wondering how come you couldn’t have seen some things sooner.

How come you were such a fool who believed in this man’s lies and how could you have thought that he would change?

After going through hell with him, you’ll start questioning all of your choices.

¿Eres lo bastante maduro para dirigir tu propia vida y puedes confiar en tu capacidad de juicio?

No es suficiente

When you’re around a toxic boyfriend, you’re never pretty, smart, beautiful, attractive or interesting enough.

No matter what you do, how hard you try, what big sacrifices you make and how deeply you care for him—nothing you ever do will be good enough.

At first, he tries to ‘improve you’ and ‘for your own good’. His insults are masked by pieces of advice and you don’t notice that he is actually doing his best to humiliate you.

You don’t see how he is constantly treating you like you’re the submissive one.

Cómo actúa siempre como si estuviera por encima de ti y que deberías considerarte afortunada de que un partido como él ponga sus ojos en ti.

Once you realize what is going on, it becomes too late. You’re already dealing with loads of insecurities he managed to deeply root inside of you.

Antes de que te des cuenta, empiezas a cuestionarte tu propia valía y a pensar que tú tampoco eres lo bastante bueno.

After all, you’re doing your best and this man is never pleased so you must be the problem.

Celoso

Cuando te pasas toda la relación comparándote con cada chica que pasa por delante de tu ex y sobre todo con sus ex, es natural que tus celos lleguen al máximo.

When you spend years hearing that all those other girls are better than you and that you could never be like them, it is natural for you to start hating them, without knowing they have nothing to do with the fact that you’re dating a toxic man who is only putting you down with his nasty comments.

When you are being told that you’re replaceable and that you’re nothing special, when you’re cheated on more than once, when every other girl’s looks and qualities have been rubbed in your face, it is natural that your jealousy becomes unhealthy.

When you’re living a hell on earth while watching all of your friends in happy relationships, having the time of their lives, you become envious.

And that is exactly what your toxic partner wants—to turn you into a much worse person than you actually are.

Culpable

Even though you’re the victim of this story, somehow, your toxic boyfriend managed to turn the tables and make you look like the bad guy here.

Even though he is the one who’s treating you like shit, he succeeds in putting all the blame on you.

En lugar de asumir la responsabilidad y respaldar sus acciones, es mucho más fácil para él acusarte a ti de que vuestra relación se esté desmoronando.

Es más fácil hacerte sentir culpable a ti que afrontar la realidad y admitir los dos que él es el único culpable.

If he’s cheating on you, he did it because you deprived him of sex, because you don’t look the way you used to or because this other woman gave him something you couldn’t.

Either way, the bottom line is that you pushed him into someone else’s arms and he would have never thought of having an affair if you hadn’t caused him to.

Si te está maltratando, le has puesto nervioso, le has mirado mal o le has gritado mientras os peleabais. Y la lista sigue y sigue.

Incapaz de amar

Once you’re done with a toxic boyfriend, you’re convinced that you can never love another man the way you loved him.

Crees que ha acabado con tu capacidad de interesarte por alguien del sexo opuesto, de dejar entrar a un chico nuevo o de volver a confiar en nadie.

Not only that—he makes you believe that all other men are just like him.

Que no tiene ningún sentido buscar a alguien mejor porque todos los novios te tratarían aún peor que él.

Por lo tanto, es mucho mejor permanecer en su zona de confort, donde sabe qué esperar.

After all, at least you know you loved this toxic man once and that is better than being with someone you’re totally indifferent toward.

No destinado a ser amado

However, a toxic man won’t only persuade you that you can’t love someone else after him. In fact, he will also do his best to make you believe that no man could ever love you the way he did.

Después de todo, ¿quién querría a su lado a una mujer emocionalmente dañada? ¿Quién tendría la paciencia de esperar a que te abrieras y le dejaras entrar?

¿Qué hombre estaría dispuesto a curar tus heridas y a vivir con tus cicatrices?

¿Qué hombre perdería su tiempo con una mujer que necesita arreglo y que está tan dañada?

Besides, if this guy who’s known you for so long claims that you have so many flaws and if he keeps on pointing out your imperfections, what else could this new man see?

If he can’t tolerate you and if he thinks you’re not enough, every guy who comes into your life will surely consider you as not meant to be loved.

Asustado

Otra emoción que todos los novios tóxicos despiertan en el interior de sus víctimas es el miedo.

And I’m talking here about irrational, paralyzing fear which doesn’t allow you to function properly.

At first, you’re scared of everything this man is capable of. What will he do to you next?

After that, when you take off your rose-tinted glasses, you’re afraid of leaving him. Do you have what it takes to get by without him?

Once you’re done with him, you’re scared of going back to the real world. Will you make it?

You’re afraid of feeling like this forever. Will you ever heal and move on for real?

And finally, you’re scared of moving on. Will your next experience end up the same way this one did?